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Babies: 6 - 9 Months
Anyone else sometimes worry about raising kids right?
I sometimes worry that I won't be a good enough mom - anyone else?
My parents raised 3 kids. Two of us are married, each with 1 child. The third has been in a longterm relationship for years. We all have steady, good jobs. We got good grades in school, all went on to university/college. None of us have ever been in trouble with the law, or were ever suspended from school. We didn't smoke, do drugs, and only had the occasional drink as a teen. We don't have alcohol, gambling or money problems (just the normal debt that most people have obviously). Not trying to brag, but I feel the 3 of us turned out pretty well.
Sometimes, I feel this enormous pressure and feel like I won't measure up and raise DD (and any future kids) as good. I'll obviously do my best, but I worry that my best won't be good enough.
Tell me I'm not alone in feeling this way.
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Re: Anyone else sometimes worry about raising kids right?
I think the fact that you're concerned about how you're raising your child and if you're doing the right things probably means that you are a responsible, wonderful parent. I think people who don't raise their children "right" are the people who put themselves first, rather than their child. I bet you're a great mom!
My parents were awesome parents. If anything, I feel worried sometimes about being as great as they were. DH and I are very different people are were raised in VERY different ways. We both want to raise DS as I was raised, but lets face it- he wasn't there to experience how I was parented and his model was really not a model at all.
I worry about this constantly. I didn?t have the best childhood growing up. I went through rough spots in my life (as well as DH). We always talk about how afraid we are of Noah doing some of the stupid things we did. However, I think DH and I both plan on doing things almost completely different than our parents did.
Yes, I worry about raising her right. I do think that a lot of how kids turn out depends on their personality, but I want to do the best by her.
That being said, I know I'm going to do things wrong and make some mistakes. Heck, I try to give my kid JUICE of all god-forsaken things
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I agree with PP that if you aren't worried there will be trouble. Being concerned shows that you care about your child's future. My mom got me a book called "Parenting Solutions" by Michele Borba and I've only read the intro but there's a lot of good info in there. Not that I'll raise my child by a book but it offers different approaches to different situations.
I couldn't agree with you more doremi. Growing up I was kind of the parent to my father after my grandmother passed away. I haven't spoken to my mother in about 16 years because she among many other things, chose alcohol over having a family. So, it is even more important to me to be an excellent mother and role model for my DD. And as doremi said, I think it is only natural to constantly worry whether we are doing the right things as parents.