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ondjima · January 2011

Some lady in 3rd tri (yes I lurk there, pathetic I know) wants to name her daughter after her friend who has IF in her honor, but her DH does not like the name. So she texted her IF friend to ask her what she would have named a baby girl if she ever had one. I think I am being hormonal, but if one of my fertile friends asked me that in a text I would probably have to throat punch them.

What do you think?

ondjima · January 2011

Oh right and the link:

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/48035597.aspx

ashleyann82 · January 2011

While the thought is sweet, I would give a serious side eye because for one I'd be pissed that she wanted to steal my future daughter I may never have's name and two, I would be mad that her DH didn't "like my name enough" to name his kid after me.

So, nice thought but kinda not going to work out......

heathercara · January 2011

I think if DH didn't like her name, the "honor" should have been dropped. I would be hurt and a little angry if I had to hear my desired baby name every time she talked about her child. Like a knife in the back reminder (that I won't get to name my daughter that) constantly.

MrsLoos · January 2011

That whole post is weird. I agree with you and would be angry and offended if any of my fertile friends did that. I also think all the 3rd tri ladies are giving her horrible advice. If one of my fertile friends called me up and said she wanted to name her child either after me or use one of "my names" because I couldn't have kids I would be annoyed. What do you say to that? And then that child would always be a reminder of your IF.

ondjima · January 2011

MrsLoos:
That whole post is weird. I agree with you and would be angry and offended if any of my fertile friends did that. I also think all the 3rd tri ladies are giving her horrible advice. If one of my fertile friends called me up and said she wanted to name her child either after me or use one of "my names" because I couldn't have kids I would be annoyed. What do you say to that? And then that child would always be a reminder of your IF.

But at least it seems that your friends would have the class to CALL you. This wench just sent a text. I wonder if it was something like this

"Pregnancy is gr8, picking names is hard, so is math, what was that name you were gonna use but now you can't? I want it. In your honor of course, lol!"

baloneydisc · January 2011

MrsLoos:

That whole post is weird. I agree with you and would be angry and offended if any of my fertile friends did that. I also think all the 3rd tri ladies are giving her horrible advice. If one of my fertile friends called me up and said she wanted to name her child either after me or use one of "my names" because I couldn't have kids I would be annoyed. What do you say to that? And then that child would always be a reminder of your IF.

All of this, but especially the bolded part. I can't believe not a single person told her this is a bad idea.

magnolia_femme · January 2011

I think it's awful. Totally awful. It never ceases to amaze me how fertile people can come up with new ways to be completely insensitive to IFers.

MrsLoos · January 2011

ondjima:
MrsLoos:

That whole post is weird. I agree with you and would be angry and offended if any of my fertile friends did that. I also think all the 3rd tri ladies are giving her horrible advice. If one of my fertile friends called me up and said she wanted to name her child either after me or use one of "my names" because I couldn't have kids I would be annoyed. What do you say to that? And then that child would always be a reminder of your IF.

But at least it seems that your friends would have the class to CALL you. This wench just sent a text. I wonder if it was something like this

"Pregnancy is gr8, picking names is hard, so is math, what was that name you were gonna use but now you can't? I want it. In your honor of course, lol!"

I would like to think my friends would never even think to do anything like this. And frankly if they did it wouldn't matter how they did it - text, email, phone call, telegram- we wouldn't be friends anymore. But I'm a biitch like that:))

ondjima · January 2011

heathercara:
I think if DH didn't like her name, the "honor" should have been dropped. I would be hurt and a little angry if I had to hear my desired baby name every time she talked about her child. Like a knife in the back reminder (that I won't get to name my daughter that) constantly.

I know! You hit it on the head! I can't even imagine how painful that would be.

blueberries8 · January 2011

I think that her heart is in the right place, but that it is a twisted and horrible idea! :-/

99luftballoons · January 2011

Is this girl for real? Your friend can't have a baby, so you're going to steal her girl's name and you think that's an "honor"? And why would you post it on 3rd tri, how about the IF or SAIF board? This girl is a jerk.

Glowconsin · January 2011

magnolia_femme:
I think it's awful. Totally awful. It never ceases to amaze me how fertile people can come up with new ways to be completely insensitive to IFers.

I couldn't agree more. I am never ceased to be amazed at how heartless and completely thoughtless so many people are.

And the biitch texted to her what would she name "If" not "when". That's such a "haha, I'm pregnant, you're not" backhanded, slap in the face if ever I've seen.

