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DH doesn't want me to co-sleep!

Soon2BeJLKSoon2BeJLK
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DH is afraid of accidents happening if I bring DS to sleep with me. There are nights when he wakes up and just will NOT go back to sleep..it takes at least an hour to get him back out and sometimes by that point it's pointless for me to go to sleep because it's close to wake up time for me. Well rested Mommy makes for happier Mommy! He doesn't get it.

 Anyone else's DH not like you to co-sleep?

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Re: DH doesn't want me to co-sleep!

  • chalmettechalmette
    Mine hates it, too. He _bitches about it every night. I just ignore him. I coslept with our oldest, too, and he is a very secure toddler now. We moved him to his crib when he discovered he could crawl to the end of the bed and get down (about 6 mos old).
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  • middlemarch26middlemarch26 member
    Wake your DH up for a few nights and have HIM try to put your DS back to sleep for an hour.
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  • mrsfasolamrsfasola

    Is there a specific reason why your DH doesn't like to co-sleep??

    Sorry your DH doesn't get it. I'm lucky that DH loves co-sleeping. He likes being able to get to DS the second he wakes up instead of waking up when he's already screaming through the monitor.

    Have you looked at any sleep positioners? That might make your DH more comfortable about it if he's worried about it for safety reasons.

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  • GEGE
    dh was super paranoid about me bfeeding ds in bed and then letting him stay there and sleep.  I was paranoid too so we stopped doing that about 2 weeks ago.  It's actually better because I have to wake up more to feed ds that way I can ensure he gets a full feeding and then he'll go back to sleep in his bassinet for longer.
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  • MattsWifey<3MattsWifey<3

    DH isn't in love with the idea so we found some common ground... we still co-sleep.

    DD goes to bed in her crib. DH and I spend time together (watch TV, have a beer, have sex, etc.) When it's time to go to bed, DD is usually waking up to eat again so at that point I get her and we go to sleep in our bed.

     

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  • wishin&hopin2008wishin&hopin2008 member
    I would tell him, "OK, you get up with the baby then."  He will stop really soon after that.  If you BF, leave a bottle for him of breast milk.
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  • Soon2BeJLKSoon2BeJLK
    He works the midnight shift, so he's not there at night but I have a guilty conscious if I co-sleep and he doesn't know about it. I should bother him on his days off to go get the baby and feed him and see how he likes being up with a screaming child for at least an hour. I'm too nice..I see this now!
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  • Mrs.Wheeler06Mrs.Wheeler06
    We don't co-sleep at night because he has been sleeping for 8 hours straight everynight but when he wakes up in the morning at 6 I put him in my bed and he goes right back to sleep next to me for 2 more hours. I love it! 
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  • crackerjackprintercrackerjackprinter
    My advice would be to research it, find some books on it that tell you how to do it safest, and have DH read them.  Once he knows how to make it safe, he may change his mind.  I understand his hesitation, but since he's not around it is really up to you.  It is still a good idea to help him understand though.  Dr. Sears is a big proponent of bed sharing, so start there.  GL!
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  • thaxmomthaxmom
    DH isn't a big fan of co-sleeping because DS and I hog the bed.  :)  He's also worried about SIDS, which I understand.
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