~~DE/DEmbryo/GC Check-in~~

JM1977 · January 2011

This group is open to anyone who has already gone through donor egg/donor embryo/gestational carrier, is in the process of it, or plan on doing it in the future.

This check-in posted each Tuesday. If you?d like to be added to this group, please reply to this message, and I?ll make sure to add you for next week. Welcome to the lurkers! We know this can be a difficult journey, but we welcome you with open arms. Let us know if we can answer any questions.

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ANNOUNCEMENT: BathingInBitter has started a PRIVATE Facebook group (meaning no one can see it in your feed, that you are a member, etc.) for the ladies from IF and SAIF who are using/have used donor egg/embryos or donor sperm. If you would like to join, please page BathingInBitter, Yellow_Daisy, Roselln2 or svp1537 and ask for an invite to the group. This might be a nice way to keep in touch in a more private setting and address issues that may arise down the road.

***** If you are a donor or interested in donating, we would be happy to answer questions. Please start a new post with ?Question for DE ladies? as the title. *****

Status Update: Where are you currently with the DE/DEmbryo/ GC process?

QOTW: What was the process of finding a donor/GC like for you? What kind of qualities did you look for? Did one stand out to you as 'the one'?

ichoosehope ? Hope everything gets finalized with your donor soon and you can be on your way!

Best wishes to erinandbrockv at your appointment today!

Good luck to hollymichael as you move into these final steps of your cycle!

jcath ? Sorry things seem slow with your cycle. Hope they speed up and you are at your ET before you know it!

Best wishes with your ET this week kdussault!!

hep01 ? Hope you hear back this week about your testing results and can move forward with your FET

Currently Cycling or on BCP?s

bluebabka ? Cycle being synched with donor?s, appointment last week to finalize everything with the donor, started Lupron and have a monitoring appointment on 1/24

erinandbrockv ? Preparing for DE cycle using sister?s eggs, AMH and other blood work looks great, started Lupron on 1/9, baseline appointment on 1/18
hep01 ? BFP on 1st attempt with donor ? m/c, huge hugs, waiting for results of testing for blood clotting/flow issues (hopefully this week), started BCP?s, hoping for FET in mid-January

hollymichael ? Match complete! Cycling in January, on Lupron, ER estimated for 1/21, doing acupuncture, started Delestrogen and donor is on stims

ichoosehope ? On BCP?s for DE cycle, ER and ET estimated for the first week in March

jcath ? Preparing for donor egg cycle with frozen egg bank, chose donor and back-up, had endo biopsy, reduced Lupron but doubled Estrace, ET anticipated for 1/24-1/26

kdussault ? Still on Lupron, increased Estrace, donor started stims and things looked good at the first check, ER/ET anticipated for this week

M&MBride0506 ? Medicated cycle (Clomid) with sister, hoping for IUI this week

may2806 ? Confirmed donor, blood work all looks good, started Lupron on 12/18, donor showing 15 follicles at 13-14mm, lining looking good, ER estimated for this past weekend

onedaychristinak ? Received treatment for pituitary tumor, dealing with numerous cancelled cycles due to poor lining, had a hysteroscopy and D&C to facilitate a better lining, started Estrace and Vivelle patches, acupuncture for potential FET, also looking into GC and adoption

PoeticJustice (OE) ? Genetic testing/balanced translocation normal, working with a new RE, had hysteroscopy, started stims for IVF#2, first follie check was on Saturday

Waiting to Cycle/Between Cycles

2linesn09 ? BFP w/GC but ended in miscarriage

ashleyann82 ? Cycling in February (shared cycle) - Chose a new donor after first one backed out

baze2 ? Pursuing DE, waiting for a donor

Hoodlum90 (OE) ? One more IVF with OE, if fails possibly using sister?s eggs

Imanurse03 ? First donor selected had higher FSH, most likely going with second donor recommended by RE and staff who has a great track record

ked1068 ? Adopting 6 frozen embryos, embryos now transferred to home clinic, aiming for FET in April

