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How long do you wait? WWYD? Babysitter question.

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In January, DS started going to a babysitter twice a week in January.   Before that, he went to another babysitter once a week for a few months until she ot sick and then he just came to work with me for a while.

He seems to be hating going to the babysitter more and more.  He's also gotten very clingy which is really bothering me since he has always been such an outgoing kid.  He doesn't want to stay at my gym's playroom without me.  (Last two times the girl there told me he cried almost the whole time.)  The gym playroom is also relatively new for him -- we started in December -- but until this new babysitting arrangement, he didn't give a hoot when I left and played happily with the other kids.  (He still likes to play with the other kids as long as I am there.)

This new babysitter I am pretty sure I can trust so I don't think she's doing anything mean to DS.  (I was friends with her daughter in elementary school and she'd take us out from time to time.)  Also, she telle me all about his day whether it was good or bad so I really feel like I know what's going on.

DS did cry when DH would leave BUT I think it got progressively better and he never became clingy at the start.   (The last babysitter was also a family friend but more of a baby person, kwim?)

I just need some perspective on this situation. . .

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  • MrsBeckOMrsBeckO member
    18 months is the peak age for separation anxiety. All sounds pretty age appropriate to me. Hopefully he adjusts soon!
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    Does the babysitter say he is eventually ok after you leave??  if you really trust her and think it isn't just her maybe it's just a seperate issue phase.  Give it a little more time and hope it goes away.  DS did it for a couple weeks in the fall and then he was fine. 
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  • MammaBear81MammaBear81 member
    If i read your ticker properly your DS is around 6 months old?  This is normal for this stage, he is finally realizing when you are around and when you aren't, but his brain isn't sophisticated enough to realize you are coming back.  he thinks, "she's gone forever" until he sees you again.... sorry your DS is having such a hard time, it should get better with time.
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    imageMammaBear81:
    If i read your ticker properly your DS is around 6 months old?  This is normal for this stage, he is finally realizing when you are around and when you aren't, but his brain isn't sophisticated enough to realize you are coming back.  he thinks, "she's gone forever" until he sees you again.... sorry your DS is having such a hard time, it should get better with time.

     

    DS is almost 18 months, not 6 months.  I kept waiting for the separation anxiety to kick in last year but it never did. . .

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    imageMammaBear81:
    If i read your ticker properly your DS is around 6 months old?  This is normal for this stage, he is finally realizing when you are around and when you aren't, but his brain isn't sophisticated enough to realize you are coming back.  he thinks, "she's gone forever" until he sees you again.... sorry your DS is having such a hard time, it should get better with time.

     

    DS is almost 18 months, not 6 months.  I kept waiting for the separation anxiety to kick in last year but it never did. . .

    the "count down tickers" throw me off, sorry... you can still experience separation anxiety at 18 months old, if he hasn't gone through it yet this might be it...

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  • jnealetjnealet member

    Daycare is a fight most days for us, she always says she doesn't want to go.  But then when I pick her up, she doesn't want to leave.  I think its a combo of trouble with transitions and seperation anxiety.

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    imageMammaBear81:
    If i read your ticker properly your DS is around 6 months old?  This is normal for this stage, he is finally realizing when you are around and when you aren't, but his brain isn't sophisticated enough to realize you are coming back.  he thinks, "she's gone forever" until he sees you again.... sorry your DS is having such a hard time, it should get better with time.

     

    DS is almost 18 months, not 6 months.  I kept waiting for the separation anxiety to kick in last year but it never did. . .

    the "count down tickers" throw me off, sorry... you can still experience separation anxiety at 18 months old, if he hasn't gone through it yet this might be it...

    This is very reassuring, actually.  I always thought this was too late for separation anxiety and that we were going to luck out on that one.  Oh well.  :-)  I'm glad to know this could just be coincidentally popping up now and not related to the babysitter.

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