How often do you talk to your Mom?

Mira06 · January 2011

Just curious here. My mom calls me a lot (she lives in FL, I'm in MI) and I mean A LOT. Her nickname is the phone stalker. I think already today we are up to 6 or 7 times. It is driving me nuts. Since she calls so often we have nothing to talk about. And I finding myself getting really short and rude with her. At some points, I get so annoyed I start being mean and then I feel really bad.

I've tried not answering. But usually she keeps calling and calling and leaving horribly sad VM that make me feel guilty. Also I know one day she won't be around, and that I will be sad I didn't talk to her when I had the opportunity.

I've been thinking about setting a limit, like telling her I will only talk to her X times day. But I don't even know where to begin. I was just curious as to what might be "normal".

Jay_Cee · January 2011

Wow, we definitely don't talk that much. We probably talk on the phone once a week and we usually see each other once a week, too. Sometimes we get busy and only talk/see each other once every other week, though. We also talk on facebook numerous time a week, but I don't really count that.

If my mom called me 6-7 times a day I'd go crazy.

nbbride06 · January 2011

Probably 3-4 times per week on average. And I probably see her once every other week or so.

txaggie2002 · January 2011

We talk a few times a week and email short little things sometimes between phone calls. 6-7 times a day would drive me up the wall. I don't want to talk to anyone that much. Set boundaries!

Mrs.Leah.Maria · January 2011

Daily, if not in person picking up DS, then by text or by phone call.

My Mom and I have a very interesting relationship. It was very rough the first 6 months after I was married. She will accuse me of not answering her phone calls and purposely avoiding her.

littleprettyx · January 2011

I have a scheduled 5pm call with my mom on weekdays.

hahahah okay not really. but sort of. I call her every day when I leave work.

I sort of hate being on the phone unless I'm in the car. Esp if I'm in my house. So I don't talk to her as much on weekends. But pretty much daily.

christa62908 · January 2011

My mom passed away years ago- but I still have internal conversations with her all the time! I am jealous of this posting!

gmc222 · January 2011

I talk to my mom probably 4 times/wk when she calls 'before her shows start' at 8pm. My parents live about 25 min away, so we see them probably every other weekend or so. DH loves my parents, so that helps!

skybear · January 2011

My mom is in Massachusetts and I'm in Michigan and I think our communication relationship to pretty healthy. We try to email back and forth from work each day, but it's common to get busy and miss a day here and there. We probably talk twice a week on the phone, 3 times maximum even with little one (her first grandbaby) on the way. Every mom is different though. My sister lives with her still, and I have a feeling if she was there with just my dad she'd be calling a lot more often

I don't know that I'd consider us "normal" but it works for us pretty well.

KleanFreak · January 2011

Once baby is around, you might not be able to talk 6 or 7 times. It's natures way of ironically taking care of your problem. But around the time you are due, she will probably start calling 20 times a day...be prepared. My sister could not stand my mom at the end of both her pregnancies. I'm preparing myself. Right now, we speak 3-4 times a week.

caraleeb · January 2011

Im very close to my mom as she is quite young (im 30 shes 45) and there isnt a huge gap between us! i email her daily and we talk on the phone once a week and usually see her 1x a week she only lives 10 minutes from me

NatesWife81510 · January 2011

I talk to my mom probably 2 times a day:) She is one of my best friends....I tell her pretty much everything:) That being said we both work for the same hospital so we have work things to talk about too...if we didn't both work for the same hospital I don't know we would talk 2x's a day, but I'm sure we would talk prob. once a day:)

We also alternate Sunday dinners between my parents house and my FIL house

MuseumMaven · January 2011

I talk to my mom a few times a week - it varies a lot. We usually talk for 45min to an hour when we're on the phone.

We live over 1000 miles apart, so we don't see each other very often.

TristaD81 · January 2011

I'm in Chicago and my Mom is in Nebraska, so we only see each other 4 or 5 times a year. We email back and forth 2 - 5 times a week, talk maybe once a week, and text each other when anything cool/interesting/frustrating happens.

I don't envy you trying to set boundaries, good luck!

jlm245 · January 2011

Once a week. She is in CA and is a busy executive... we are close without having to talk constantly.

MFAinNYC · January 2011

1-10 times a week. lol

Jay_Cee · January 2011

christa62908:
My mom passed away years ago- but I still have internal conversations with her all the time! I am jealous of this posting!

I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. I'm sure it was devestating.

::hugs::

jessh1221 · January 2011

My mom lives about 7 blocks away from me and we talk about 2-3 times a day on average. We also run errands together on Saturday mornings and usually do dinner/lunch a couple times on the weekends.

Shelleybell · January 2011

I usually talk to my mom once or twice a day. My mom is the greatest!

DMBfan41 · January 2011

fogleer:
I don't have a "per day." I talk to my mom on the phone 2-3 times per week, usually for no more than 15 minutes, and see her around once a week. We live 12 minutes away.

This exactly.

CanaryIsland629 · January 2011

I wondered this too... I am very close to my parents. I talk to each at least once a day...even if it's just to say hello and I love you, I have to talk to them each day. It's to the point where if I'm at work and I don't answer my cell, both of them will try my extension, if no answer there, I get a call on my work cell.. I understand cause sometimes I do get annoyed but I too think one day I won;t have the chance so I do take the time once a day to tell them I love them.. cause one day my phone won't ring.

Cherish these moments

kell8807 · January 2011

I talk to my mom at least once a day. My real dad left when I was 1, so my mom and I are very very close. We go to her house every Sunday night for dinner & she will usually come over to ours for dinner on Wednesdays.

cburitz · January 2011

DH and I literally live 15 minutes away from my parents (and his parents). We see my parents about once a week and I talk on the phone with my mom about every other day. She calls a lot now to talk about baby-related stuff. It's her first grandchild so she's really excited.

