Baby Registry Drama :(

bunnymama625 · January 2011

First of all, I am so excited for my baby shower-- my mom is hosting and cooking, my sister and niece are driving 4 hours to be there-- I can't wait to see everyone

However, the baby registry seems to be causing some unintentional drama... and I'm a little worried it's going to drag out past the baby's birth.

We registered at BRU, everything from $2 pacifier to the crazy expensive stroller I would be shocked if anyone bought us. My mother has always been a little anti-registry (long story), but she noted on the invitation "wish list is at BRU"-- which I thought was a nice way to put it.

But now I've been told by at least 5 different people that they don't intend to even look at the registry, let alone buy anything off of it, and I'm kind of confused as to what to do.

Now I could care less if someone buys us a different outfit or pacifier than the one we picked out-- we have NOTHING as it's a first baby and DH has been unemployed for over a year-- we are grateful for anything we get- but some of the things we registered for were for a reason.

DH has extremely sensitive skin-- we found an inexpensive baby product line that doesn't seem to bother him, but J&J products give him an instant rash. We are going with cloth diapers and g diapers for the same reason (we were both sensitive bummed babies and expect this one to be as well).We also live in a tiny 2 room apartment, so we didn't register for many toys/decorations b/c we truly don't have anyplace to put them.

All in all, we registered for a lot of small organic stuff, and while we are happy to get any gifts, I'm not going can't use something that will make DH break out in a rash, or trip over 50 toys we can't fit anyplace.

What is the etiquette on this? DH thinks we should not say a word and return anything we can't use- my mother thinks this is horribly rude and favors shoving it in a box and quietly disposing of it in a few years. I don't want to see ungrateful, but we registered for certain things for a reason- what should I do when the inevitable mountain of pampers and Desitin appears?

pam1005 · January 2011

Return/exchange anything you can to BRU (add the items to your registry and mark them as doubles if you don't get a gift receipt) or sell as much as you can on craigslist. You don't HAVE to use anything you are given. Just write a thank you and express your gratitude, even if you plan on returning it.

FirefightersWife01 · January 2011

Most people will include a gift receipt, so anything you don't need/want you should return/exchange for something you would actually use.

Corts · January 2011

It's so sad

The only one creating drama is you, IMO. Buy your owns stuff & a bigger place. HTH.

danilynn17 · January 2011

elisamariaortiz:
We registered at BRU, ... to the crazy expensive stroller I would be shocked if anyone bought us. ....
we have NOTHING as it's a first baby and DH has been unemployed for over a year-- we are grateful for anything we get- but some of the things we registered for were for a reason.
...

So your husband is unemployed and you really need baby stuff, but you register for a ridiculously expensive stroller? Really? I can't feel that bad for you if you husband is unemployed, you live in a tiny apartment, and yet you still register for a crazy expensive stroller instead of something more sensible and that costs less.

What exactly was the reason for a crazy expensive stroller?

bekah22587@hotmail.com · January 2011

danilynn17:
elisamariaortiz:

We registered at BRU, ... to the crazy expensive stroller I would be shocked if anyone bought us. ....

...

So your husband is unemployed and you really need baby stuff, but you register for a ridiculously expensive stroller? Really? I can't feel that bad for you if you husband is unemployed, you live in a tiny apartment, and yet you still register for a crazy expensive stroller instead of something more sensible and that costs less.

What exactly was the reason for a crazy expensive stroller?

She said she didnt expect anyone to get it for her but you never know. I registered for a 1,200 stroller at BBB figuring no one would get it for us but my bunko group went in and got it for me bc they knew i really wanted it. I had 3 large(100+) showers so i had to put a LOT of stuff on my registry so everyone would have something to pick from.

OP if you dont like/cant use something just return/exchange.

Yellow_Daisy · January 2011

Unfortunately registries are just a wish list, albiet a wish list of what you actually want, but a wish list none the less. People aren't required to shop off them so you will just have to go through what you get and figure out what you can return and what you can sell.

Keeping things in a box that you have no intention of ever using is stupid, don't do that. I personally would much rather someone return a gift I got them for something they want/need than stuff it in a box because they didn't like/want it.