LaMoonie ? DE cycle was a BFN, possible blood flow resistance issue, have 4 frozen embryos, contemplating a FET possibly with GC (sister)

lenebene ? Second opinion appointment scheduled for the week after Christmas

MarriedaSportsNut ? BFP on first DE cycle but lost baby due to rare defect (Acrania), DE IVF #2 was c/p, 5 frozen embryos, FET of 2 embryos 12/17 was BFN, 2 frosties left, made an appointment for a second opinon, blogging about DE at https://bloominbabies.blogspot.com/search/label/Golden Bud

MRSBELLALEE ? FET 10/26/09 = BFN, fresh DE cycle 4/10/10 = BFN, polyps removed in July, FET 9/10 = BFN, in contact with SIRM, NKC high but everything else normal, working with new RE in Maryland who recommended the Integrin B test

Oct14 ? DE IVF #1 = c/p, DE FET = BFN, looking into a consult with CCRM

RFBsbride ? Working on losing weight with DH, beginning donor search in December

shyntrue ? Just beginning the DE journey, waiting on a donor

snoangel79 ? Dx with POF, married in September, planning on moving forward with DE after the holidays, consult scheduled for 1/26 and hoping to cycle in early spring

vawad82 ? BFP on 1st attempt with donor ? m/c, huge hugs

Looking into Options

ACM1616 ? Looking into DE, but clinic requires it to be with a known donor, talking things over with her sister

ceemonkey ? High FSH on her side and sertoli-cell only syndrome on DH's side, considering OE vs. DE

Ginger71 ? Staring the DE process in the New Year, considering DE + DS, consult scheduled for 1/26 to discuss next steps Hoping4more ? Cycle using sister as GC is probably on hold forever, now going to cycle with own eggs and is applying to foster/adopt

hurricaneh ? Taking break from the board, will do FET in the future

Jasmine19 ? Looking into donor egg due to heart rhythm condition

kekis ? Unresponsive to IVF meds, considering DE in the new year

Mel0569 ? Egg freezing program was a BFN, switched REs and had consult on 9/20

Mgoodr1 ? Hoping to use friend as a surrogate due to health issues

Militarywife2b ? Working toward foster/adoption, also still looking into IVF

Pseudonim ? Looking into being a surrogate for her SIL and BIL

Riderpunk ? Considering a surrogate, possibly SIL

Scatterbrainliz ? Moving onto adoption (Korea)

~*~Recent Successes~*~

BathingInBitter ? DE IVF #1 = BFN, surprise BFP!, beta #1 on 12/20 = 1,208, first u/s scheduled for 12/27
JM1977 ? DE IVF #1 = BFN, DE IVF #2 - ER on 12/10, eSET on day 5 (12/15), 2 embryos frozen, beta on 12/28 = 1,035, beta on 12/30 = 2,234, first u/s showed gestational sac and fetal pole

saratogabride08 ? DE IVF#1 cancelled, cycled again with the same donor with adjustments to the protocol, ET of 2 embryos on 12/18, first 2 betas looking good

SunMoon&Stars ? Cycling using frozen eggs, 5dt on 12/8, beta #1 on 12/17 = 74.8, beta # 2 = 439, first u/s on 1/7

~*~Graduates~*~

Arb212 ? BFP on 1st attempt (boy/girl twins)! Babies born on 2/9/10!

Ashley ? BFP w/gestational carrier ? baby girl

AXLbaby ? BFP on 1st attempt (baby girl)!

BRSAugust20 ? BFP (singleton)! Joseph is here! Transitioning to solids and hopefully getting more and more sleep

Cat2 ? BFP on 1st attempt with donor! (singleton), J is slowly adjusting to his helmet and starting to eat solid foods

CharBart ? BFP on 1st attempt with donor! Twins! 2 boys! Small SCH, restricted to 8 hours work per day

Dansbride06 ? BFP (baby boy)! Tanner is here!

epphd ? BFP (baby boy)! Nubbin is here!

Floridakat (OE) ? twin girls!

Futuremom2b ? BFP (twin girls)! Born on 11/27/09!

