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Rough day (preg. mentioned/vent/long)

I was supposed to go to work today for 3 hours and I ended up staying all day. It was bad enough that it was supposed to be my day off and I was there, but I spent all day having to fix other poeples mistakes.  While I was trying to make the most of having to be at work, I started talking to my manager about how my ovary was still hurting and what we thought could be causing it.  At this time my pregnant coworker comes over and over and starts talking about how she hurts all over but that is just because of the baby.  I was trying to ignore her rant and then I heard her say "Well I am going to get my ultrasound next week and find out the sex of my baby.  Too bad you lost your baby I bet you would have liked to at least hear the heart beat once."  If I could have hit her, I would have!  I went to the back and cried in the bathroom.  I can't believe she would ever say that!

About 15 minutes after I came out, I had two heartbreaking customers in a row.  #1 talked to me about her failing cancer battle and #2 broke down crying because her son died in Iraq a year ago.  I know I am lucky that my customers let me in their lives, but sometimes it is so hard.  I think #2 cried together for at least  5 minutes.  At that point, I felt so numb.  I just want through the motions and got out of there as soon as I could.  I hate that bad things happen to good people.  

I want work to be an escape from all of this... instead it seems to be a constant reminder.

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  • Wow I CANNOT believe she said that. smh

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  • ummm can you please give me her name so I can hit her for you!??! I'm so sorry. 
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  • I love it.  We all can be in a throat punching posse!! 
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    ummm can you please give me her name so I can hit her for you!??! I'm so sorry. 

    I'll give you a name, work address and schedule  

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  • Are you KIDDING ME?!?!?!  I can't believe that woman!!!  She is a heartless B!!!  I'm so sorry. 

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  • Big huge ((hugs)) hun, my heart broke for you just reading your co-workers comment.  I'm sorry you had such a bad day and I wish people weren't such A-holes today.

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  • Whoa buddy. Back up the bus. She deserved a hit. And a kick. And I would have done it. Job? What job? Lemme at her, lemme at her!!! UGH PEOPLE ARE SO DUMB!!!!

    Big hugs. I can barely hold back my tears for you. <3

  • Wow. I am so sorry she said that, that is horrendous. And extra sad to hear from those two customers. What a day! (((HUGS)))
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  • I am so sorry.  I can't believe someone said something so cruel and heartless to you.  I would not have been able to keep from going off on her.  You are a better person than I am.  {{hugs}}
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    I love it.  We all can be in a throat punching posse!! 

    I'm in! 

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  • Wow, I cannot beleive she said that. I will jump on the throat punching bandwagon! Sorry you had a rough day!
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  • ((big hugs)) I'm sorry you had sadness (customers) and sh!t (coirker) flung at you from every direction.

    I'd like to vag punch your pg coworker Angry

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  • That is awful.  I can't believe she would say something like that.  I am so sorry you had to go through that.  ((big HUGS))
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  • I know I'm a little late in responding but I'll join the posse.  I don't care if that beotch is pregnant.  LIke pp said, she needs a throat punch!! 

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