MIL getting to be a little to much

a.graves · January 2011

So my MIL and I have FINALLY started to get along. Well it seems ever since I got pregnant and she found out I was having a girl she has been very, very nice to me.

Anyway, I was in L&D last week and they told me from here on out they will not stop my labor if I go. DH called his parents to tell them this. Ever since MIL has called me every.single.day to ask how I am doing, and if I feel contractions. Or if my water has broken. Then she calls DH and asks if I am telling the truth and how am I REALLY feeling. I finally got fed up and told her that is she is going to call everyday just to call DH because no matter what I say she calls him anyway. I know she is excited but we will call her when it is time. She in returns tells me it needs to be time NOW because she says so. Indifferent

I know she is exited for a grandchild, but jeez! Anyone else have a mom or MIL that is doing this?

liladelphia215 · January 2011

Geeze, I have the exact opposite and I don't don't know what's worse. I could have the baby today, and unless we actually call the ILs, the baby could be a month or more old before they ever find out she's here. They never call to see how we are doing, and I have seen them maybe three times since we found out we were expecting, all at family parties. DH used to try to keep up with them regularly but it was rarely reciprocated.

Actually, I know. You have it worse, I don't think I could take a phone call every single day. that would drive me up a wall. A call every week or so would be nice, though.

a.graves · January 2011

GrahamSchneider:
Geeze, I have the exact opposite and I don't don't know what's worse. I could have the baby today, and unless we actually call the ILs, the baby could be a month or more old before they ever find out she's here. They never call to see how we are doing, and I have seen them maybe three times since we found out we were expecting, all at family parties. DH used to try to keep up with them regularly but it was rarely reciprocated.
Actually, I know. You have it worse, I don't think I could take a phone call every single day. that would drive me up a wall. A call every week or so would be nice, though.

Wow. That actually sounds like my mom. My parents never call!! They will maybe call every month if that if I didn't pick up the phone and call them once a week. So I guess I should be thankful that at least my MIL is invested. But I guess I wish it were my mom.

TiffanyTheMom · January 2011

OP, my mom AND MIL are like that. Especially since my body is doing this 'let's have contractions every 2 min but not do anything!' game, and I've been to L&D 3 times already, and trust me... I can NOT keep these monkeys off my back!! MIL calls DH and keeps asking if we have a baby yet. My mom keeps calling and made the demands today that since my twin went adn delivered today, that I NEED to deliver today too.

I just roll my eyes, tell her the baby COULD come by tonight but may not, and then change the subject. Trust me, when my mom started telling me that sex would get the baby out I was like, OKAY then-- let's change the channel!! LOL Talking about my sex life with the woman who changed my diapers seriously makes me want to hurl. That's just... oh no. Not the right territory.

Lilleybug · January 2011

TiffanyTheMom:
OP, my mom AND MIL are like that. Especially since my body is doing this 'let's have contractions every 2 min but not do anything!' game, and I've been to L&D 3 times already, and trust me... I can NOT keep these monkeys off my back!! MIL calls DH and keeps asking if we have a baby yet. My mom keeps calling and made the demands today that since my twin went adn delivered today, that I NEED to deliver today too.
I just roll my eyes, tell her the baby COULD come by tonight but may not, and then change the subject. Trust me, when my mom started telling me that sex would get the baby out I was like, OKAY then-- let's change the channel!! LOL Talking about my sex life with the woman who changed my diapers seriously makes me want to hurl. That's just... oh no. Not the right territory.

HAHAHA! My MIL keeps getting on me about sodium, she swears the reason I am swelling so much is because of the sodium (specifically from the diet caffeine free coke I had) which I showed her the bottle that said VERY LOW SODIUM. I can eat cheerios and she is nagging me about the sodium...oh and to drink water, because the 10 glasses a day I drink now are not enough. I know she means well, but my body is going to swell no matter what I do. She has had 6 kids so I get a lot of advice.

mmmegalicious · January 2011

My MIL is actually the opposite! Never calls! BUT my Grandmother lives a few states away from us during the winter & has been calling daily going "Oh okay your home? So no baby" Even though she will be my parents 1st phone call when we go to the hospital she still insists on calling me every day! It may be annoying, but I perfer that over never calling like DH's fam!

thehoneybadger · January 2011

I am about ready to turn my phone off for the next month. My MIL keeps calling and wants all the details about my vag. If I don't answer the phone, then obviously I am ignoring her. Its beyond frustrating. Add in that she keeps asking if I am going to have the baby early. I really want to punch her through the phone.