On a side note people and registries really confound me. When I talk to friends who don't shop off registries they say they do it because they want to get the person something special. I always have an internal chuckle because the person has made you a list of what they really want/need and they think the person would rather have something special that they come up with, when most of the time the something special they come up with ends up getting returned or going unused. So dumb IMHO, but you can't dictate what people do with their own money.

Anywho don't say a word, be gracious and return what you can later.

bunnymama625 · January 2011

danilyn-- Wow-- well, we registered for 3 things over $100- the stroller was one- since we live in a city and don't have a car, a stroller is something we will use every day- we thought if a bunch of people wanted to get together to get it, that would be great, but if not, we'll figure it out on our own- the vast majority (like 90%) of our list is under $40- in fact, a lot is under $10, and consists of bottles, etc- things we would need.

corts--- we live in NYC-- bigger apartments aren't just something you can switch to whenever- you must live in a really great area if that's a possibility for you. As for buying our own stuff, we've already saved up for the essentials, and I scour Craigslist every day for anything we can find.

For the rest of you-- thank you-- sounds like returning things isn't as rude as I'd worried I just didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings but wasn't sure of the best way to handle it. Thanks!

lisa5201 · January 2011

Your gonna get tons and tons of crap you will never ever need or want.

Nothing you can do about it but smile and write a nice thank you note

Then return everything and buy the stuff you want

That's what I did, waddled into loads of different stores carrying a truckload of baby crap with no gift receipts or any idea where they came from. Most stores in my experience will be kind to a hugely pregnant lady armed with pampers and polyester pajama sets

Anything you can't return you can consign at a children's consignment place. I'm sure there's some in your general area.

Temp38995750004016 · January 2011

pam1005:
Return/exchange anything you can to BRU (add the items to your registry and mark them as doubles if you don't get a gift receipt) or sell as much as you can on craigslist. You don't HAVE to use anything you are given. Just write a thank you and express your gratitude, even if you plan on returning it.

This, totally.

And I highly doubt her ridiculously expensive stroller was jaw-dropping. The most expensive my BRU had was just a few hundred dollars. Someone may purchase it for her.

akayf · January 2011

danilynn17:
elisamariaortiz:
We registered at BRU, ... to the crazy expensive stroller I would be shocked if anyone bought us. ....
we have NOTHING as it's a first baby and DH has been unemployed for over a year-- we are grateful for anything we get- but some of the things we registered for were for a reason.
...
So your husband is unemployed and you really need baby stuff, but you register for a ridiculously expensive stroller? Really? I can't feel that bad for you if you husband is unemployed, you live in a tiny apartment, and yet you still register for a crazy expensive stroller instead of something more sensible and that costs less.
What exactly was the reason for a crazy expensive stroller?

People have different ideas of what crazy expensive means. Some people think that $150 stroller is crazy expensive. I saw a post once that asked what stroller would you get if money were no object. Most people wanted an Uppa Baby Vista or a Bugaboo. But I remember at least 1 person said a simple Graco travel system.

To the OP-return what you can't use. Despite what your mom says, it is not rude. Just smile when you get it and write a sweet thank you note. They don't need to know that you are going to return it.

Jennis22 · January 2011

danilynn17:

So your husband is unemployed and you really need baby stuff, but you register for a ridiculously expensive stroller? Really? I can't feel that bad for you if you husband is unemployed, you live in a tiny apartment, and yet you still register for a crazy expensive stroller instead of something more sensible and that costs less.
What exactly was the reason for a crazy expensive stroller?

Wow, that's uncalled for. Maybe you can judge me next! I was unaware that job status or square footage determines what type of items someone deserves to register for so I registered for not one but TWO "crazy expensive" items. I guess I have to go delete them now and register for some extra onesies or something...right?

OctoberCAPA · January 2011

I see nothing wrong with returning/exchanging things you can't or won't use. Smile when you receive it, write a nice thank you note, and then don't let anyone make you feel guilty for switching stuff out for what you'll actually use.

And those judgey-mcjudgerson posts....totally uncalled for.