Almost makes the "Someone in this universe thought that I would be fit as a mother and as of 14 weeks ago we are parents to be!!! Can?t wait to share a BIG glass of VINO with you all when this insanity is finally over considering that this is the most sober I?ve been in 14 years (no joke!) I know sad, but true. T and, well, I are prego!"

... I received via email a couple weeks ago, well thought out

ETA: I obviously didn't read the 3rd tri thread before I wrote.

ondjima · January 2011

Glowconsin:
magnolia_femme:
I think it's awful. Totally awful. It never ceases to amaze me how fertile people can come up with new ways to be completely insensitive to IFers.

I couldn't agree more. I am never ceased to be amazed at how heartless and completely thoughtless so many people are.

And the biitch texted to her what would she name "If" not "when". That's such a "haha, I'm pregnant, you're not" backhanded, slap in the face if ever I've seen.

Almost makes the "Someone in this universe thought that I would be fit as a mother and as of 14 weeks ago we are parents to be!!! Can?t wait to share a BIG glass of VINO with you all when this insanity is finally over considering that this is the most sober I?ve been in 14 years (no joke!) I know sad, but true. T and, well, I are prego!"

... I received via email a couple weeks ago, well thought out

ETA: I obviously didn't read the 3rd tri thread before I wrote.

Awesome.

Today dh asked why I did not want to go see a movie about AIDS orphans and I snapped "Because I cannot understand why it seems that Aids victims and crack whores are more fit for motherhood than I am!!"

Glowconsin · January 2011

ondjima:
Awesome.
Today dh asked why I did not want to go see a movie about AIDS orphans and I snapped "Because I cannot understand why it seems that Aids victims and crack whores are more fit for motherhood than I am!!"

One day, SL, you are I will be awesome mommies.

ondjima · January 2011

It is true!

MrsVo · January 2011

WOW. I am honestly speechless at that post.

peppersnic · January 2011

Thats weird either way!!! So its like she is saying since you can't have a kid, i am gonna use your name for you??? I don;t like it. I see where it could be a nice gesture, but I would take it personal.

ondjima · January 2011

MrsVo:
WOW. I am honestly speechless at that post.

What? You mean you don't want to hand out precious baby names to people with prolific vaginas?

Glowconsin · January 2011

ondjima:

MrsVo:
WOW. I am honestly speechless at that post.

What? You mean you don't want to hand out precious baby names to people with prolific vaginas?

Man, you are on top of your witty phrases today!

Just in case you weren't aware, I PPH you!

ondjima · January 2011

Glowconsin:
ondjima:

MrsVo:
WOW. I am honestly speechless at that post.

What? You mean you don't want to hand out precious baby names to people with prolific vaginas?

Man, you are on top of your witty phrases today!

Just in case you weren't aware, I PPH you!

Big Smile

leecrystalwed08 · January 2011

LMFAO!! Throat Punch Her!

MrsVo · January 2011

ondjima:

MrsVo:
WOW. I am honestly speechless at that post.

What? You mean you don't want to hand out precious baby names to people with prolific vaginas?

LOLOLOL @ "prolific vag"

ondjima · January 2011

MrsVo:
ondjima:

MrsVo:
WOW. I am honestly speechless at that post.

What? You mean you don't want to hand out precious baby names to people with prolific vaginas?

LOLOLOL @ "prolific vag"

You have the cutest siggy pic ever. I LOVE pugs!

MrsVo · January 2011

ondjima:
MrsVo:
ondjima:

MrsVo:
WOW. I am honestly speechless at that post.

What? You mean you don't want to hand out precious baby names to people with prolific vaginas?

LOLOLOL @ "prolific vag"

You have the cutest siggy pic ever. I LOVE pugs!

Thank you!! I love them too Those are my girls, Eugenie on the left and Eudora on the right. Called Genie and Dora most of the time.

I can't see your siggy pic here at the office. Booo! I'll have to look from home!

ondjima · January 2011

MrsVo:
ondjima:
MrsVo:
ondjima:

MrsVo:
WOW. I am honestly speechless at that post.

What? You mean you don't want to hand out precious baby names to people with prolific vaginas?

LOLOLOL @ "prolific vag"

You have the cutest siggy pic ever. I LOVE pugs!

Thank you!! I love them too Those are my girls, Eugenie on the left and Eudora on the right. Called Genie and Dora most of the time.

I can't see your siggy pic here at the office. Booo! I'll have to look from home!