GymDogFran ? Frozen egg program, twin girls!

HopeCounts ? BFP on FET (singleton)!

Iwannababy2010 ? BFP on 1st attempt with donor! Everything looked good on NT scan, now 20 weeks, team green!

Jenn-N-Jay ? BFP (singleton)!

Jhleap ? BFP on 1st attempt ? team green!

jmn69 ? Already has twins from DE

juliannat ? BFP ? boy/girl twins!

KoCoLoCo ? BFP w/gestational carrier (1st attempt) ? boy/girl twins born August 2009!

LBR_NJ ? BFP (girl)! Alana arrived on 12/9/09! FET scheduled for 12/10 but embryo did not survive the thaw

mamabear7 ? DE IVF#1, 26 eggs retrieved! 5dt of 2 embryos on 11/7, BFP! beta #1 = 347! Beta #2 = 1,073, first u/s on 12/3 showed twins! NT scan scheduled for 1/12

MontyMrs (OE) ? 4th IVF = BFP! Triplets!

njohnson1972 (OE) ? Last attempt with OE, transferred 2 embryos on 11/6, BFP!

PiggyBride ? Singleton due 3/2/11

pst8 ? BFP using her sister as a gestational carrier, due in February

RachelD83 ? BFP on 2nd FET (single embryo transfer) ? boy! Jonathan born on 12/8 at 38w3d

svp1537 ? BFP ? twins! Everything is looking great, released to OB

Vet-Tech ? BFP with donor embryos, baby girl born 9/20/10!

Haven?t heard from you in a while ? We miss you!

2linesplease ? Looking into DE options

BBLindy ? Looking into DE options

Davesmisha ? Hoping to do an FET with donor embryos in October

Denise ? Pursuing DE

Justsayjo ? Considering DE with a known donor, may be switching clinics

Legs14zbest ? Donor is confirmed, doing a split cycle, ER was anticipated for 11/8 or 11/9

Njgreneyz ? Has had 4 failed IUI?s and 3 failed IVF?s, looking into GC options (w/own eggs)

Scottdeb ? Looking into adoption and DE

Simplelove03 ? On hold with DE

Stuckinthemiddle (OE) ? Stimming for IVF #3, feeling ready to move on with DE if this cycle is unsuccessful

jcath · January 2011

Good luck to everyone cycling this month!

I'd love to hear some updates from those of you with your new BFPs - I hope you are all feeling well.

Update: I had my lining check yesterday and all looked good 10.3. DH goes on Friday to give his sample and we'll get a fert report on Saturday and still on for ET on the 24th or hopefully the 26th. I start PIO on Thurs which I'm a little nervous about but I guess everyone else has survived it so can I.

QOTD: We used my RE's egg bank so we didn't have to wade through every donor in the U.S. I narrowed it down to about 5 donors and then started to freak out and create the worlds most complicated spreadsheet to compare every bit of data. Then I figured that was ridiculous. I eliminated one b/c her mother had diabetes but the rest of their medical histories were all good. The donor I picked mainly b/c I thought her baby picture looked like babies in my family and I liked her answers to the very weird questions they had to answer (where would you like to travel, what's your favorite food, do you like sports) We picked in a few days so we could get the process moving faster.

hollymichael · January 2011

Good luck to everyone! kdussault & jcath, looks like we will all be in the 2ww together!

Update: I had a lining check yesterday and all looks good. On Saturday, I was told that our donor had 18 follicles. Yesterday, the nurse just said that she continues to do well, but I didn't ask for a number. We are in a shared cycle so the eggs will be split. I think all is still on track for an ER on Friday or Saturday.

QOTW: Since we used an in house donor pool, there wasn't a huge selection of donors. I didn't feel like our donor was "the one", but she looked to be a really good fit. Her height, weight, and coloring are all similar to mine. Her health history and her family health history were great. I had really wanted a donor who was a college graduate, but she didn't finish college, I guess that was the one quality that didn't fit, but I figured there wasn't going to be a perfect match. Also, we picked her in Oct and she wasn't able to cycle until Jan. We couldn't cycle until Jan. either so the timing was perfect.

ashleyann82 · January 2011

Update: I was just told on Friday that someone else chose our donor, so now we are locked into our shared cycle, the nurse has us tentatively scheduled for late March I'm sooooo excited!!!

