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TTC After a Loss
Kristipie
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Having a pity party at my desk right now
Kristipie
member
So, today at lunch I found out that one of my co-workers is pregnant and due about a month before I was. My friend that told me about it "forgot" about my loss and was really insensitive about how she brought it up as she hates our now pregnant co-worker ("Fantastic news - co-worker is pregnant and I won't have to deal with her for a year if she takes her full mat leave!") 
Then an hour later I find out that another woman at our office is pregnant from someone else who doesn't know about my loss (I don't even ask when or how far along). I work in non-profit and our office is 95% women, so someone is always pregnant.
The final blow comes a few minutes ago when I get an email from a close friend out west who knows about my loss and has been really sensitive and amazing about it. She had told me a week ago her sister was pregnant after 3 years of trying and multiple miscarriages. I'm so happy for her sister as I can only imagine a small amount of what she has gone through over the past years and this does give me hope that it will happen for me too. However, we were talking about my friend's bachelorette in Vegas at the end of April and how she hopes I can be there and wants to give me lots of notice so I can save up/get time off, but it can't be later as her sister won't be able to travel beyond early May. Things start clicking into place and I ask when her sister's actual due date is (knowing that it has to be late July, as mine was). I just got her response. Her sister is due on my exact due date.
I don't know how I will make it through a weekend away in April, with someone who is where I was supposed to be and then a weekend away in October for the actual wedding with a baby that is the same age as mine would have been. Not going is not an option as my friend has been amazing and "will do whatever it takes to make things easier for me". I'm also feeling like a horrible person for being jealous of someone who so deserves a take home baby. She deserves for it to be her turn.
Ok - long rant over (and if you made it through this you deserve some chocolate). Sucking it up now.
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Re: Having a pity party at my desk right now
(((hugs))) You don't have to give me chocolate for listening to your rant, it's all completely understandable. You sound like you are trying hard to make the best of things, I can tell that you are a very considerate person, therefore, the chocolate is for you!
BFP 12/05/10 (EDD 8/8/11), empty gestational sac 12/31/10, natural miscarriage 01/05/11
BFP 03/03/11, EDD 11/09/11, We love you so much already, our sweet little munchkin!!!
*Congrats to buddies MrsAtch, cflocco, MommyandKate, luckylady55, opallover, trishiepoo, stephsteph77, and Pachita! Praying for healthy babies for all of you!*
*Congrats to my buddy, Izabella22 (BFP 5/11/11)!!!Sending you Ts and Ps for a healthy, take-home baby!
*Congrats to my buddy, myaddiwaddi06(BFP 10/31/11)!!!Sending you Ts and Ps for a healthy, take-home baby!
Because of the great "Snow"vember of 2015, my medicated cycle was cancelled. However, we were blessed with our little rainbow baby due on 8/14/15! Baby J had other plans and decided to make his grand ole entrance on 7/4/2015!
Surprise! Our little girl entered this world on 12/8/2016 after her eviction notice was long past due. Our little turkey baby turned into a snow baby!
BFP#1: 7/23/10, EDD 4/1/11, MC/DNC 9/29/10(14wks)
BFP#2: 1/12/11 CP (6 Weeks)
BFP#3: 6/26/11, EDD 3/4/12, Natural MC 8/5/11 (10wks)
ITS A BOY!!!! Born 11/13/11 BFP #4: 10/29/12 edd 7/11/12
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Thanks - I didn't see too many other Toronto ladies, but maybe we should have a GTG at some point.
Wow - I can't imagine that every day. Although I do have to say that the nurses when I was going through my miscarriage were some of the most amazing people I've ever met and many told me that they had been there too. Their compassion was overwhelming and it takes a special person to go through this and then turn around and help others going through it.
Thanks everyone and I will be having a nice big glass of wine tonight with some proscuitto and brie followed by chocolate and catch up on the Bachelor that I missed on Monday night and is still sitting in the PVR. (can you tell I'm a bit food obsessed?)
All of your support is exactly what I needed and although I have not been posting here very long, I can't wait to start seeing some of your BFPs very soon. I really appreciate it.
Missed M/C discoverd at 10w5d measuring 6w6d on 12/3/10 said goodbye 12/12/10 EDD 6/26/11 "this too shall pass"
DS Born 9/29/2005 via c-section (breech)
BFP #3 3/7/11 - EDD 11/17/11
Betas: @14dpo-182 @18dpo-854!! @21dpo-3124!!!
3-27-11 150 BPM!!!!
He's a BOY!!!! Kieran Thomas