I got laid off in September of 2010, and now that I am not working....it's a perfect time to get pregnant with my first. I'd be able to have a very relaxed and calm pregnancy, and best of all...savor every minute of it. Plus, I want to preggers now, so that I can still have a year and a half of unemployment benefits after it is born(which to me is a great length of time for maternity leave). I don't want to look for a job because if I get pregnant...it's only so I quit once I leave for maternity. It'd be dumb to get a job to quit 9 months from now (that's hoping I get pregnant this month) Because, there is no way I will have a baby, and three months later give it to some stranger at a day care center. I want to enjoy every minute of my baby's development when I have one.
I know I don't post on here much (I hang out on Getting Pregnant board on thenest) but you're an ***. You are only supposed to receive unemployment if you are ACTIVELY looking for a job. Using your benefits as a paid maternity leave is not only bullshit and an abuse but ILLEGAL. I really hope you get your BFP soon but be aware that what you are planning on doing is illegal and I, for one, hope you don't actually do this. Don't be lazy. Find a job and deal with maternity leave just like the rest of us.
I love your response
thanks! I was worried I would get flamed for being snarky but the sheer ignorance pissed me off. I didn't even touch the "hand off to a stranger" comment.
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1. that it's the best time b/c it's not too hot and not too cold
2. bday parties would be awesome
3. it would be before the insanely busy holidays
And my additional reasons:
4. we're moving this summer, right after we would probably be able to find out the sex, so designing/painting/decorating the nursery would be easy
5. we're soooooo ready to be parents
6. a family member who has ALWAYS had to beat us to EVERYTHING hasn't gotten KU yet and I can't bear the thought of being LAST on yet another thing (and yes I realize it's totally irrational, but if you knew her, you'd understand)
TTC our 1st LO since September 2009
History of ENDO and ovarian cysts, currently have 1 Myoma on left ovary - but it's shrinking, yea!
Clomid 100mg since Jan 2011, trigger 4/5, 1st IUI 4/7, 1 mature follie, progesterone = BFN SHG 5/2 = all clear IUI#2 on Mother's Day 5/8, no trigger, 2 mature follies, progesterone = BFN My Ovulation Chart
Because it has been a year and half since we started trying.
6 months since I started charting
3 months since my M/C
I would love to to cutesy maternity pictures with jack-o-lanterns since my Phantom DD would be 10-31.
My BF got pregnant AGAIN for the 2nd time in a year and is due in August so the hoopla of her showers and delivery with be over by then ( I know this sound petty but we are being FF right?)
Because I really do not know how much longer I can go with out a sticky baby without going nuts.
Began TTC July 09
Began Charting August 2010
BFP 10.28.10
Natural M/C 11.12.10
DX PCOS May 2011
DH SA= perfect
First round Clomid/Ovidrel/IUI/Prog. July 2011
BFP 7/19/11 Grow Baby Grow!! Due Date 3/27/2012
first beta 7/22 542 second beta 7/25 958
She is here!! Sarah Bethany born 3/20/12 @ 4:13am 6lbs. 15oz. 19inches long
I need to get KU this month because...This is the last month where I would be 25 when I delivered. My birthday is November 8th...If I get KU next month...I would be...26 *GASP*!
1) I've always wanted an October baby (strangly enough I actually WANT to be pregnant during the summer...hello! flip flops!)
2) I have stupid long cycles and I hate hate hate waiting.
4) I do not want to have a baby in the winter (although we won't try to avoid it)
and 4)..not really irrational even. My DH is about to start a wacky work schedule where I will literally ONLY see him on Saturday and Sunday. Not exactly ideal for the timing of the sex...
Because it has been a year and half since we started trying.
6 months since I started charting
3 months since my M/C
I would love to to cutesy maternity pictures with jack-o-lanterns since my Phantom DD would be 10-31.
My BF got pregnant AGAIN for the 2nd time in a year and is due in August so the hoopla of her showers and delivery with be over by then ( I know this sound petty but we are being FF right?)