Cute names! It is of one of our Christmas ornaments, a wire beaded penguin.

99luftballoons · January 2011

Where can I get me one of them prolific vaginas? Do they sell them at Walmart?

ondjima · January 2011

99luftballoons:
Where can I get me one of them prolific vaginas? Do they sell them at Walmart?

You betcha! Check the clown car department.

firewife9278 · January 2011

ondjima:

heathercara:
I think if DH didn't like her name, the "honor" should have been dropped. I would be hurt and a little angry if I had to hear my desired baby name every time she talked about her child. Like a knife in the back reminder (that I won't get to name my daughter that) constantly.

I know! You hit it on the head! I can't even imagine how painful that would be.

This was exactly my thought when I read this post. UGHHHHH.

99luftballoons · January 2011

ondjima:

99luftballoons:
Where can I get me one of them prolific vaginas? Do they sell them at Walmart?

You betcha! Check the clown car department.

Hahaha

Glowconsin · January 2011

99, you know the worst part about that picture?? That's not even the up to date family. there are a bunch missing.

The funniest thing I think I've ever read about that family on here was something along the lines of "I bet her labias are dragging on the floor by now."

LOL.

ondjima · January 2011

99luftballoons:
ondjima:

99luftballoons:
Where can I get me one of them prolific vaginas? Do they sell them at Walmart?

You betcha! Check the clown car department.

Hahaha

YES!!!! That is exactly what I had in mind!!

99luftballoons · January 2011

You are right Glow, it's crazy! Plus, let's not forget the grandkids. Gross.

The labia line is hilarious. I once read a comment about her labor, something like- must be so easy, they just walk right out of her vagina at this point hahaha

ondjima · January 2011

Ugh. My MIL LOVES this family. She is always talking about what a great family they are.

She told me the other day "there is always adoption." Confused

Glowconsin · January 2011

99luftballoons:

You are right Glow, it's crazy! Plus, let's not forget the grandkids. Gross.

The labia line is hilarious. I once read a comment about her labor, something like- must be so easy, they just walk right out of her vagina at this point hahaha

I will take it one step further and say that Jim-Bob probably doesn't even know he's in her anymore. It's probably like doing a damp cloth.

Glowconsin · January 2011

ondjima:

Ugh. My MIL LOVES this family. She is always talking about what a great family they are.

She told me the other day "there is always adoption."

I used to stalk the mb: freejinger and they always snark on Fundy families. If you really think about the Duggar's, it's pretty sad. She doesn't know her babies/children at all. As soon as they're 6 months old, she hands them off to her older girls as a "buddy" a.k.a stand in mom. The older girls are so burdened and the boys don't do much. Michelle is addicted to having babies.

ondjima · January 2011

That is so true Glow. I have watched one episode of that show, it is sad that those kids don't get to be kids at all. When do they get to just be a family rather than a children's home. The kids we work with that stay at children;s homes are pretty screwed up. I think you are right that she is addicted. I am having a rough week, I cannot understand why some people are fertile and some are not. It seems so random.

99luftballoons · January 2011

ondjima:

YES!!!! That is exactly what I had in mind!!

Girl, I was definitely picking up what you were putting down

Glow- The Jim Bob line is terrible, I LOVE IT! lol

Glowconsin · January 2011

ondjima:
That is so true Glow. I have watched one episode of that show, it is sad that those kids don't get to be kids at all. When do they get to just be a family rather than a children's home. The kids we work with that stay at children;s homes are pretty screwed up. I think you are right that she is addicted. I am having a rough week, I cannot understand why some people are fertile and some are not. It seems so random.

((hugs)), love. I totally understand what your're saying.

99luftballoons · January 2011

ondjima:
That is so true Glow. I have watched one episode of that show, it is sad that those kids don't get to be kids at all. When do they get to just be a family rather than a children's home. The kids we work with that stay at children;s homes are pretty screwed up. I think you are right that she is addicted. I am having a rough week, I cannot understand why some people are fertile and some are not. It seems so random.

I 1000% agree with this. I don't get why people that are such fans of them don't see this. If her daughters want children some day, let them decide for themselves. Forcing them to be mothers to their sisters because you have pregnancy addiction is completely selfish. They deserve to be able to just be kids.

jiffy-pop · January 2011

Oh no she didn't!! That would pretty much be telling your friend that she is NEVER going to have a baby and that you want to use her name since "obviously" she isn't ever going to be able to use it. That just makes my blood boil! Does pregnancy really make you that thick-headed?

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