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feeling soo stupid (vent)

pnkfaeriepnkfaerie member
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I decided i'd be nice and contact a friend who had gotten pregnant right after I did. Her pregnancy is going perfectly and I had abandoned her FB page and twitter as soon as I found she was having a son. Anyway, I text her and I was like, I'm glad everything is going well for you.

She replys , thanks but I don't know who this number belongs to. How nice, she got rid of my phone number. Some friend. Then she proceeds to tell me that she was sooo hurt and offended by me not talking to her. 

Does she not get it. MY SON DIED IN MY ARMS!!!! Hers is still in her and perfectly happy and nothing is wrong with him and she has the balls to be mad at ME? 

I've officially just hit the anger part of grief and I feel about ready to kill. I want to scream and fight and tell the dumb b*tch off. She can't come back and be like, I understand what you're going through because she has NO idea. none. 

I can't believe I bothered to be nice. It just wasn't worth it. now I just feel super stupid because now I have all these feelings and she just ended her conversation with im going to bed now. UGHHH

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DS1 11/2010 (angel)
DS2 5/2012
DS3 4/2015
New baby 6/2020
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Re: feeling soo stupid (vent)

  • MrsMitty08MrsMitty08
    I am sorry for your loss and I am sorry you are going through this with your friend...what an awful situation.  I think I'd be feeling exactly how you are...you tried to make amends with the friendship and she isn't even taking your feelings or the loss you have suffered into consideration.
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  • laurenaclaurenac

    First, I am very sorry for your loss.  Second, I am sorry you had to deal with a person like that! 

     

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  • fireflies0306fireflies0306

    You are a much bigger person than I am.  I don't care to try to make amends with any of my friends who are pregnant or just gave birth.  I'm having a hard enough time dealing with pregnant women I don't personally know!  

    But I am so sorry she wasn't receptive to you.  Maybe tomorrow the hormones will kick back in for her, and then she'll realize what a donkey butt she was to you.  And if not, at least you know you did what you thought was the right thing, and tried to make peace.  she's the insensitive one!

    i know people don't get what we are going through, but sometimes i think pregnant people avoid us like the plague as well because what we went through/ are going through might be contagious!

    {big hugs} 

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  • spacedolphin11spacedolphin11 member

    This:

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    sometimes i think pregnant people avoid us like the plague as well because what we went through/ are going through might be contagious!

    Also: I'm so sorry you had to experience that with your 'friend'. You definitely were the bigger person, and she had no right to treat you like that - you have every right to be angry. Hopefully she won't say anything (else) stupid and will realize what a jerk she's being... but if not, try not to stress over it. People who treat you like that aren't worth your time.

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  • taurus424taurus424 member

    well you certainly dont need self centered people like that in your life. you need supportive caring understanding people. surround yourself with these people.

    it is horrible to have a loss. i feel your pain. Keep your head held high

     

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  • tonesqtonesq
    She does not sound like a very good friend.  I am guessing your healing process will be easier without her.  I am very sorry you had to go through this. 
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  • pnkfaeriepnkfaerie member
    I'm deleting her from my phone and I'm glad she lives no where near me and that i'll never have to talk to her again. She doesn't get it. She needs to hop off her broomstick.
    married 9/2010
    DS1 11/2010 (angel)
    DS2 5/2012
    DS3 4/2015
    New baby 6/2020
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