Because I really do not know how much longer I can go with out a sticky baby without going nuts.
Hugs to you!
Are you planning on seeing an RE any time in the near future?
Because October is such a beautiful time of year, right before the onslaught of 6 months of rain. It'd be nice to have something to focus on during the miserable, wet days of winter.
Because my maternity leave would be during the holidays.
Because I will be 32 at that point!
Because I really want a family!
phantom due date: Oct 12th
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Because I really want to be expecting BEFORE I turn 30 in the spring, and be able to share our news with others
Because we may be moving soon, and I want to share this joy with the teen girls I volunteer with (they would FLIP), but we won`t be telling everyone for a bit.
Fall birthdays run in my family, my birthday is in September, my DH is in November and there's 3 family birthdays in October. Having them altogether is nice because we are 3 hours away from family so being able to do fall birthday parties is a good time to get together and limit the travel.
Also, I'm impatient and I just want my bfp already!
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My irrational reason? I bought a Halloween bib on sale after Halloween this past year and I was so sure that I would get pregnant and have a baby before next year's Halloween
I would also love a 2011 baby and Oct is getting toward the end...
LOL-OMG-I forgot I bought Baby's first Halloween clothes after this Halloween at TJMaxx for $1.50. I thought I would save them as a gift because I have a few baby showers this year, but if I could use it this year that would work nicely!
Because it has been a year and half since we started trying.
6 months since I started charting
3 months since my M/C
I would love to to cutesy maternity pictures with jack-o-lanterns since my Phantom DD would be 10-31.
My BF got pregnant AGAIN for the 2nd time in a year and is due in August so the hoopla of her showers and delivery with be over by then ( I know this sound petty but we are being FF right?)
Because I really do not know how much longer I can go with out a sticky baby without going nuts.
Hugs to you!
Are you planning on seeing an RE any time in the near future?
Well that is my internal debate. I know alot of our problems early on was timing because I O so late. We now know I "can" get pregnant and until I have 2-3 MC in one year my OB/GYN is not one to recommend patients to a RE. I don't want to be the one that is impatient and started drugs before trying everything I can.
Honestly I have a personally deadline of May and then after that if I am not KU I will begin pushing testing and a referral for a RE. Sadly I am afraid of them I am more afraid to find out something is really wrong with me.
Began TTC July 09
Began Charting August 2010
BFP 10.28.10
Natural M/C 11.12.10
DX PCOS May 2011
DH SA= perfect
First round Clomid/Ovidrel/IUI/Prog. July 2011
BFP 7/19/11 Grow Baby Grow!! Due Date 3/27/2012
first beta 7/22 542 second beta 7/25 958
She is here!! Sarah Bethany born 3/20/12 @ 4:13am 6lbs. 15oz. 19inches long
such a good question! Prob won't happen for me since I just started trying but I love halloween! Last year I saw a dad dress up as a chef and the baby as a lobster and he carried it around in a pot... it was so funny
GBCB- Leaving the bump in protest of the new changes. No privacy= no bump for me.
November is probably the last month I would ever pick to have a baby, but at this point I will take what I can get! By the time I finally ovulate (hopefully) my phantom due date would be late November.
BFP #1 on 11/19/10, m/c 12/5/10
BFP #2 on 4/12/11, J born on 12/14/11
The OB office and hospital that I will deliver in is just over an hour drive away from where I live. Any due date after October would mean chancing severe weather... a very long, bad, scary drive if I'm in labor! So, November-March are acceptable... but WAY less ideal!!!
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Together since 5/08 ~ Married 6/19/10 ~ TTC #1 since 8/10 BFP#1 3/26/11 ~ EDD 12/2/11 ~ Ectopic Twins left tube 7w3d BFP#2 11/2/11 ~ EDD 7/14/12 ~ Robert Edgar born 7/18/12 BFP#3 9/28/13 ~ EDD 5/20/14 ~ Benjamin Clarence born 5/15/14
If I don't I don't know when DH's schedule will allow him to be home again during my fertile time. He works away from home so I never know when he will be here. I just see this being an issue if I'm not PG this month.
