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nicolesspirit
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Fostering teenage girl anyone have experience?.
nicolesspirit
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in Adoption
Hello, new to the board. We are in the middle of our Pride classes and we went in with the intention to foster teenage girls (mainly for the family dynamic and ability for their opportunities). We have young children obviously but my brother and sister are 15 and 17 and come over frequently as well as some local teen girls that rather hang out here than at home. We know that being responsible for a girl is much different than one that is visiting but I was wondering if anyone grew up with foster teenagers or has done it them selves what is your advice and or opinions. Thank you.
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Re: Fostering teenage girl anyone have experience?.
I don't have experience with this, but suggest you speak to someone at your agency/child services about your intent. Generally, adoption and foster professionals advise against placing older children in a home where young children currently live. Not only can it bring up all sorts of "birth order/rite" issues, it's not uncommon for children who have lived through trauma to act out similar violent or aggressive behavior on the younger children in the home.
We have.
We had a 16 yr old girl for 9 months. It was a very interesting experience. She was native american which added an extra layer of interestingness to the picture (Native culture is so different from cc. not right or wrong- just different.)
as pp mentioned- make sure your worker knows your intrest. our placement would of been fine with younger kids- she totally would of tried to parent them- and pouted that they were getting more attention than her, but it would of worked. However if you get placed with a SA victim that acts out against your kids- thats another story...
Are you going thru the county or a agency? We're with an agency, and I feel like we get more say in what child comes into our house. We also aren't taking kids straigt from their birth family- they've been in care for a little bit and there is a bit of a picture of what their like.
Also- a consideration- what's your bedroom situation? will the teens have a seperate room? (We're currently considering a 14yr old girl. but she will have to share a room with our 8 yr old dd.) Not that sharing won't work but its something to think about.
Not sure if my rambelings make any sense tonight. I'm tired and have a head cold. Let me know if you have any specific questions or need clarification.