Has DH had a night alone with LO?

SuperThat1006 · January 2011

Found out yesterday I'm going to have to go on a three-day trip for work at the end of February.

Me: "Are you nervous?"

DH: "No ... yes ..."

mocklerja · January 2011

Not yet. I am sure he would be fine...I think the biggest problem DH would have is hearing him if he wakes up in the night. DH sleeps like he is a corpse.

MommaEm · January 2011

Nope, the most he's had is a couple of hours!

Good luck, I'm sure he'll do great!

Alison5437 · January 2011

Not a night, but he has had a couple of full days with her. DH is a big one on trying to put her to sleep all the time. I think he gets bored with her...

KoalaBear103 · January 2011

No and I don't think DH would be comfortable with it. He'd do fine, except at night. he's awful at gettin up with him and we bedshare right now and DH is not comfortable having R by him at all at night

cherie82 · January 2011

Mine wouldn't stay alone. I'm sure that he would go and stay at his Mom's house. I don't think that he has enough confidence to stay w/ him alone.

MrsJeffers2006 · January 2011

My DH actually does all the night time work. I get up and get the bottle ready for him, but he feeds and puts DS back to sleep. We started doing it this way because I had the flu, and then had surgery so I was out of commission for a week or so. B was waking up much less, too. The past few days, though, DS has been waking up every hour-2hrs, so I have been taking the early morning shift.

scoutkate · January 2011

Yesp, just last week, actually. He did much better than I expected. I was proud and also a little butt-hurt that I wasn't needed as much as I thought.

jamiemsmith · January 2011

New years weekend we were supposed to go to ILs for Christmas with them. Well my mom had to be hospitalized, so I stayed and sent them on their way with tons of frozen BM. He did great! Then again, he had the support of his family around him. Don't worry, he'll do a great job too.

detokiet · January 2011

Nope. Though DH left for a weekend when DS was about 4 weeks old.... DH had a weekend planned months before where he had to help his friends drive their cars up north to store them. Though he would not have gone if I had really asked him to stay. And my BFF came over and slept on my couch to help me out.... She got up with him and I slept (though of course Mommy-Ears that I have, I totally woke up every time)!

SuperThat1006 · January 2011

scoutkate:
Yesp, just last week, actually. He did much better than I expected. I was proud and also a little butt-hurt that I wasn't needed as much as I thought.

Do you nurse?

Kara5109 · January 2011

No, and I'm not going to lie...I would be nervous about my DH.

He seems to think she is a 4 year old instead of a 4 month sometimes and it makes me nervous. Also, he claims he never hears her cry at night and if she is really upset he can't seem to calm her down.

McJen715 · January 2011

Awww, he'll do great!! I think they get nervous and then it turns out to not be as bad or hard as they expected.

My H has only been alone for 2 hours, I went to dinner with some girls from my local board last week and he watched her. He said he was thinking, "This isn't so bad!" and then looked at the clock and it had only been 10 minutes. A while later he said he thought, "When is Jen going to be home?" and looked at the clock and it was only 10 minutes later than before. But he survived the 2 hours and I think it gave him the confidence that if I was gone for longer he could do it.

KJmashup · January 2011

Yes, when I had to be readmitted to the hospital 5 days after I was discharged from postpartum. He had a 4-night crash course in taking care of a newborn by himself. He managed well, because he had to, but it gave him the confidence he needed.

SuperThat1006 · January 2011

McJen715:
Awww, he'll do great!! I think they get nervous and then it turns out to not be as bad or hard as they expected.

My H has only been alone for 2 hours, I went to dinner with some girls from my local board last week and he watched her. He said he was thinking, "This isn't so bad!" and then looked at the clock and it had only been 10 minutes. A while later he said he thought, "When is Jen going to be home?" and looked at the clock and it was only 10 minutes later than before. But he survived the 2 hours and I think it gave him the confidence that if I was gone for longer he could do it.

HAHAHA that cracked me up

pazrana · January 2011

No, and when I go out of town in April MIL is flying in to help him out. =-P

bridetobe920 · January 2011

DH has not been with her overnight, but has had her for full days at a time. He also helped a lot in the middle of the night, as we would take turns. I think he would be totally fine overnight Big Smile

topbirdsix · January 2011

pazrana:
No, and when I go out of town in April MIL is flying in to help him out. =-P

Similarly, I have already arranged overnight help when I got out of town at the end of May.

AshleyS26 · January 2011

He hasn't had her alone all night, but he is home during the day (he works the night shift) and I just started working 4 hours in the morning (for FIL doing paper work) and then another job in the afternoon for a few hours. DH watched LO in the morning and I take her with me to my second job. He does great with her. I think he has a hard time with the early mornings because he works nights, he tells me that he loves the fact that she takes naps every 3 hours LOL.

I would be a little nervous about leaving him alone with her over night just because he is a very deep sleeper. I have had LO in bed with us and she will be screaming right next to him and he just goes on snoring away while I try to get her calmed down and back to sleep.

drewiekc · January 2011

Not yet, but he will next weekend. My friends and I have an annual "grown-ass women sleep over" where we all ditch our husbands and kids and get plastered and pass out on someone's floor. Nothing better than a bunch of 30-somethings having a slumber party! So he will get his first solo overnight shift when I go to that. I'm not too worried, he's been home with her all day a number of times and does great with her, and she typically STTN so he shoudlnt have to get up with her at all.

I'm sure your DH will do great! I think it's good for them to have some occasional "single parent" duty like that. I'm still BFing, but will just take my pump with me and pump a couple of times. I'm not the first one in our group to have to do that.

blondek8 · January 2011

My DH had an entire weekend alone with our twins last weekend. I was playing in a hockey tournament 4 hours north of where we live. He wanted the weekend to spend with his boys. His parents came over to help him with bathtime/bedtime and help make dinner but he did the vast majority of the work by himself. No small task I might add. He's pretty much SuperDad/SuperHusband.

Mrs.Eisensmith · January 2011

Actually, DH has never been alone with DS. If DS isn't with me, he's with MIL or FIL.

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danielle0278 · January 2011

Yes, 3 nights a week. I am a nurse and work 7P-7A. My DH does great with her!

scoutkate · January 2011

ChrissieW3:
scoutkate:
Yesp, just last week, actually. He did much better than I expected. I was proud and also a little butt-hurt that I wasn't needed as much as I thought.
Do you nurse?

Just in case you come back to this thread--yes, I do. Exclusively when I'm home, and she gets bottles with a mix of BM and formula while at daycare. While I was gone (for two days and one night) DH used frozen BM and formula for her daycare bottles and freshly pumped BM for her home bottles. Everything went really smoothly, and I added to my freezer stash big time by pumping while I was gone.

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