It would allow me not to be huge during summer in the FL heat.
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Well that is my internal debate. I know alot of our problems early on was timing because I O so late. We now know I "can" get pregnant and until I have 2-3 MC in one year my OB/GYN is not one to recommend patients to a RE. I don't want to be the one that is impatient and started drugs before trying everything I can.
Honestly I have a personally deadline of May and then after that if I am not KU I will begin pushing testing and a referral for a RE. Sadly I am afraid of them I am more afraid to find out something is really wrong with me.
I didn't even have a referral from my OBGYN and just made my RE appointment myself. I was looking to switch OBGYN's, because I didn't like the one I was seeing all that much anymore at that point and thought why not just going to an RE? I had my CD3 b/w done and just today we did the SA and HSG. I also was afraid of them in the beginning but now that we are in the middle of it, I am just happy that we are moving forward. And if there is something really wrong with me or MH, at least we know and can get a new plan into place.
But you have to be mentally ready to start the testing, some are after a year, some later and some even sooner. I hope you get KU before May, but if not, I hope you find an amazing RE! More hugs to you, my friend.
1) October is a beautiful month,with our Canadian thanksgiving and Halloween:)2). When I return back from myyear maternity leave, all my budgetswould have already been prepared!3). It is getting harder emotionallyas the months go on, my patienceis dwindling:(4). If I concieve this cycle I cantell my husband and daughter onvalentines day.....
Re: I need to get KU this month because...
Totally agree with the following:
1. that it's the best time b/c it's not too hot and not too cold
2. bday parties would be awesome
3. it would be before the insanely busy holidays
And my additional reasons:
4. we're moving this summer, right after we would probably be able to find out the sex, so designing/painting/decorating the nursery would be easy
5. we're soooooo ready to be parents
6. a family member who has ALWAYS had to beat us to EVERYTHING hasn't gotten KU yet and I can't bear the thought of being LAST on yet another thing (and yes I realize it's totally irrational, but if you knew her, you'd understand)
I want a baby. That's it.
History of ENDO and ovarian cysts, currently have 1 Myoma on left ovary - but it's shrinking, yea! Clomid 100mg since Jan 2011, trigger 4/5, 1st IUI 4/7, 1 mature follie, progesterone = BFN
SHG 5/2 = all clear
IUI#2 on Mother's Day 5/8, no trigger, 2 mature follies, progesterone = BFN
My Ovulation Chart
Because it has been a year and half since we started trying.
6 months since I started charting
3 months since my M/C
I would love to to cutesy maternity pictures with jack-o-lanterns since my Phantom DD would be 10-31.
My BF got pregnant AGAIN for the 2nd time in a year and is due in August so the hoopla of her showers and delivery with be over by then ( I know this sound petty but we are being FF right?)
Because I really do not know how much longer I can go with out a sticky baby without going nuts.
I need to get KU this month because...This is the last month where I would be 25 when I delivered. My birthday is November 8th...If I get KU next month...I would be...26 *GASP*!
Oh my... my list could go on and on...
1) I've always wanted an October baby (strangly enough I actually WANT to be pregnant during the summer...hello! flip flops!)
2) I have stupid long cycles and I hate hate hate waiting.
4) I do not want to have a baby in the winter (although we won't try to avoid it)
and 4)..not really irrational even. My DH is about to start a wacky work schedule where I will literally ONLY see him on Saturday and Sunday. Not exactly ideal for the timing of the sex...
1) Cause if we don't get our BFP we'd have to hold off at least six more weeks be for TTC again... stupid cancer, so going to kick it's a$$!
2) We really want a baby!
because according to the Chinese gender charts if I get a BFP on this cycle, it'll be a girl!!!
And yes....I know it's just for fun.
4th BFP-August 2014- Due May 12, 2015
Hugs to you!
Are you planning on seeing an RE any time in the near future?
Because the world is ending in 2012.