I don't mind the calls. DH and I have a close relationship with both sets of parents.

FunNSunAZ · January 2011

fogleer:
I don't have a "per day." I talk to my mom on the phone 2-3 times per week, usually for no more than 15 minutes, and see her around once a week. We live 12 minutes away.

This is pretty much my situation. My parents live less than 10 minutes away and I probably talk to my mom EOD, sometimes more. I talk to my sister almost every day, and think it's adorable that my DH talks to his brother a few times every day.

Erin&Rod · January 2011

Usually once a day. She lives 5 minutes away so she usually comes over a few times a week too.

aozmomma · January 2011

We both live in the same town as our parents. I see mine twice a week usually. I talk to my mom twice a week on the phone, which is the only way we can really converse bc if my DD is around she has to be very involved with my mom. So I dont really get to talk o her much when I go to her house. Kinda strange, huh? Then we text a few days a week too. She's reall good about not getting jealous of my time with or without her.. We get along but we aren't best friends. I hope I get over this soon, but my mom really has some tendencies that annoy me, so little doses are good for me. Very thankful for her though!

mollpolls · January 2011

My parents just moved in 3 streets behind us. I talk to her on my way to school and again on the way home. Her and my dad put my stepson on the bus every morning since I work before-school care and my hubby leaves before the bus. We see them 1-3 times a week. My sister's about 10 minutes away, so we get together for dinner or lunch on my sister's days off.

It's been really nice having them close (so far). I've run out of ketchup and milk and it's so much easier to send my step-son to Grandmas than driving to the store!

We've always been an exceptionally close family (dad, mom, me, sister). My hubby talks to his mom (who is on the other side of the country) once every 6-8 weeks or so. I thought it would be more of an issue when we got married and then again when they moved closer, but it's really working out nicely. It helps that they're great people and we enjoy being with them.

damabo80 · January 2011

whoa....time to lay down some ground rules with your mom!!

My grandma was like that with my mom....lonely and wanted to talk. So, my mom set limits. But, it also made my mom not want to put me in that position, so she waits for me to call her unless she has a time-sensitive question.

I probably call her 1-2 times a week. She probably calls me 1-2 times a month.

lolliM · January 2011

I talk to mine every morning after I eat my cereal and then sometimes a few more times during the day!

AmyChristine15 · January 2011

I talk to my mom at least 3 times a day. She's my absolute best friend! We always have something to talk about. I figured, as long as I am fortunate enough to have my mother around, I will talk to her as long as the Lord will allow me to. Because of our schedules though, I see her about every other week. We only live about 20 minutes away from each other. I'm definitely a momma's girl. No matter how old I get.

gambhk1152 · January 2011

my mom died 10 years ago when i was 19....id give ANYTHING to talk to her. even though i still have internal conversations with her, obviously its just not the same...but i know we would talk daily, we were BFF's

however, my dad is amazing and he and I talk daily...thank god I have him!

Mira06 · January 2011

Thanks everyone.

For those who have lost your moms, I am very sorry. I can only imagine how hard that must be.

Since posting this my Mom called at least 4 more times. I've mentioned to her we need to set up boundaries. I don't think it has sunk in with her at all, and it will be a process over time. I know for my mental health I need to do this. Obviously our relationship isn't healthy. It is almost like she is dependent upon me, and I feel like I can't handle it any more.

Please no one get me wrong, I love my mom very much.

magpiebride61210 · January 2011

my mom and i are close. we talk about 3 to 4 times a week. usually one of those convos lasts about an hour. the other times its a shorter check in.

my parents live 45 minutes and we see them about twice a month at least. tomorrow mom and i are going to babies r us for some looking around. should be fun!

i do notice i call her and talk to her a lot more now that i'm pregnant. i think it brings something out in us.

OrangeDaisy13 · January 2011

I talk to my mom once a day. Sometimes it's just for a few minutes to say "hi" and other times it could be 20 minutes or so.

x0stephanie · January 2011

She'll call me if we haven't talked in a while (so once or twice a week). We normally go over for dinner once a week as well. I would go CRAZY if she called 6-7 times a day..... I would bring it up with her

katie4253 · January 2011

Sometimes 3-4 times a week, sometimes not at all for weeks.

genekelly · January 2011

She calls me more often than I call her but we speak 2-3 times per week and I try to see her once a week but at least once every 2 weeks. I don't even talk to my DH on the phone that much; that would drive me crazy too! Does she have other friends or family to talk to?

ccwalker26 · January 2011

I live 4 hours away from my mom. We usually talk 4-5 times a week. Sometimes just five minutes or even up to an hour.

johnsonia · January 2011

We talk more now that Im pregnant and now that my BF is very sick. She has been a huge support even though she ives about 2 hrs away. We talk about 2-3 times a day, sometimes more, sometimes less. Today we spoke alot but tomrw we may only text once or twice... i guess it varies...

kda217 · January 2011

We talk several times a week and email. She lives about 45 minutes away so we see her at least 3 times a month.

kmoses10 · January 2011

I am the only family they have locally and they call me way too often. Especially after the baby was born. They try to make me feel guilty if I have other plans and even though they see us a couple times a week they complain about not seeing DD more, and how much they "miss" her. I really do not know what to do about it but I am kind of dreading when July comes because I am sure they are going to want to be even further up my @ss than they already are. If I ignore the calls they keep calling, claiming that they are worried something happened. And if I don't answer they show up uninvited and if I am not home that starts a huge sh!t storm. Any ideas?

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