OctGirl80 · January 2011

Be prepared to get very little from your registry, just in case. I had a bunch of items and tons of clothes given to me by my sister so my registry was 90% small stuff. (we are planning to cd for similar reasons). I got 4 things off my registry, a few random gifts and the rest was clothes. Today I am mailing my thank you cards and going to Target to return what I can. Like pp said, I'd rather someone returned and got what they wanted, than have the gift sit in a box.

jessicadw · January 2011

We've had 2 showers and received very little from our registries. People just wanted to buy what they like and seemed to ignore stuff that didn't seem "fun" (bottles, pacifiers, diaper rash cream, etc.). We were overwhelmed by everyone's generosity no matter what they bought.

We received 20 receiving blankets, 30 bibs, 40 wash clothes, 15 hooded towels, etc. and didn't register for 90% of what we were given. I figured out where they came from by browsing some local stores and then returned most of them for store credit. We got a lot of Gerber and Carter's brand items which are sold in many different stores, so returns were a breeze and we used the store credit to buy the boring stuff.

PunkyBooster · January 2011

This post gets a big Hmm from me.

pregaftertubal · January 2011

OctoberCAPA:

I see nothing wrong with returning/exchanging things you can't or won't use. Smile when you receive it, write a nice thank you note, and then don't let anyone make you feel guilty for switching stuff out for what you'll actually use.

And those judgey-mcjudgerson posts....totally uncalled for.

i agree! i would much rather someone return my purchase and USE what they buy then to have it stored away not to be opened. it is absolutely not rude to exchange. and besides, how would they know?

Corts · January 2011

Just wondering...how does someone "complain" about lack of useful gifts before even having their baby shower yet?

FYI, you can always put a note on your BRU registry worded like this...

"due to parents skin sensitivities, some of the items below are brand-specific".

That will point out the issue without sounding like "gimee gimee".

HTH

snshine23 · January 2011

pregaftertubal:
OctoberCAPA:

I see nothing wrong with returning/exchanging things you can't or won't use. Smile when you receive it, write a nice thank you note, and then don't let anyone make you feel guilty for switching stuff out for what you'll actually use.

And those judgey-mcjudgerson posts....totally uncalled for.

i agree! i would much rather someone return my purchase and USE what they buy then to have it stored away not to be opened. it is absolutely not rude to exchange. and besides, how would they know?

I was wondering this too. If you get something you don't like/will use, just return/exchange it. Be thankful to the gift giver, but they don't need to know you won't use their gift.

pammeelala · January 2011

I agree there is no reason any one needs to know what they gave you was returned. So much of it is duplicates, or the newborn stuff that no one would see the baby in anyway, who would know the difference. As to the expensive stuff on the registry, who cares? Some times people like to pitch in together with a group of family and friends to get the bigger things that they know you want/need. Plus, at BRU, they give you a discount at the end of your pregnancy on anything still on your registry. That, added to any store credit you get from returns, will allow you to buy the big things that weren't purchased. FI and I put the stroller/car seat combo we want on there ($160) and the crib we want ($400) as well as the glider ottoman combo ($700) fully expecting nobody to purchase them for us, but so that we can have the discount on them at the end.

Corts · January 2011

pammeelala:
I agree there is no reason any one needs to know what they gave you was returned. So much of it is duplicates, or the newborn stuff that no one would see the baby in anyway, who would know the difference. As to the expensive stuff on the registry, who cares? Some times people like to pitch in together with a group of family and friends to get the bigger things that they know you want/need. Plus, at BRU, they give you a discount at the end of your pregnancy on anything still on your registry. That, added to any store credit you get from returns, will allow you to buy the big things that weren't purchased. FI and I put the stroller/car seat combo we want on there ($160) and the crib we want ($400) as well as the glider ottoman combo ($700) fully expecting nobody to purchase them for us, but so that we can have the discount on them at the end.

Umm...ok. Good luck NOT looking greedy & selfish.

BTW, many people don't know about the BRU completion coupon. They will just assume that you actually want people to buy you that stuff. Since I get a 20% off BRU coupon weekly in the Sunday paper, I can't imagine that a coupon is that hard to come buy.

If I put a $700 glider on my registry, I would fully expect my family to talk sh*t about me for 10 years.