THIS!
4th BFP-August 2014- Due May 12, 2015
Because October is such a beautiful time of year, right before the onslaught of 6 months of rain. It'd be nice to have something to focus on during the miserable, wet days of winter.
Because my maternity leave would be during the holidays.
Because I will be 32 at that point!
Because I really want a family!
phantom due date: Oct 12th
Because I really want to be expecting BEFORE I turn 30 in the spring, and be able to share our news with others
Because we may be moving soon, and I want to share this joy with the teen girls I volunteer with (they would FLIP), but we won`t be telling everyone for a bit.
Because I am more ready now than ever!
Fall birthdays run in my family, my birthday is in September, my DH is in November and there's 3 family birthdays in October. Having them altogether is nice because we are 3 hours away from family so being able to do fall birthday parties is a good time to get together and limit the travel.
Also, I'm impatient and I just want my bfp already!
LOL-OMG-I forgot I bought Baby's first Halloween clothes after this Halloween at TJMaxx for $1.50. I thought I would save them as a gift because I have a few baby showers this year, but if I could use it this year that would work nicely!
1. because October is my fav month
2. my anniversary is in Oct
3. if I O this weekend I could tell DH on Valentine's day
Well that is my internal debate. I know alot of our problems early on was timing because I O so late. We now know I "can" get pregnant and until I have 2-3 MC in one year my OB/GYN is not one to recommend patients to a RE. I don't want to be the one that is impatient and started drugs before trying everything I can.
Honestly I have a personally deadline of May and then after that if I am not KU I will begin pushing testing and a referral for a RE. Sadly I am afraid of them
I am more afraid to find out something is really wrong with me.
November is probably the last month I would ever pick to have a baby, but at this point I will take what I can get! By the time I finally ovulate (hopefully) my phantom due date would be late November.
BFP #2 on 4/12/11, J born on 12/14/11
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The OB office and hospital that I will deliver in is just over an hour drive away from where I live. Any due date after October would mean chancing severe weather... a very long, bad, scary drive if I'm in labor! So, November-March are acceptable... but WAY less ideal!!!
Together since 5/08 ~ Married 6/19/10 ~ TTC #1 since 8/10
BFP#1 3/26/11 ~ EDD 12/2/11 ~ Ectopic Twins left tube 7w3d
BFP#2 11/2/11 ~ EDD 7/14/12 ~ Robert Edgar born 7/18/12
BFP#3 9/28/13 ~ EDD 5/20/14 ~ Benjamin Clarence born 5/15/14
Because...
...I want to.
...I would like October: no pregnancy winter clothes.
...I just want to.
If I don't I don't know when DH's schedule will allow him to be home again during my fertile time. He works away from home so I never know when he will be here. I just see this being an issue if I'm not PG this month.
It would allow me not to be huge during summer in the FL heat.
I didn't even have a referral from my OBGYN and just made my RE appointment myself. I was looking to switch OBGYN's, because I didn't like the one I was seeing all that much anymore at that point and thought why not just going to an RE? I had my CD3 b/w done and just today we did the SA and HSG. I also was afraid of them in the beginning but now that we are in the middle of it, I am just happy that we are moving forward. And if there is something really wrong with me or MH, at least we know and can get a new plan into place.
But you have to be mentally ready to start the testing, some are after a year, some later and some even sooner. I hope you get KU before May, but if not, I hope you find an amazing RE! More hugs to you, my friend.
That is funny, my birthday is Oct 6, my phantom is Oct 15, and my mom's birthday is Nov 21!!
Unexplained secondary infertility...bleh. Gave it a few more tries and BFP on 3/31
#1 Beta @ 10DPO: 9 #2 Beta @ 14DPO: 194
My BFP Chart
1. Originally we weren't going to start trying until February anyway, because I wanted an October/November baby. So this should be our month!
2. Grandmother's b-day is Halloween. My EDD would be 10/29/11. It would be nice to have a baby around her b-day.
3. Maternity leave around the holidays.