wow, the U.O post really makes me sad....

*Willis* · January 2011

Christmas on a cracker, I'm not nearly as nice as the rest of the ladies on here. Way to be a drama llama and take the most respectful UO post I've ever seen and go nuts. Seriously. Maybe you don't know this board as well as you thought. Or maybe it's not your speed. Either way, whatevs.

And FWIW, I didn't get all up in arms about my very Irish named child, my smelly dogs, or whatever parenting choice I make that someone else doesn't.

I thikn this post sucks, lol.

AuburnBride06 · January 2011

*Willis*:
Christmas on a cracker, I'm not nearly as nice as the rest of the ladies on here. Way to be a drama llama and take the most respectful UO post I've ever seen and go nuts. Seriously. Maybe you don't know this board as well as you thought. Or maybe it's not your speed. Either way, whatevs.

And FWIW, I didn't get all up in arms about my very Irish named child, my smelly dogs, or whatever parenting choice I make that someone else doesn't.

I thikn this post sucks, lol.

omg that made me spit out my coffee.

fallbride110406 · January 2011

*Willis*:
Christmas on a cracker, I'm not nearly as nice as the rest of the ladies on here.

^^ That.

And FFS, it's called unpopular opinions. Did you think you would open the post and puppies and rainbows were going to come flying out? If you can't roll your eyes and brush off other people's hangups, then you really shouldn't be reading it (or be anywhere near the month boards, but that's a whole other topic).

It's the internet, it really shouldn't cause anywhere near this much emotion. Seriously.

oct11bride03 · January 2011

Everyone else has already made excellent points so all I have to add is this:

It really irks me when people who aren't regulars on this board get offended by something we do and say stuff like, "this board has really changed" or "you guys aren't supportive." I'm sorry, but if you aren't a regular poster then you have no right to comment on what we do here.

sommerrayne · January 2011

"It is much easier to be critical than to be correct"

And, dealing with a bruised ego is probably the hardest injury....

Know this place is supportive, know these women are human beings who need an outlet to vent their opinions (hence the post title), and know that YOU and only YOU are responsible for your reaction to stimulus (I'm currently teaching my almost 3 year old, "no, I'm not making you sad - you're chosing that reaction"....perhaps a universal lesson!?!).

christiney06 · January 2011

oct11bride03:
Everyone else has already made excellent points so all I have to add is this:

It really irks me when people who aren't regulars on this board get offended by something we do and say stuff like, "this board has really changed" or "you guys aren't supportive." I'm sorry, but if you aren't a regular poster then you have no right to comment on what we do here.

so, how many times do I have to post to have the right to be upset that I was insulted? I have been here for 3yrs and on TTTC for 2yrs before that, how is that not a regular? b/c i don't spend all day on here? I think that is enough time for me to be able to say what I think.

I am amused at all the "well if you don't like it , don't read it" responses. I have never felt that way before today. I have read that post off and on for years and have never noticed a nasty insult like that before. LIKE I ALREADY SAID, the issue isn't the actual post. it's how Davez opinion was stated. she through an insult in and IMO that is uncalled for. I have no idea how any of you could read that someone thought you were being disrespectful to your kid and it wouldn't upset you. it is FAR DIFFERENT than someone stating they dont' like Irish names, cats or whatever. I would think/hope that parenting choices and insults would be off limits in a post like that.

if it was just "the internet" and no big deal then you guys wouldn't be such big fans of the board and come here for support. it is a big deal to a lot of us and I was hoping that when I am ready to start the RE roller coaster all over again soon , that i could come here and be supported. call it dramatic, but I no longer feel that way.

JessandJeremy · January 2011

Million$$Baby:
Not to sound mean, but I think that if you don't like the U.O posts and they upset you, then DON'T read them. A lot of people think they're fun, but if you're not one of them, save yourself the upset and ignore them.

This!

and glitter farts, puppies (aka furbabies,) and rainbows everyone!