QOTW: What was the process of finding a donor/GC like for you? What kind of qualities did you look for? Did one stand out to you as 'the one'?

The process was definitely difficult. We tried to find as many of my qualities in our egg donor that we could. It was tough and we had to compromise on some things, like eye color, proven success, etc. The one thing that did stand out about our donor and was one of the major reasons why I chose her was because of some of the answers from her application. She was genuinely trying to help couples with IF, she wasn't doing it for the money, of course money is a great perk but it was not her main reason for choosing to donate and that made us feel really good about choosing her

jcath · January 2011

hollymichael:

Good luck to everyone! kdussault & jcath, looks like we will all be in the 2ww together!

Update: I had a lining check yesterday and all looks good. On Saturday, I was told that our donor had 18 follicles. Yesterday, the nurse just said that she continues to do well, but I didn't ask for a number. We are in a shared cycle so the eggs will be split. I think all is still on track for an ER on Friday or Saturday.

Yay for 18 follies - that's fabulous and will be plenty!

kdussault · January 2011

Good luck to everyone! jcath and holly can't wait to suffer through the 2ww wait with you girls

Update: We go down for the ER tomorrow morning with ET hopefully at a 5dt on Monday. I start PIO tonight and will admit... freaking out a bit! that needle is soooo long! We'll get our fert report on Thursday and they'll keep us posted every day

QOTD: Well, it was a process... first I looked online at a few agencies but really wasn't "sold" on anyone. It had crossed my mind to use a known donor but I didn't think that was the best option at first. Then my mom mentioned it to me and so did my best friend... ultimately it was the best decision for us and I feel so blessed to have such an amazing friend and to be such a huge part of this whole process. I was able to attend almost all of the monitoring appointments and will be at the ER with her tomorrow. I couldn't have asked for a better situation.

I am just so excited about all of this, feeling so hopeful and feel like this just has to be "it" - here's to a long 2ww!

Ginger71 · January 2011

I just wanted to pop in and say good luck to all the ladies cycling

DH and I have our consult next week in NYC (weather permitting...we may have to cancel if we have a storm since it's 3 hrs. from here). I'll probably be full of questions after that. Now that I have finally decided to do DE and DH is on board I am so excited to get started. I am trying to gather as much info. as I can...reading all the blogs I can and looking for book & website recs. Feel free to page me if you can be of any help with this type of info. Some of you have already responded to some of my posts so thank you

QOTW: We did DS for our last cycle so I can tell you how we went through that process. I assume the same will apply for DE.....Health history was most important so we weeded a bunch of people out right away. Then, we went by childhood photos. That narrowed it down even more. From that list, DH chose men with similar interests/personality traits which gave us about 5 donors to choose from. I'm expecting there will be less women to choose from because egg donation is just not as easy or common so we may have to adjust some things on our list......

Stuckinthemiddle · January 2011

Hi. I haven't been on the boards much lately and I am sorry about that. I've needed some time away.

I have what will be my last ET with my own eggs tomorrow. Of the 5 eggs they transfered, they could only ICSI, and as of yesterday, we are down to 1 embryo. RE is doing assisted hatching this time, so assuming things go well with that, I am supposed to have the ET. I half expect to get a call in the am telling me that my embie didn't make it - in which case I will be ok. (at least, I keep telling myself that) If not, then we are on this carnival ride for another two weeks I guess.

DH and I have been spending a lot of time in recent months talking about DE, and I am pretty sure that if this doesn't work, we are going to jump right in with both feet. The cost is a big issue, but we are trying to work things out as far as where we can pull the funding from. I am also about 90% sure we are going to go with the Shady Grove shared risk program. We live an hour away from one of the clinics, and this is where I had my second opinion. My current clinic does not offer a shared risk program. I know, I am getting ahead of myself here, but I am the type of person who always needs a plan.

