With three weeks to go my DH keeps inviting tons of people over (mainly his friends) despite my not feeling too social. I'm exhausted and just want to sit around and be pregnant, big and tired. The people he is inviting over requires me to be dressed up and "on" in a social sense. So, do you all think I am being irrational or would you be irritated too?
Re: DH keeps inviting people over
Thalia Kathryn
Oh hell no, you are totally in the right!! I get so annoyed when DH's friends stop by because it means i have to put a bra on, lol! Let alone "dress up". His friends and family have a VERY bad habit of stopping by without calling. This happens at least 2-3 times a week despite us asking every single time they do it to please call in advance. Or they will call and one of us won't pick up and they will come over 5 mins later!!!!
I love how close his family and friends are but sometimes hate that we live within 5 miles of 20 family members and almost every single friend he has. My family and friends are all spread out so no one ever just stops by without calling.
Plus when they are at your house, you can't escape anywhere! I feel bad for you. He isn't going to do that to you after the baby comes is he?
This. Just because I'm feeling huge and uncomfortable doesn't mean he should have to give up social interaction.
I would tell him no more people over for a while. I'm would not be hiding up in my room so he can keep up his social life. I want to sit around my house in my muu-muu and not smile and try to be nice to people. He would get over it, it's not a huge sacrfice for him at this point!
I would be irritated as well. Just let him know how you are feeling, and suggest that he get together with his friends at one of their homes, or go out with them to a restaurant or to play pool or something that gives you quiet, alone time to relax and not have to entertain anyone.
If your DH is anything like mine, the suggestion of entertaining them himself just wouldn't work- he'd bring them to our messy home, and I'd feel the need to clean up and entertain them anyway.