Temp38995750004016 · January 2011

Corts:

pammeelala:
I agree there is no reason any one needs to know what they gave you was returned. So much of it is duplicates, or the newborn stuff that no one would see the baby in anyway, who would know the difference. As to the expensive stuff on the registry, who cares? Some times people like to pitch in together with a group of family and friends to get the bigger things that they know you want/need. Plus, at BRU, they give you a discount at the end of your pregnancy on anything still on your registry. That, added to any store credit you get from returns, will allow you to buy the big things that weren't purchased. FI and I put the stroller/car seat combo we want on there ($160) and the crib we want ($400) as well as the glider ottoman combo ($700) fully expecting nobody to purchase them for us, but so that we can have the discount on them at the end.

Umm...ok. Good luck NOT looking greedy & selfish.

BTW, many people don't know about the BRU completion coupon. They will just assume that you actually want people to buy you that stuff. Since I get a 20% off BRU coupon weekly in the Sunday paper, I can't imagine that a coupon is that hard to come buy.

If I put a $700 glider on my registry, I would fully expect my family to talk sh*t about me for 10 years.

You have to be kidding...

I've seen tons of VERY expensive stuff on registries, I don't bat an eye at it. I figure that they may get it as a gift from their parents, someone else OR that they'll eventually use gift cards toward the expensive stuff. I don't think it looks greedy or selfish. I have a $ amount I want to spend on gifts, I just ignore the things not in that range. I can't really imagine judging a friend or family member because of their baby registry.

We put a couple of $500 items on our wedding registry and guess what? People bought them for us!!! If we hadn't put them on there, we would have been buying them ourselves.

FWIW, I don't find $160 for a stroller to be a big deal at all. Two people could go in together and get that for her.

Temp38995750004016 · January 2011

Corts:

pammeelala:
I agree there is no reason any one needs to know what they gave you was returned. So much of it is duplicates, or the newborn stuff that no one would see the baby in anyway, who would know the difference. As to the expensive stuff on the registry, who cares? Some times people like to pitch in together with a group of family and friends to get the bigger things that they know you want/need. Plus, at BRU, they give you a discount at the end of your pregnancy on anything still on your registry. That, added to any store credit you get from returns, will allow you to buy the big things that weren't purchased. FI and I put the stroller/car seat combo we want on there ($160) and the crib we want ($400) as well as the glider ottoman combo ($700) fully expecting nobody to purchase them for us, but so that we can have the discount on them at the end.

Umm...ok. Good luck NOT looking greedy & selfish.

BTW, many people don't know about the BRU completion coupon. They will just assume that you actually want people to buy you that stuff. Since I get a 20% off BRU coupon weekly in the Sunday paper, I can't imagine that a coupon is that hard to come buy.

If I put a $700 glider on my registry, I would fully expect my family to talk sh*t about me for 10 years.

You have to be kidding...

I've seen tons of VERY expensive stuff on registries, I don't bat an eye at it. I figure that they may get it as a gift from their parents, someone else OR that they'll eventually use gift cards toward the expensive stuff. I don't think it looks greedy or selfish. I have a $ amount I want to spend on gifts, I just ignore the things not in that range. I can't really imagine judging a friend or family member because of their baby registry.

We put a couple of $500 items on our wedding registry and guess what? People bought them for us!!! If we hadn't put them on there, we would have been buying them ourselves.

FWIW, I don't find $160 for a stroller to be a big deal at all. Two people could go in together and get that for her.

Corts · January 2011

pook:
Corts:

pammeelala:
I agree there is no reason any one needs to know what they gave you was returned. So much of it is duplicates, or the newborn stuff that no one would see the baby in anyway, who would know the difference. As to the expensive stuff on the registry, who cares? Some times people like to pitch in together with a group of family and friends to get the bigger things that they know you want/need. Plus, at BRU, they give you a discount at the end of your pregnancy on anything still on your registry. That, added to any store credit you get from returns, will allow you to buy the big things that weren't purchased. FI and I put the stroller/car seat combo we want on there ($160) and the crib we want ($400) as well as the glider ottoman combo ($700) fully expecting nobody to purchase them for us, but so that we can have the discount on them at the end.

Umm...ok. Good luck NOT looking greedy & selfish.