Thanks so much for keeping me on the list!

JM1977 · January 2011

Stuckinthemiddle - Thanks for the update. I'm sorry for what you are going through. I will definitely be thinking of you and hope you get good news in the morning!

Update: We had our second ultrasound yesterday, and everything is looking good. I've been feeling generally pretty crummy. I have to really watch what/when I eat to keep my nausea down, and I don't think I have ever been this tired. I am looking forward to getting to the other side of these symptoms!

QOTW: We used an clinic donor pool. At first I was somewhat disappointed in the selection of donors, but then I started watching the list closely and ended up liking the new ones who were added a lot more. The donor we chose just felt right for us. She just seemed to have everything we were looking for in terms of medical history, personality, appearance, etc. She has lighter hair and a lighter complexion than I do, but I was OK with that. My DH and I both felt like her answers to the questions "sounded" like me, which was a nice feeling.

hep01 · January 2011

Good Luck everyone!!!

Status Update: Got our blood work results last Friday & I have a strand of MTHFR so when I have my ET I will start Lovenox & be on it until about 32 weeks pregnant. I started my FET cycle this past Sunday so we are looking at FET the 1st or 2nd week of February. SO excited to be cycling again & praying this one doesn't end in m/c.

QOTW: Our RE's office matched us for the most part & when we read over all of her "stuff" we thought she was perfect so it really worked out.

PoeticJustice · January 2011

Best Wishes to: ichoosehope, erinandbrockv, hollymichael, jcath , kdussault and hep01

Status Update: Follie Check #2 was this afternoon. All Looks good so far

QOTW: I have not gotten to this point yet but I have thought about it. I would look at facial features, religion etc. I would ask God for guidance in finding the one.

BRSaugust20 · January 2011

Good luck to all the ladies cycling now!! Hugs to those that need them!

QOTD: It was overwhelming because our clinic doesn't have in-house donors so we had to go through an agency. Our clinic had a list of a few they worked with in the past that were okay by them but I also looked at a few outside clinics. We wanted someone local to cut down on extra costs (travel, etc.), we wanted someone available quickly, a proven donor with a clean family history. Looks didn't matter since DH and I could produce pretty much any combination on our own but I did need to think she was "cute" (shallow of me maybe?).

I do believe we wound up with the donor we were supposed to have but I'm not sure I ever felt there was "the one". We were waiting for a donor to cycle because we really liked her but she donated at another clinic and they scared her off from donating again. So then we found another who got unexpectedly pregnant. Our next donor failed the genetic screen at our clinic even though she donated twice before (although we picked her, she reminded me of a toxic ex-friend in the looks department so that did bug me a little). In the end the donor we used probably matched me the most personality wise. She never went to college because she got pregnant in high school but seemed to have a decent job and worked hard at things in life.

ichoosehope · January 2011

Update: Our contract is finalized!! I go tomorrow for a repeat trial transfer, blood work and HSG (because it's been almost a year since we cycled last!) I took a "medication inventory" with the IVF coordinator today and then she called in the script for the remaining meds that we will need. I couldn't believe it when the pharmacy called......$ 158.96 (we've NEVER paid less than $2000.00 for meds for a single IVF cycle, and have always gotten follistim donated). I was so shocked that I asked "In US dollars?!" Embarrassed It just popped out of my mouth before I could even think about it, I was so excited! I will start lupron on the 1st.

QOTD: Initially we started with our RE's donor database. We had two candidates, but passed on both of them. They were everything that we asked for (physical characteristics to mine and DH's, clean medical history, great education), but something just didn't feel right. I found myself looking more and more at how they answered questions. I don't know why, (because I will never meet this person), but I really wanted to find someone that I felt like I would want to hang out with. Someone that I would have a good time with and could see myself getting a cup of coffee with. We looked at a few donor agencies over the next couple of months and literally knew the second we saw her. It was so odd, after pouring over applications for months, we decided on our donor after only a few minutes. We KNOW that she is right person for us.

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