So I was supposed to go for my beta this morning, but I got a BFN yesterday and spotting today, so I chose sleeping in over the remote chance that the test was wrong yesterday.
Does anyone else feel scared? I am really sad of course, even though I had kind of written off this cycle, but more than anything I am starting to feel like these IUIs aren't going to work after all. Without IVF coverage, that's really scary for me. I know it's too soon to feel that way since there's a lot we haven't tried, but I guess before doing them, you think that it gives you a really good chance and I didn't feel this scared before ![]()
Re: So much for IUI #2 :(
Sorry about the BFN.
I broke down this weekend about this same thing. My husband didn't know that IVF cost so much and that our insurance doesn't cover it. He said "when do we move onto the next thing?" and I had to explain that for us, there is no next thing after IUI's.
My best advice is to take it step by step. It is SO hard not to think about the future but as the saying goes "cross that bridge when you come to it" because stressing about it does nothing. Talk to your RE too about a treatment plan for the future. If this IUI doesn't work for us, I'm going to ask mine how many IUI's they typically do before determining that it just won't work.
Hang in there and take it easy today.
I definitely know what you mean about being scared. I felt pretty good going into our first IUI, like we finally had a chance! I was pretty confident IUI would be the answer. But the post-wash counts weren't what we had hoped. If things don't improve, we are going to have to move to IVF because the odds of IUI working would be so low. We are 100% OOP, and DH isn't even sure he'd want to do IVF. It is scary to think this might never happen... but I try to be optimistic especially since we are nowhere near the point of giving up. Heck, we've just started (in the greater scheme of things of course... I feel like I've been TTC forever).
Don't give up hope! The odds of each IUI cycle working aren't great, but the odds of 3 or 4 working--much more encouraging. Hopefully the next one will be the one for you!
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IUI#1-4 Jan.-Apr. 2011 = BFNs
IVF#1 Aug. 2011 = c/p, FET #1 Nov. 2011 = c/p, FET #2 April 2012 = BFP!
Beta #1 = 153, Beta #2 = 269, Beta #3 = 675
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I'm so sorry about your BFN. ((hugs))
I do feel scared too, I got a BFN today too on my 2nd IUI. We are only going to do 1 or 2 more IUIs before considering IVF. We have been OOP for all of this and we are already getting close to being out of money. I have no idea where we will get the money for IVF. My fear is that we are going to have to take a long break to save. The thought of taking a break just kills me.
Let?s just cross our fingers and hope that 3rd time is a charm for us and we don't have to worry about IVF.
TTC Since 2/2009
2/2010 - 5/2010 Testing with OBGYN
8/2010 First RE Appointment
11/2010 Second Opinion RE Appointment
12/2010 Clomid + IUI #1 = BFN
1/2011 Clomid + IUI #2 = BFN
2/2011 Clomid + IUI #3 = BFN
5/2011 IVF #1, ET 6/2, Beta 6/15 = BFN
8/2011 FET ET 9/12 = BFN :0(
On a break to save money.
1/2012 IVF #2 ER 1/12, ET 1/15, Beta 1/27 = BFFN
4/2012 FET ET ??/?? =
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Amen Renee, I hope this is the one for us.
I'm so very sorry about your BFN. I felt the exact same way after mine this time, I really had my hopes up for this cycle. We only have 1 or 2 more left, before considering IVF. We are also OOP for everything - paying for IVF would pretty much use our entire savings, but we both agree we are willing to do it. Hopefully IUI#3 will be the lucky one & we won't have to worry about any of it!
TTC #1 since Jan 09
Jul 2010 - HSG, SA, U/S BW - all clear
Nov 2010- Mar 2011 - 50mg Clomid, HCG Trigger & IUI 1-4 All BFN
Apr/May 2011 break
June 2011 - New RE, New Plan
July 2011 - Gonal F, Ovidrel & IUI #5
July 2011 surprise BFP on a break cycle before injects!!! Please let this be it!
Cautiously expecting our miracle on Feb 25, 2012
TTC#1 for 19 months with PCOS and MFI IUI#3 + injectables = BFP!!!! Beta#1-134(13dpiui) Beta #2-392(15dpiui)
#1 born December 2011
TTC#2 - Beta #1 -51@10dpo Beta#2 -1353 @16dpo
#2 born May 2013
TTC # 3 June 2014 BFP 12-1-14
#3 born August 2015
#4!!!!!!! due June 2017
1/11: IUI #2 = 5mg Femara + trigger + IUI = BFN
2/11: IUI #3 = injectibles + trigger + IUI = BFN
IVF #1 April 2011 ER 4/23 w/16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 11 fert., 4 blasts to freeze, 5dt of 2 blasts on 4/28, beta #1 5/7 = 243... beta #2 5/9 = 491....beta #3 5/11 = 1113!!
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Thanks girls.
C, looks like you are stuck with me for a while longer
Im currently on my 2WW after my 3rd IUI. I was devastated after the first didnt work and then was very pessemistic during the second round. Im so hopeful again to hopefully not be crushed during this try. My RE usually only does 3 IUI's before moving onto IVF but my insurance does not cover IVF so Im hoping he'll give us another shot @ IUI if this month fails.
I know how scary and discouraging it can be. Ive decided that if IUI doesnt work, Im going to try acupuncture.. and then just save for the IVF. Its very discouraging because there is NOTHING wrong with myself nor my husband. I respond very well to the clomid and his sperm samples have been excellent.
So hang in there!
aww I like having you around, but I really want you to get your BFP!
hopefully we will both be leaving soon! Did you decide what you are doing for your next cycle?
Thanks girl
I left a message for my RE today to discuss this next cycle, I need some kind of change from the last two and I really think I'm going to push for Femara, but we'll see.