worried that it will happen again

jen1721 · February 2011

My husband and I have decided that we are ready to TTC again after our first loss at 9 weeks 4 days. I'm excited at the prospect of becoming pregnant again, but terrified that the next pregnancy will have the same outcome as the last. How is everyone else dealing with this fear??

mundayem · February 2011

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I'm just trying not to think about it too much. It's always there in the back of my mind but I'm just trying to stay postive that the next one will go well.

carrieandtim · February 2011

We are trying to conceive after our 2nd loss -- and we are nervous as well. For my DH and I, every day is a battle to remember that God has an amazing plan for us and to trust Him. We pray and seek out verses to encourage us on this journey. I also know that we desire to have our take home baby and there is only one way to do that (biologically speaking)!

It is very difficult road to be on...T&Ps to you as you begin the TTCAL process!

sabrina69barnes · February 2011

We are going to start TTC after my 4th loss as soon I have get AF, though I have had two successful pregnancies. Some days I really don't cope with my fear very well. Not only do I have fears about having another early loss like I had in the past but I also have fears of having a late loss as well. I have to remind myself that whatever is going to happen will happen and I can't control it. I also have to keep reminding myself that I have survied my other losses and my life went on. If it happens again I'll survive it again.

jertie · February 2011

I think this is something we all deal with - and it is scary. (Heck - even if you check out PgAL, you still see posts there from scared ladies.) It is a possibility, but I try to think about the potential benefits rather than the risks of another loss. And if I ever do get pg again, I plan on adopting the mantra "I am pregnant today and I love my baby."

tdmd09 · February 2011

I try to take one day at a time. I'm very scared of having another loss, but I also want us to have a child, and I can't accomplish that without taking the risk. I think I'll always be worried, but I feel like I need to remain positive as much as I can.

jenrdh01 · February 2011

We, too are trying after two losses...My advice/support is to take it one day at a time. Talk with you DH. Pray and try to have Faith. God does have a plan and it's more amazing than we can dream. (At least that is what I am hoping for!)

((hugs)) and don't forget! These ladies here are a great support system!

jen1721 · February 2011

Thanks for the positive thoughts ladies! I guess there is really no getting around the fear, but next time around I will definitely be adopting jertie's mantra "I am pregnant today and I love my baby." It also helps that my husband is the eternal optimist. Praying for sticky baby dust for all of you the next time around. Guess I should stop procrastinating now and get back to marking my student's report cards. Exciting way to spend a Saturday night I know! T&P for you all.

ColleenS629 · February 2011

For me, the worry didn't go away yet, but it's slowly being overcome by the worry that I'll never even get pregnant again. I'm sure that once I (hopefully) do get a BFP, that the fear of m/c will get stronger again, but right now, I'm more worried that I'll never even get to that point.

buckeyebaby814 · February 2011

I too, worry about this happening again. My husband and I talked about it and we're just gonna leave it in God's hands. Of course I worried about why I miscarried (although I have no idea), so I am dillegent on taking my prenatals, no more wine, my husband has even quit smoking (finally Big Smile

). I am trying to do everything "right" (even though I know we all are) this time whereas last time, my pregnancy was a surprise and I had a couple glasses of wine when I thought I had gotten my period (was actually my implantation bleeding I'm guessing.) Honestly, it makes me nervous to even do BD, but I just try to push it out and think about the things/people in my life I have been blessed with. Best of luck in finding your way friend, T&P Smile

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