BTW, many people don't know about the BRU completion coupon. They will just assume that you actually want people to buy you that stuff. Since I get a 20% off BRU coupon weekly in the Sunday paper, I can't imagine that a coupon is that hard to come buy.

If I put a $700 glider on my registry, I would fully expect my family to talk sh*t about me for 10 years.

You have to be kidding...

I've seen tons of VERY expensive stuff on registries, I don't bat an eye at it. I figure that they may get it as a gift from their parents, someone else OR that they'll eventually use gift cards toward the expensive stuff. I don't think it looks greedy or selfish. I have a $ amount I want to spend on gifts, I just ignore the things not in that range. I can't really imagine judging a friend or family member because of their baby registry.

We put a couple of $500 items on our wedding registry and guess what? People bought them for us!!! If we hadn't put them on there, we would have been buying them ourselves.

FWIW, I don't find $160 for a stroller to be a big deal at all. Two people could go in together and get that for her.

No I'm not kidding. You apparently travel in much more affluent & wealthier circles than the majority of the country. The reality of 2011 is...tons of people are unemployed, even people with their masters are applying for food stamps because they cannot feed their families due to the sucky economy. People are walking away from their houses because they cannot afford to sell them or pay the mortgages. Gas is almost $4.00 a gallon. Most of us live paycheck to paycheck. If you & your crowd are the exception, then more power to you but don't assume this is the case for most american families. Any pregnant woman who thinks someone is generously going to forgo a huge chunk of their next mortgage payment because they are just "dying" to get you that insane glider....get real. Seriously. Unless you are friends with the rich & famous, then you may want to tone down your gift expectations a little.

pammeelala · January 2011

There are plenty of people in my family / circle of friends who could afford these things without a second thought. And i don't know about your family, but MY family would never talk about me for wanting something expensive. Like I said, I don't expect any one to purchase it for me. I have it on there so that near the end, I can get the larger than 20% discount on it, because it is expensive and 20% off isn't enough off for me to be willing to purchase it. Plus, at that extra discount point, we also can combine some coupons and use gift cards. Part of my original post that YOU UNDERLINED clearly explained that.

As for my crib, my ILs will be purchasing it for us, they just wanted to make sure they got the right one and that we would get the bonus points for buying it off the registry.

Obviously, if someone in my family were in a deperate enough situation that they have had to get government aid to support their family, I wouldn't expect them to buy me ANYTHING regardless of cost. And if they DID want to purchase something, that's why there are rattles, bottles, blankies, things of that sort on the registry.

BTW, I am not asking MOST AMERICAN FAMILIES to purchase anything for me. My registry is not for most American families. It's for mine.

Corts · January 2011

pammeelala:

There are plenty of people in my family / circle of friends who could afford these things without a second thought. And i don't know about your family, but MY family would never talk about me for wanting something expensive. Like I said, I don't expect any one to purchase it for me. I have it on there so that near the end, I can get the larger than 20% discount on it, because it is expensive and 20% off isn't enough off for me to be willing to purchase it. Plus, at that extra discount point, we also can combine some coupons and use gift cards. Part of my original post that YOU UNDERLINED clearly explained that.

As for my crib, my ILs will be purchasing it for us, they just wanted to make sure they got the right one and that we would get the bonus points for buying it off the registry.

Obviously, if someone in my family were in a deperate enough situation that they have had to get government aid to support their family, I wouldn't expect them to buy me ANYTHING regardless of cost. And if they DID want to purchase something, that's why there are rattles, bottles, blankies, things of that sort on the registry.

BTW, I am not asking MOST AMERICAN FAMILIES to purchase anything for me. My registry is not for most American families. It's for mine.

So, to sum up your ramblings...*I want what I want and don't care how it gets here*.

