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ali-1411
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holding the door open
ali-1411
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Another s/o. Can you tell I'm extremely bored? Jakob's home sick today. Not much to do 
A few posters mentioned below teaching their sons to hold open doors.
Does that mean you don't hold open the door for people, men or women? I've always considered that the polite thing to do, not a man's thing to do.
Does your DH always open the door for you? We open the door for each other, just whoever gets there first gets the door.
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Re: holding the door open
I get downright mad (could possibly be the pregnancy hormones) when men don't hold the door open for me. If it's a woman, I expect her to simply give the door a little extra shove once she walks through, or hold it until I get there. The difference is that a man should let me enter the room first, but for the woman, I just want her to acknowledge that I'm there and give me a little 'help'.
the same is true when waiting for the elevators... i expect the men to wait until the women get on, then the men get on last (my feelings might change if we lived in a huge city where you might have too many people for everyone to fit on just one elevator). If all the women were also waiting for the men to board, then no one would ever get on.
I think door holding is universal. It's the polite thing to do, man or woman. I'll teach DD to do it, just because I think it's the right thing to do.
I don't care who is holding the door open for me, I just get pissed when I'm holding the door open for my kids/husband/friends/family and then other random people start walking through like I'm a damn doorholder. Screw that! Hold your own damn door!
If I have the boys with me and someone can see I'm struggling to wrangle them and they hold the door open for me, I want to kiss them--no matter if they're a man or a woman. I just thank them profusely. Everyone should open a door for someone if they're capable. It is not a gender thing.
Jay and I do the same thing--whoever gets to the door first, opens it for the other.
You know what I think is creepy? When a guy opens your car door and stands there while you get in and then closes the door behind you. Eww! Get away!
My thoughts exactly.
When I worked in a large office building downtown it irritated me to no end when men refused to get off the elevator before me and blocked the exit in the process. I can't tell you how many times I had to squeeze between two or three men because they wouldn't.frickin'.move. Just get out of the door and out of my way!!!!! And for the record I was born & raised in TX.
Ha! Jakob would drive you nuts if your child. He'll run ahead to open the door and then stand there forever while people are walking in. We'll all be in the store, waiting for him to stop playing doorman
There's a right way for men to do it. When I worked in Detroit - city full of cranky, mean people - the men would politely let the women enter or leave the elevator first. But only if there's a couple people there. Too many people and its like you said, its ridiculous.
My dad took me out to dinner in a nice restaurant one time, and we sat at the bar for awhile waiting for a table. I noticed that the seats were all full of women, their dates stood behind them. I thought that was neat
Why is that creepy?
Ew, it just IS! I can open my own car door and it just feels weird. And I always feel like I have to hurry up to get in the car so the guy isn't standing there forever. It's weird and I do not like it!
I guess I see it as chivalrous. To each their own!
I luuurve when the Rssn hold my car door open (and *gasp* waits there 'til I'm all the way in before he shuts it for me, too). Makes me feel all gooey and pampered.
I also hold the door open for him if I get there first, and I'll hold the door for others in public as well--both me and women. The only thing that ever pisses me off is when people don't say "thank you." I'm not doing it because I owe it to you, bassholes. ACKNOWLEDGE MY NICENESS!
If the door opens towards me, I open it and let whoever is right behind me through (even when I have all three kids with me, I can't help it. it feels rude otherwise.) but if it opens away from me I open it and walk through then hold the door open for anybody following me. Some men will take the door for me, others just walk through but women always just walk through (yes, even with all the kids).
I'll teach DD to do the same; male or female it's common courtesy and overall good manners.
What baffles me- when you're walking through an arctic entryway (are they called that here, or is there a "Texas" name for it?) and somebody holds both doors do you say thank you after both? Just one? Which one, the first or second? It seems redundant to say it twice.
I always say it twice, with a bigger smile and more emphasis the second time because they were doubly nice to mess with the second door as well.
I may or may not have been known to make a rude comment when not thanked for holding the door open. And a mean face. And a childish noise. And occasionally a finger salute. I hate rude people.
"There is a fine line between a princess and a witch...thinking you're one does NOT give you the right to act like the other." my grandmother
DH always opens the door for me and will open the car door if he's not holding a child. I think it's adorable and sweet.
I always hold the door for people and DD *loves* to play doorman. She will run in front and hold the door for everyone, including strangers. We think it's nice and thank her every time. As far as teaching it to my kids- I will show them both that it's polite for them to do for other people, but I imagine we will specifically talk to DS about holding doors for girls, on dates, etc.
Ditto Froggi!
I actually love having the door held open for me, etc., but man, it could be a pain in the arse with an elevator full of men trying to be polite and let me out first!
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oh this is one of my huge pet peeves- being at work and the men waiting for you to get on or off the elevator first even if they are standing closer to the door. and they put their arm out to "hold open the door" as if the elevator doesn't actually do that already. seriously i just want to get to work or go home, everyone please just enter or exit the elevator as fast as possible!
sometimes ill stand there a couple extra seconds just because it annoys me so much that no one will move until i have!
now if my DH wants to hold open a door for me, i'm ok with that...
Since I work in that same building, I can so say that it so true. Um, hello, please MOVE so that I can get off on my floor. And that goes for men and women.
Married and it feels so good!
Sometimes I forget and my DH actually gets annoyed. He goes to try to hold a door for me, and I go flying through it. He almost always holds doors for me. And I love it.
I agree with PP about men holding doors for women and allowing them to go through first. Women with other women, just a "help" out and a "thank you" is what I'm used to.