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Success after IF
I don't know how this happened...
but we have evolved into a full time co-sleeping situation.
OK, I do know how it happened. It started out just in the early mornings, and progressed to more and more time.
I work out at night and DH goes to bed with her. He was putting her in her cradle, but she would wake up within an hour while I would still be working out, and to save sleep (he has to work in the morning) he would just bring her to bed with him.
When I was done, I would move her back to her cradle.
Well now, to save the hassle in an hour, DH is just bringing her straight to bed. She is completely deswaddled now and wakes up easier, and has been waking up completely when I try to move her, so I just leave her in bed and we all sleep better.
Crap. As much as I love being so close at night and the nursing convenience, I do miss my bed only with my husband, for lots of reasons 
What do I do? She won't sleep by herself now.
p.s. I just got the No-cry Sleep Solution in the mail. Will that help?
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Re: I don't know how this happened...
Ugh, I know how you feel except these babies are WAY too young to be sleep trained.
I can tell you with Ella at 6 months she was out of our bed after being in it since she was born, we did Ferber for 2 nights and she slept through the night on night 3 and has ever since:)
We were co-sleeping half out of want and the other out of necessity. The kid just wouldn't sleep anywhere else and we were tiiiiired.
I loved the NCSS, even if you dont employ every part of it, there are things you can pull out and use on their own.
We go back and forth. She slept in her crib from birth and did pretty well for a while. Then she started waking up and refusing to go back to sleep.
We did Ferber and sleep trained her and she took a few days but started sleeping through the night again. Awesome. Now we''ve started daycare... and she's back in our bed starting around 3 or 3:30 am. Sigh.
She seems to want to eat at that point, and just won't go back to sleep. It sucks. Since I need to work (and get up at 5 am so I can leave by 6:30-6:45) I can't just let her cry... I can't sleep through it and would be a zombie.
We did Ferber with Caroline at 10 months, and honestly, it worked like a dream.
She cried for a few minutes that first night, and the second night, we put her in her crib and she rolled over and went to sleep. She does that every single night and every single nap now, and it has saved my life, my sanity and my marriage.
I am a huge, huge, huge fan of Dr. Ferber.
I read the NCSS and liked a lot of what it said. It has definitely helped us accept what DD's sleep habits are. She stays up far later than most toddlers and sleeps far later in the morning...10-10 usually...it works fine for us because she doesn't go to daycare. But, as far as getting her out of our bed? No. But I'll be honest, for me and my DH bed-sharing wasn't and isn't horrible or something we wanted to necessarily put an end to. Much like your DH, my DH is all about getting DD to sleep and if she falls asleep better and more quickly in our bed then great, so be it. I tend to have a live and let live attitude with sleep and babies, I'm not one that believes they need to be trained to sleep. They are individuals and as long as DD's overall sleep needs are being met then I'm happy.
One thing that's helped us now, and it's only because DD has become more independent, is converting her crib to a toddler bed. She really likes to go lay down in her bed and will nap in there and fall asleep in there on her own every once in a while. I think as she gets older this will become a trend and we will certainly encourage it.
i read the no-cry sleep solution--it's a good book, but that author's bias is that co-sleeping is good, so it might not be the greatest book for this particular problem.
hope things get easier soon!
And ps. I NEVER thought I would cosleep. I was so against it. Then I actually had kids and, well, if it's the only way you can get any sleep, your opinions change . . .