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September 2011 Moms
Geekchick921
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Anyone else going to be team green?
Geekchick921
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We found out we were expecting a girl with Sarah. I don't think we're going to find out this time. We really just have no preference (great to have a son, but great for Sarah to have a sister) and I feel like finding out the sex of my baby will be one more little motivator for VBACing. Plus there are so few real surprises in life, you know?
I'm sure my sister is going to hate it, because she'll want to buy gender-specific clothes and toys (God we really don't need more infant toys), but I'm kind of looking forward to doing a gender-neutral nursery.
Wife, mom, Ob/Gyn resident
Sarah - 12/23/2008
Alex - 9/30/2011
"I say embrace the total geek in yourself and just enjoy it. Life is too short to be cool." - Shirley Manson, Garbage
Sarah - 12/23/2008
Alex - 9/30/2011
"I say embrace the total geek in yourself and just enjoy it. Life is too short to be cool." - Shirley Manson, Garbage
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Re: Anyone else going to be team green?
We're on team green as well! Didn't find out with DD and don't want to find out with this one for the same reasons you listed.
I'm sure your sister will be able to buy you plenty of gender-specific things after DC arrives!
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Oh I know. She'll get over it,but she'll gripe beforehand. She actually paid for an U/S at a fetal imaging place for us because we didn't get a good shot of her undercarriage at our anatomy U/S and she was that desperate to know.
Sarah - 12/23/2008
Alex - 9/30/2011
"I say embrace the total geek in yourself and just enjoy it. Life is too short to be cool." - Shirley Manson, Garbage
I have mixed feelings myself!
Initially I couldn't wait to find out.
But I am hoping to go down the VBAC route too & absolutely think it would be a great motivator.
We'll see............
We didn't find out with our DD and we won't find out this time!
My one piece of advice is to be sure to let the Dr that will be delivering your baby know that you do not know the sex. Our nurses knew, but no one told the Dr and she put my DD on me once she was born and I had to ask, "what is it?" She was like, "a girl." NOT the moment I was expecting!
**Edit: My practice has many Drs and I had never met the delviering Dr before, so she wouldn't have a clue prior to meeting me that I didn't know the sex. I wish I had told her or had asked someone else to do so. I just thought it was standard practice, regardless with people finding out the sex, for them to say "It's a XYXY!" I guess I have seen too many movies.**
Aww that sucks! How anticlimactic.
I am delivering with a CNM this time, and she is going to be the one that delivers me, and she will definitely know I am team green. I am so excited to be seeing her. She has a really good reputation, especially for VBAC success, in the Philadelphia area.
Sarah - 12/23/2008
Alex - 9/30/2011
"I say embrace the total geek in yourself and just enjoy it. Life is too short to be cool." - Shirley Manson, Garbage
DH really, really, really wants to be team green. But I really, really, really want to find out ASAP. So we compromised that for this pregnancy, we'll find out and for the next one, God willing, we will "be surprised." I think I'll be equally excited (and less drugged up) being "surprised" at my 20-week (or whatever) ultrasound. But that's just me and DH doesn't feel that way at ALL.
(I put the word surprise in quotes because people always say this, but I don't get how it's a surprise. It's like the most significant coin toss of your life, but I don't think I'd be shocked or astonished at either heads or tails.)
We will be team green. I have always wanted to wait until delivery to find out the gender but a couple weeks ago I decided to let DH decide whether he wanted to find out. His response was, "I want to wait and keep it a surprise until the end; like mother nature intended."
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I almost feel like it's easier with a second baby. I was insistent on registering for big-ticket baby items that were gender neutral colors. Almost all the toys we still have from when Sarah was a baby are bright and generally primary colors that are perfect for a boy or a girl (I know the baby doesn't give half a crap, but I kinda do).
I'm not expecting a baby shower this time around either (though I wouldn't be surprised if my mom and sister throw me a small one) and there are very few things (especially bigger things) we want/need.
Sarah - 12/23/2008
Alex - 9/30/2011
"I say embrace the total geek in yourself and just enjoy it. Life is too short to be cool." - Shirley Manson, Garbage
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I'm really torn! That's a great thought about the VBAC motivation though... hmmm
With Molly, we found out. She had an elevated quad screen with scary high numbers, and we just wanted some good news to give us a boost to get through the next 20 weeks. I know DH will want to find out.
But then I think about how wonderful that moment could be to find out after birth...
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We're going team green. We found out with DD and thats because she was the first plus I was impatient and really was hoping for a girl
I said once DD was born we werent going to find out this time around. DH wants to find out because he doesnt think its fair but I told him no..I'll send him out of the u/s room when she checks the sex just to be sure if I have to!
I know if he finds out, he'll slip up eventually and it'll ruin it for me..So lets hope he can wait..Unfortunately I'll probably have 3 or so ultrasounds at the least and I know 2 of those they can tell.. (I had four or five with DD) so here's hoping!
DH and I agreed that if we find out that we are having multiples we will find out. We will need all the extra time to plan and organize if more than one is on the way!
We are definitely not finding out. We didnt with our first 2 and it was so exciting. Especially with my whole family in the waiting room. I could actually hear them screaming when my dh told them. It was so much fun having my family making bets. When my ds was born I was actually the one who yelled out "boy"!! It was the way he came out and the dr held him that all I could see was his junk. I didnt even wait for the dr to say it...he just laughed. The best part was my ds was the tiebreaker for grandkids (5boys and 5girls). So we had team boy wins and team girl wins signs made for when he was born. It was so much fun.
Of course it was really hard too...since I usually have around 4 u/s due to my slightly larger children.
I want to be team green!
I am not sure I have that much will power, but you're right there avery few surprises left in life.
If you find cute gender neutral nursery ideas, please share!
If you go to BRU or Babysupermall.com or a bunch of other websites you can usually search for boy, girl or neutral. They usually have a lot of Jungle, characters (winnie the poo, snoopy, Dr. seuss, etc.), alphabet or numbers, frogs, turtles, and patterned crib bedding sets that you can use as ideas. I don't really think actual bedding sets are worth the money, but they can be a good inspiration for themes.
I kinda wanted to do a gender neutral star-themed nursery for Sarah, but DH and my sister actually did the whole room and wouldn't let me until it was ready. It was unveiled at my shower. It was butterfly-themed (which is what I wanted if we were having a girl) and I still love it.
Sarah - 12/23/2008
Alex - 9/30/2011
"I say embrace the total geek in yourself and just enjoy it. Life is too short to be cool." - Shirley Manson, Garbage
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DH didn't want to find out with our first so we didn't. When we got pregnant with our second, I wanted to find out and we did.
So I guess it's his turn technically and I know he doesn't want to find out. I agreed to not find out if he agreed to one more baby.
Then I told him we'd flip a coin if we were done after this one.
So I'm not sure if we are team green yet or not
We waited last time and MH got to be the one to shout "It's a boy!" It was an amazing moment. I think we will wait again.
Something to consider for people on the fence: Since we didn't know, everyone just bought us everything off our registry or gave us GC. My friends who have known have received mainly just clothing at their showers, and they have had far too much clothing, especially in 0-3 month size. They needed to go buy a lot of stuff because they received so much clothing.
My deal with DH is that he can find out, but MUST keep it a secret from me. It's the one surprise I'm given in life and he is allowed to tell a select few people in my family along with the name (They sew and monogram things) and they have to wait until the baby is born to give me anything like that. I'm only getting gender neutral stuff for my shower. I'm going to bring my two favorite outfits to the hospital (one boy, one girl)
my family is pretty much aware of my wishes as are my friends, so this should be pretty fun.