BTW, do you really think if anyone in your family is struggling financially, they would tell you? Do you think people brag about recieving food stamps? How do you KNOW your friends and family can afford your desires at the drop of a hat? And if you're so well-off, what do you need a completion coupon for? Just buy the Daddy Warbucks furniture yourself and save your dignity. HTH.

komurphy · January 2011

My husband and I stressed about this too. We live in a small apartment in DC without a car. We want to stay in our place since it's near a great elementary school and within walking distance of both our jobs. I was initially worried about storage for baby things too. After talking to my sister, who lives in NYC and raises her toddler in a small apartment, she said she'd volunteer to do the invites and wording. I think she used something like, "K and S are welcoming their twins into a small urban apartment and have created a wishlist of a few much needed items and non-stuff related gifts". She also assured me that people would not mind at all if we returned any unneeded items. That our friends and family would just be happy that we get what we need. We haven't had our shower yet but like you we'll be happy and appreciative of any gift.

jnkgdt · January 2011

Wow corts, take it down a notch. Good lord.

mybobofo · January 2011

To the OPer about the OP: You might be surprised about the gifts at your shower. I had about 23 people at my shower. Only 6 or 7 bought from my registry. I got the most wonderful, thoughtful gifts anyone could ask for.

There wasn't a mountain of Desitin. Quite the opposite. I received everything from Mozart CDs from Baby Einstein to personalized quilts and several gift cards. There was not one thing that I wanted to return.

Give your guests some credit. They will probably surprise you. It's unlikely that you'll end up with a mountain of Desitin. And not one person gave us diapers. I think most people will assume that you'll buy that stuff for yourself.

bunnymama625 · January 2011

Thanks I'm hoping to be pleasantly surprised, but people keep telling me what they bought! hahahaha - and none of them are shopping at BRU (some not even at stores we have up north), so store credit is going to be a little tricky, but we'll do what we can.

So far, of the people who told me, only one is buying anything that we will actually use, and she told me that's just b/c she wants me to have it to snuggle on the plane (Boppy - she's buying something else for the baby.)

I'm aces with thank you notes- don't worry-- everyone will get one sincerely showing how much we appreciate the help, whether or not I plan on using their gift, because we really really do.

For everyone who asked "how would they know?"... well, that's just certain people-- we learned that with wedding gifts. Most people don't ask, but some just do... those some tend to be on the in-law side...oh well-- you do what you can!

Sorry for everyone who posted on here and got attacked- we've been going through hard times ourselves, and so have many of our friends-- I don't even think about what range people put on their registries- I just look at the range of what I can afford. My friend going through the roughest times I know put some expensive items on her registry as a wish list thing-- her mother-in-law bought them

My rule is, never assume anything about anyone unless they've told you themselves- just have a wide range on there of stuff you would truly love!

backinpgh · January 2011

So apparently we should all just politely decline anyone offering to throw us baby showers because our families and friends might be silently struggling to pay their own bills... Huh?

JennV514 · January 2011

backinpgh:
So apparently we should all just politely decline anyone offering to throw us baby showers because our families and friends might be silently struggling to pay their own bills...

Yes Seriously.

Corts · January 2011

backinpgh:
So apparently we should all just politely decline anyone offering to throw us baby showers because our families and friends might be silently struggling to pay their own bills...

Are you buying someone a $700 rocking chair?

Didn't think so...

ak1234 · January 2011

Corts:

backinpgh:
So apparently we should all just politely decline anyone offering to throw us baby showers because our families and friends might be silently struggling to pay their own bills...

Are you buying someone a $700 rocking chair?

Didn't think so...

You don't know if she is buying someone a $700 rocking chair or not. You don't know if she has a group of friends who are going to go in and buy the d@mn chair. Just because you and other people you know may be struggling, others aren't. There are a lot of people that are doing just fine, $4 gas and all.

News flash - everyone doesn't have the same financial situation, family, ILs, group of friends etc. Everyone doesn't have to what you would do - and it doesn't make it tacky, or wrong, or greedy.

backinpgh · January 2011

Corts:
backinpgh:
So apparently we should all just politely decline anyone offering to throw us baby showers because our families and friends might be silently struggling to pay their own bills...

Are you buying someone a $700 rocking chair?

Didn't think so...

If it were my daughter, I just might buy her a $700 rocking chair. If it were my niece, I might buy it for her. If it were a coworker, the whole office might pitch in money towards purchasing it.

