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POLL: FAMILY DRAMA
anyone have good family drama?
we have just a little...my dad's sisters are both crazy...don't talk to my g-parents (one hasn't been around for 20+ years and the other went crazy about 6 years ago). my g-parents are incredible, but they have some $ and their daughters want it. isn't that sad? my gps are getting older, i hope their daughters don't regret missing out. my one aunt used to be around for holidays etc, but she hasnt spoken to me in 6+ years either.
money tears families apart. i know what hte will says (i am the executor) and when my gparents pass, i think their daughters will feel awful because everything is evenly divided between their three kids even though their daughters are bia_tches.
mom to Noel 3.17.07 Morgan 4.9.08 Taylor 10.27.10 Baby #4 Due in July mc 2.3.06
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Re: POLL: FAMILY DRAMA
We have family drama on my side of the family. Currently my parents haven't spoken to my older brother and his wife since my dad's parents' funeral this summer.
The holidays should be interesting this year, to say the least.
The funny (more weird than haha) thing to me is that what started the drama is the dumbest thing EVER to get bent out of shape about - and the reaction to it was WAY over the top. '
I'm not all that broken up over it - I witnessed everything that went down and think my parents are 100% in the right over this and my brother and his wife owe them HUGE apologies, which is likely to never happen. I can only say I am thankful that my parents have 4 other kids that treat them well and would never act that way.
Just found out this morning that my BIL is leaving on a hunting vacation the Saturday morning after Thanksgiving. My sister and BIL A-L-W-A-Y-S spend the actual holiday with his side of the family, and my sister has to work on Friday........so the only day that my family can do Thanksgiving is the Saturday after Thanksgiving without my BIL. Oh, and DH, myself, and DS are expected to drive the 2 hours there to see them.
This is the same thing that happens every year, with every holiday. We revolve the holidays around my sister and BIL, though BIL never, ever bothers to make seeing our family a priority.
After 10 years, it's getting REALLY tiring. I almost feel like telling them to forget about it this year......we'll just plan on something for next year.
First of all, I think you are kidding yourself if you think th daughters will feel bad. If anything, they will feel nothing but entitlement and have zero remorse fro treating their family so poorly.
But to answer your question, there is zero family drama on my side. We all get along great, genuinely like each other and act mostly sane. Also, we have no money to speak of but my sister and I would each gladly give up the bigger share to help each other out. I have even suggested to my parents that they should leave more to my sister, since her family has a single income whereas I am part of a two income household. My parents insist everything should be equal, though.
There is always drama on DH's side. He and his sister get along great. Their mom, however, is a loon. She has lots of money and constantly tries to use it to drive a wedge between her kids. I think she believes if she can drive her children apart then she can be the queen bee. It never works though. All it ever does is push the kids closer togerther and MIL ends up on the outside. It's pretty pathetic--MIL spends all of her time trying to use her money to manipulate her children into "loving" her and it has had the opposite effect.
First of all, I think you are kidding yourself if you think th daughters will feel bad. If anything, they will feel nothing but entitlement and have zero remorse fro treating their family so poorly.
But to answer your question, there is zero family drama on my side. We all get along great, genuinely like each other and act mostly sane. Also, we have no money to speak of but my sister and I would each gladly give up the bigger share to help each other out. I have even suggested to my parents that they should leave more to my sister, since her family has a single income whereas I am part of a two income household. My parents insist everything should be equal, though.
There is always drama on DH's side. He and his sister get along great. Their mom, however, is a loon. She has lots of money and constantly tries to use it to drive a wedge between her kids. I think she believes if she can drive her children apart then she can be the queen bee. It never works though. All it ever does is push the kids closer togerther and MIL ends up on the outside. It's pretty pathetic--MIL spends all of her time trying to use her money to manipulate her children into "loving" her and it has had the opposite effect.
Oh, real family drama?
One of my mother's brothers is an alcoholic. I haven't seen him in close to 10 years. Even though he lives in the same town that I grew up in and my family still lives. My mother sees him maybe once every other year......if it's more than that, it's purely on accident. My grandfather (mother's father) lives with my parents and still sees my uncle regularly.......it provides a bit of tension sometimes, especially when my uncle is broke again and grandpa is giving him money from his meager bank account.
true flem. i guess i should say i hope they feel bad when they realize that their parents would do things fairly.
my mom says my one aunt is cranky because she doenst have kids (she didnt marry until she was 40+). so she is upset that we (my sisters and i) get so much from my grandparents. my grandmother explains that "when she and her dh come to dinner there are two steaks. when aaron and the girls (my dad) come there are 5. everyone eats and is happy." basically said aunt wants my family of five to spilt 2 steaks because that is what they get.....lol. does that even make sense?
i should add that i have a cousin that we have only met 1 in his 18 years of life....there is money for him for college and such set aside (the same amount we all got).
Big family = lots of drama...most of it my mom stays out of, but we always hear the scoop....lets see, recent drama.
My Aunt L and Uncle M have 4 kids. One is becoming a doctor and thats' the only one they talk about...other 3 are alcoholics, why? Aunt L and Uncle M. have provided them alcohol all through highschool.....they have been in multiple car accidents and are just a train wreck, yet they have the balls to tell my mom that my mom messed up with my sister, since my sister lived at home until she was married....which honestly was pretty smart of my sister because she has about 10 times as much money in her retirement than I do.
Aunt L and Uncle M also moved into my Grandma and Grandpa's house. They couldn't afford to buy it, but my Gma and Gpa felt bad since they had 4 kids in a small house (hello, don't have 4 kids if you can't afford them...or suck it up in the space you have). SO everyone was grumpy about that...super big house for super cheap.
Aunt L kisses my Aunt N's butt. Aunt N is rich. Giant Mcmansion, plus 4 beach houses...2 they rent out, 2 just for their personal use. Aunt L calls Aunt N all the time and then begs to use their beach house for their family vacations...for free.
Uncle S. is the drunk. But my grandma defends him all the time. Uncle G. is off his rocker...something happened to him. All my Aunts and Uncles went to college...it was a requirement for my grandparents for their kids to go to college...but when my grandpa and grandma brought Uncle G to college, something happened...no one is sure what (or doesn't talk about it) and he ended up in a psych ward for several months....and know farms....successfully, married with grown kids, and is fine, but it is still the hush, hush story.
There's soooooo much more. Stuff with my cousins (I have 36 first cousins)....But most of them live in Ohio, so we (and my Aunt N in California) are removed from most of it and stay out. If my grandma ever dies, it will be ginormous family drama, I'm sure. When she moved into the nursing home last year, there was drama with that. My mom wanted one necklace that she wasn't taking with her to the home because she didn't want it stollen...and the aunts who live in town were not happy that my mom asked for it....yet the aunts who live in town took soooooo much more. Furniture that she didn't take with her, the rest of the jewelry..etc, etc. One necklace...that I wore for my wedding, and my sisters' wedding....none of the other cousins wore it, so it didn't mean as much to anyone as it did to my mom and myself.
that sucks, squish!
and yeah--I have sister drama! so annoying!