I posted yesterday on another board & the ladies were less than receptive. Honestly, they were down right hateful. I hope this isnt how everyone is on here. I am TTC at 40, I have plenty of friends to talk to but, thought it would be nice to see others outside of my friends experiances. I had to block all of them & then saw later they started a whole nother page to just belittle & be rude to me. I was pretty shocked at such hate.
Happiness & Harmony
Re: First Post did not end well...
I can't really comment on your post directly, as I have no idea what it said or what board it was on. But here are a few pointers, since you're very new:
1. Lurk, lurk, and lurk some more. When you're ready to post, lurk some more. Some boards are very tight-knit, and many have a particular vibe. You may find that it's not the board for you and you don't really want to post there after all.
2. Check to see if there's a FAQ at the top of the board. Many boards get the same question multiple times a day, so they've created FAQs for quick reference.
3. On that note, check to see if your question has been asked inn the last page or 2. Some people get very frustrated answering the same question multiple times a day.
4. Introduce yourself. I liken it to a cocktail party. you don't generally barge into a conversation, you introduce yourself before launching into a discussion.
5. Always start with google before asking a question. A lot of times you can get much more objective information more quickly that way.
6. Have a thick skin. I can tell you I've been flamed (at least minorly) on almost every board I've visited, but I'm still here.
ETA: I saw your post. For one, there was no hatred, except from you stating you were sorry for people's husbands (that's a classic uncool move around here). For another, you did get a lot of helpful questions and did come across as a bebe with no idea what's going on. Which brings me to Rule #7:
7. Never, ever DD a post. The Nest/Bump never forgets, and the claws really come out then because you're considered a coward for not standing up to whatever people throw at you.
Post like a normal person next time and I'm sure things will go fine. Good luck on the 16th.
7. Never, ever DD a post. The Nest/Bump never forgets, and the claws really come out then because you're considered a coward for not standing up to whatever people throw at you.
I am new to this board as well.....What does this mean....DD = dirty delete. Some people delete a post because they want feedback on sensitive info, and they'll even let people know they're going to delete after a time. And that's fine. But a lot of people delete a post because people disagree with them or they don't like the answers they're getting. And people will notice.
Definitely agree with all of Dr.Loretta's pointers and obviously from her experience on here she's a pro on these boards!
I'm a big lurker and I search for previous posts of topics that I'm interested.
Best of luck TTC at 40. I also stick to my birth month board and local board, easier since we're in the same situations.
So maybe stick around TTC after 35, TTC, etc.
And - don't worry if they're tough on you! It's just a community board - don't take it personally.
Well, I didnt end with the DD until I was attacked, and I didnt become rude til again I was spoken to rude. And Yes I did block them cause that is not why I came here. I have been lurking.. No worries .. but I will say this who starts another thread just to make fun of me? Is this high school? I mean I have a little trouble with you defending people who act like that. .. Whatever it doesnt matter just was coming here to have friendly conversations with like minded people. Not to be made fun of & all that. Seems like the people who live on the boards have a lil click & enjoy ganging up. That was my experiance. I hope it wont be in the future I will take your advice.
You being "attacked" aside, you DDing the thread just made the whole situation worse. It is frowned upon on every board on this site. It is like going to ask someone to play baseball and then taking your ball and stomping off because someone said you were out and you thought you were safe. You asked a question and didn't get the responses you wanted so you get huffy and DD. Do you desrved to be attacked? No. But does that mean it is OK for you to do it back?
Do you see the irony in this post and what you are complaing about? You are upset that people were rude/calling you out and making another post about you, yet you some to another board (here) and complain about them.
I know you have me blocked but just in case...
You... are a douchebag....
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
I don't even know what you posted about or on what board you posted. Way to go making assumptions.
No, you didn't call them trainwrecks. Instead you come to another board and start calling everyone rude and accuse them of attacking you. Calling someone rude is namecalling.
Like I said.... agree to disagree... Or do you want to keep rehashing something you had nothing to do with?
You clearly don't get it. If you don't want people rehashing what they didn't have anything to do with, don't post on a Newbie board about your experience, have people find out what happened, and give their opinion.
I'm sure you'll be gone soon. Nice meeting you.
Chart/Blog
Nothing breeds faster than Crazy
Age =/= educated.
LOL....oops, I guess she can see this now
Chart/Blog
Nothing breeds faster than Crazy
And now you've broken another Bump rule by creating an AE to agree with yourself.
I swear, you should be the poster child for What Not to Do on The Bump
Just a question... where does one read these "rules" since I'm sure pretty much everyone would like to know how to get along with other moms/moms-to-be. Not to mention, plenty of posts get lost in translation because unfortunately when you're typing a response, other people may not comprehend it as joking, etc.
Seriously, is there some type of "Bump Etiquette"?
See my original response to this post.
Seriously, it's mostly common sense. Lurk, be clear in your postings, don't wade in where you don't belong, know your audience, etc. Basic social interactions.