But not just because they registered for it, no. I'd buy them the baby tub they registered for, a wipe warmer, or a Diaper Genie. Just because it's there doesn't mean it's a requirement and certainly doesn't mean anyone is obligated to purchase. I'm a grown-azz adult and I can decide just fine on my own what kind of gift I can or cannot afford to give someone for their shower. If I log onto someone's registry and the only thing left is the $700 rocking chair do I go "Oh gee, that's the only thing left, I guess I am required to purchase for her, even though I only have $49 left in my bank account!" Uh, no. I'd probably get her a $20 gift card and write "You can put this towards your rocking chair!" inside the card.

The logic that people *might* be having money troubles right now is total nonsense. If that were really logical, you shouldn't register for anything or have a shower at all, period. Conversely, if the economy is awesome, does that make it okay in your book to register for a $700 rocking chair?

JoBieger05 · January 2011

Corts:
backinpgh:
So apparently we should all just politely decline anyone offering to throw us baby showers because our families and friends might be silently struggling to pay their own bills...

Are you buying someone a $700 rocking chair?

Didn't think so...

Chill.

Maybe she is buying someone a $700 rocking chair.

Get over it.

Temp38995750004016 · January 2011

Corts:

backinpgh:
So apparently we should all just politely decline anyone offering to throw us baby showers because our families and friends might be silently struggling to pay their own bills...

Are you buying someone a $700 rocking chair?

Didn't think so...

omg you really need to chill!

Yes, not everybody is rolling in dough. But not everybody is broke ass either. I, and most of my friends, were not hurt by the economy. I can see us buying someone a $700 chair. If 7 of us are spending $100 each, wtf is the big deal?

In lots of posts you seem hell bent on making sure everybody else knows just how poor some people are. I think you are the one who told me nobody would spend $50 on shower gifts.

Corts · January 2011

ak1234:
Corts:

backinpgh:
So apparently we should all just politely decline anyone offering to throw us baby showers because our families and friends might be silently struggling to pay their own bills...

Are you buying someone a $700 rocking chair?

Didn't think so...

You don't know if she is buying someone a $700 rocking chair or not. You don't know if she has a group of friends who are going to go in and buy the d@mn chair. Just because you and other people you know may be struggling, others aren't. There are a lot of people that are doing just fine, $4 gas and all.

News flash - everyone doesn't have the same financial situation, family, ILs, group of friends etc. Everyone doesn't have to what you would do - and it doesn't make it tacky, or wrong, or greedy.

We are not struggling but there are many people who are. I just find the attitude that "it's my shower so everyone must fill my nursery for me" is disgusting. I see it here every day. To be oblivious to the people who are stuggling is a damn shame. Of course "none of you" know any. LOL.

Temp38995750004016 · January 2011

You just come across as seeming jealous that some of us are going to get all of our stupid expensive stuff....for freeeee!

I don't see where the OP has an attitude that anyone needs to fill her nursery.

backinpgh · January 2011

We are not struggling but there are many people who are. I just find the attitude that "it's my shower so everyone must fill my nursery for me" is disgusting. I see it here every day. To be oblivious to the people who are stuggling is a damn shame. Of course "none of you" know any. LOL.

Then WHY praytell, would you spend any time in the baby shower forum??? Considering that buying people gifts, which bothers you oh so much, is the express purpose of having one?

JoBieger05 · January 2011

Corts:
ak1234:
Corts:

backinpgh:
So apparently we should all just politely decline anyone offering to throw us baby showers because our families and friends might be silently struggling to pay their own bills...

Are you buying someone a $700 rocking chair?

Didn't think so...

You don't know if she is buying someone a $700 rocking chair or not. You don't know if she has a group of friends who are going to go in and buy the d@mn chair. Just because you and other people you know may be struggling, others aren't. There are a lot of people that are doing just fine, $4 gas and all.

News flash - everyone doesn't have the same financial situation, family, ILs, group of friends etc. Everyone doesn't have to what you would do - and it doesn't make it tacky, or wrong, or greedy.

We are not struggling but there are many people who are. I just find the attitude that "it's my shower so everyone must fill my nursery for me" is disgusting. I see it here every day. To be oblivious to the people who are stuggling is a damn shame. Of course "none of you" know any. LOL.

Then don't come around anymore. I doubt you will be missed.

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