Mrs.Reem · January 2011

So... you're contradicting yourself. Could you clarify?

Is your beef with the group? the post? or just with Davez?

If it's just with Davez then the adult thing to do would not be to insult the group as a whole and be totally dramatic in the process. Big girls PM or page the one person they're beefing with, alone - not as a group, and talk to them about it.

JessandJeremy · January 2011

And I"ll add...I don't think we're going to change her mind so I vote to ignore this and keep on supporting each other!

JillRock96 · January 2011

I'm going to be totally honest here and say that if there was ever a type of post that was intended to stir up drama and make people feel bad, it is a post like this.

You don't like UO posts? That's your opinion. So, don't read them. The title of the post was clearly labeled, so any choice to open it and read what was inside could not have been a mistake.

I feel that many of the women on this board have become close friends of mine, through our posts here, through our FB relationships, and through talking/meeting in real life. This board is supportive, which is one of the things that is so wonderful about it, but what really brings us together are not the "puppies and rainbows" posts, but the fact that we share a common obstacle -- we've all been through hell and back to have our little ones. That is what binds us together. Real friends can disagree -- and even :::gasp::: fight with each other from time to time. I think that a friendship where I only spout sunshiney happy thoughts and never talk values and opinions is a pretty superficial friendship.

LucyPevensie · January 2011

schmoodle:
roaringrock:

...I call lulu/lucy my furbaby...

the same women that said they hated dogs ...

I'm never living that one down, am I?

And I very intentionally did NOT say hate. Hehe.

Schmoodle did you ever see that old television show, "I Love Lulu?" hee heeee

DavezWife · January 2011

ladychicago:
I guess my thought is that if the UO post got you this upset and makes you question the inherent supportiveness (is that a word?) of this board, then you just don't know this board as well as you thought. I disagreed with many a sentiment in that post, but didn't feel the list bit offended or slighted. The girls on this board have a healthy sense of humor, humility, and confidence. I love it. In the end, I could bed share, ear pierce, leash, have 20 dogs, a few cats, and put rice cereal in my bottles...and yet know without a doubt these women will have my back when times get hard. That is what matters.

::::::STANDS UPS AND APPLAUDS::::::::

emiannie · January 2011

JillRock96:
I'm going to be totally honest here and say that if there was ever a type of post that was intended to stir up drama and make people feel bad, it is a post like this.
You don't like UO posts? That's your opinion. So, don't read them. The title of the post was clearly labeled, so any choice to open it and read what was inside could not have been a mistake.
I feel that many of the women on this board have become close friends of mine, through our posts here, through our FB relationships, and through talking/meeting in real life. This board is supportive, which is one of the things that is so wonderful about it, but what really brings us together are not the "puppies and rainbows" posts, but the fact that we share a common obstacle -- we've all been through hell and back to have our little ones. That is what binds us together. Real friends can disagree -- and even :::gasp::: fight with each other from time to time. I think that a friendship where I only spout sunshiney happy thoughts and never talk values and opinions is a pretty superficial friendship.

I have a girl crush on JillRock. Wink Well said, sister-friend.

ladychicago · January 2011

Mrs.Reem:
So... you're contradicting yourself. Could you clarify?
Is your beef with the group? the post? or just with Davez?
If it's just with Davez then the adult thing to do would not be to insult the group as a whole and be totally dramatic in the process. Big girls PM or page the one person they're beefing with, alone - not as a group, and talk to them about it.

I was just going to ask/say the same thing.

AuburnBride06 · January 2011

Sometimes I wake my baby up. Not often, but I've done it. I KNOW people don't agree with that. But no one else stays up with him at night while he screams either. Stick out tongue

mechanicsgirl · January 2011

This place IS just as supportive as it always was. I think you're taking that post WAY too seriously. They're not meant to call people out and judge them, but to post unpopular opinions that people are entitled to. It's just for a little entertainment.

I'm sorry you feel like you were judged.

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