Firedancer1013 · January 2011

Goodness, yeah I would be a little upset if MIL asked me a question, didn't believe my answer, and then called DH to confirm. My IL's haven't really been any different than they were before we got pg, they call every so often to check in on DH, and come out to visit a few times a year, but otherwise are really good at not suffocating us. My parents have also been pretty good, but they are planning a trip out in the next week or two (they live 2.5-3 hours away) specifically so I can drive them to the hospital where I will be delivering and show them what door to go in and what floor to go up to. Lol. I tried to just explain where they will go, but they really want to 'walk through it' one time. Who is going into labor here? Well, at least now I know where I get my neuroticisms from!

fleuret · January 2011

My mom calls me every few days (I have technology-savvy parents, so they mostly contact me through Facebook or e-mail) and my dad calls me whenever he remembers. As far as IL's go... it is their first grandchild, and while they are excited for LO to be born, they really haven't changed from when I first met them. They still never want us over their house (they live down the street, but can't be bothered to give us the time of day) and would rather tell us how irresponsible we are for not having a lot of money (because, ya know, some of us have BILLS to pay.)

I don't think I could stand my MIL calling me every day. I can't even stand her the few times I do see her.. And here I was, hoping I would be one of the lucky ones who got pleasant IL's. :[

Glad to see I am definitely and absolutely not alone!

Lucky_Dragonfly · January 2011

Um ME!!!! I was in L&D 2wks ago and now MIL won't leave me alone. She called twice today. She knows that I had a check up and of course she had to see how everything was. Well if there is something to tell you then we will call. Otherwise everything is fine its just a check up. She got all snippy with MH after he gave her an attitude for callingbecause he didn't call her back after she called the house twice and both our cell phones the day after I got sent home. HELLO!! I'm trying to rest and MH just had to take off 3 days of work so he is really behind (he's self employed). Get the hint woman!!!

Oh the kicker. I started to have contractions tonight and I told MH that she is not to know a single thing until we know for sure what is going on since they are the ones that are taking DS when we have to go to the hospital.

Tempus · January 2011

I feel bad for you ladies that have IL or your own parents that are driving you nuts. My mother lives in New Orleans and I live in MI. If I didn't call her after each check up to let her know how things were going she wouldn't know anything. She absolutely NEVER calls unless I text her and tell her to do so after work. Now, BF's mom is great. Not pushy in any way. But then I keep her and all my other family and friends updated on Facebook. So, if Bf doesn't tell her how things are going she reads it on line.We still don't have the greatest relationship but actually it is getting better so I won't complain. We went for a visit today and it was quite pleasant; Wanted to let them know how today's check-up went and show them the rock-n-play sleeper we got for LO. And of course she wanted to show me what she has there for us for LO. She is keeping it there for us cause we are supposed to be moving sometime soon and she doesn't want us to have more to move than we already do. I know this is my 4th LO but I still wish my mom would be more involved than she is just a little bit. She won't even try to ask for the time off cause she says it's Madi Gras. Yet BF's mom has already said she will be there come hell or high water.

blossomtg85 · January 2011

MIL is the same way. She always asks when my next appt is and then that morning will text me to say "let me know what the doctor says." If I don't get back to her ASAP she starts calling to find out how it went.

hawkilady · January 2011

This is my FIL exactly... except I haven't even had any signs of going into labor anytime soon. He calls DH at least once a day to find out if I'm in labor... like we wouldnt tell them if I was and I still have 4 1/2 weeks to go. He also says the baby has to come on her EDD because there is an important basketball game the night before and they are going to see some broadway show the day after... yeah like the baby cares about your totally non-important plans. I told him both of those events take about 3 hours, he wont miss much. He's an idiot. At least he doesnt call me - because he refuses to get a cell phone and doesnt have my number memorized to call from their home phone so DH deals with him.

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