Flame Free Friday Confessions!

pinkpear · January 2011

I'm annoyed with my sister who will be graduating college in May. When we announced my pregnancy my sister right off the bat declared that she just knew that this baby was going to "ruin her graduation." I didn't say anything because I figured she is at a different stage of life and just didn't get it and that it would blow over soon. I was so wrong. Every time someone talks about the baby she gets all dramatic and says how the baby is going to ruin everything for her and I'm getting sick of it! This baby will add nothing but joy to our family and I hate that she keeps saying that the baby will ruin her day.

I'm due at the end of May and her graduation is 3 weeks earlier. I get that college graduation is a big deal but there is room in the month for both big events. Now my family doesn't even talk about the baby so that they don't upset her. Way to teach her how to be an adult!

My confession is that I hope I'm on bedrest and can't go to her graduation. I don't really feel like sitting on uncomfortable bleachers at 36 weeks pregnant for hours for a boring ceremony after she has been such a brat!

kuipogirl · January 2011

I am slightly jealous of my sisters. Neither of them have to work because their husband's have high paying jobs and when they get pregnant they will have the choice to stay home with their children. I on the other hand will have to continue to work when this baby comes and I am slightly resentful. Thats what I get for both my husband and I working in helping professions.

arom729 · January 2011

kerrbear72:
I just added salt to my can of soup. As if it didn't already contain 54% of my daily sodium intake. Yikes.
I know, lame confession but that's all I've got today,

This cracked me up, because I feel like I've been adding salt to EVERYTHING. Salt is a must-have for me this pregnancy. I hope it doesn't turn into swollen ankles and feet sooner than necessary.

Kristin&Kelly09 · January 2011

Mine are both DH related:

DH keeps bringing up the fact that I should talk with my boss about working from home after LO arrives. He seems to be under the impression that once I go back to work, if I am working from home I will be able to do my job and watch LO at the same time. I keep explaining to him that even if I worked from home I would still have to have daycare for LO so I can concentrate on my work. Honestly, I have no desire to work from home and have never had the desire to be a SAHM once we had kids. He has known this but still thinks I should talk to work about it.

DH and I have not had sex since Christmas day and it sucks! Sexy time with him is all I can seem to think about lately. I tried to talk to him a few nights ago about it and we had a great heart to heart conversation about it. I get that he is overwhelmed with all the changes that are happening (so am I at times) and with the added stress from work and the idea that there is now a person inside me can be kind of strange. I understand that it is not on the top of his mind all the time but I am dying here! I am also tired of being the one to initiate it. I just hate that this part of our relationship is crappy and I really hope that things start getting better and this is not permanent.

DonnaMartinGraduates · January 2011

meimsx:
DonnaMartinGraduates:

I'm really annoyed at my low post count labor buddy. I've PM'd her and paged her and have not heard back. She has 10 total posts and has been on the bump since 2008. I get that people are busy with kids and jobs but I'd really like someone more active so I know they'll be a good labor buddy and not just blow me off.

I want a new one.

I'll be your new one. I don't have one and keep thinking I should ask for one.

Oh, I'd love it!! Looks like we are due days apart but I don't mind if you don't! PMing you now

kck329 · January 2011

I don't know how flame worthy mine is but its been on my mind a lot so...

My SIL had a miscarriage about two weeks before we announced our pregnancy. We didn't know about their experience, as they hadn't told anyone except my parents who are excellent secret keepers. She hasn't had a regular cycle since August and so far hasn't been able to get any solid answers from her doctor--I know these things take time. I have tried to be as supportive as possible through her whole experience, talking when she wants to and giving her space when she needs it-basically letting her take the lead.

My FFFC: I feel guilty being pregnant around her. We are having a family dinner at my house on Sunday and I feel awkward showing everyone the nursery and baby stuff because it makes her sad and I really don't want to add her to her stress/emotions. I also want to share our excitement with my family so I never know what to do.

Raquellyo · January 2011

My Confessions:

1) This entire week I have done about 1.5 hours of real work, and when I "work from home" I basically watch tv and snack all day because I have no real deliverables due.

2) I am addicted to the DIY Network, the Locator, and whatever channels have all the baby & pregnancy stories

3) Thebump.com is taking over my life

MrsK09 · January 2011

My little sister got engaged about 2 weeks before we announced that we were pregnant. She is young and irresponsible and lives at home and takes advangtage of my parents. The guy she is marrying is a total jerk and treats her and everyone else like crap. She's mad because no one is happy about their engagement (he asked my parents permission and they told him no, they're too young and neither have a job, my dad told him to ask again in a few years). Also they aren't planning on getting married for like 2 more years (they are both still in college), so she doesn't understand why people aren't going to jump up and down for her for the next two years. She got all mad when we announced that we are having a baby and everyone is excited. So she has decided to pretend like I'm not pregnant and doesn't speak to me. The other day we were at church and I was showing some friends our ultrasound pics from our anatomy scan. She walked by saw what I was doing, rolled her eyes and loudly announced "OH MY GOD, no one cares!", I really want to kick her in the face and send her jerk face fiance to Antarctica!

sparkymcgeee · January 2011

MrsK09:
My little sister got engaged about 2 weeks before we announced that we were pregnant. She is young and irresponsible and lives at home and takes advangtage of my parents. The guy she is marrying is a total jerk and treats her and everyone else like crap. She's mad because no one is happy about their engagement (he asked my parents permission and they told him no, they're too young and neither have a job, my dad told him to ask again in a few years). Also they aren't planning on getting married for like 2 more years (they are both still in college), so she doesn't understand why people aren't going to jump up and down for her for the next two years. She got all mad when we announced that we are having a baby and everyone is excited. So she has decided to pretend like I'm not pregnant and doesn't speak to me. The other day we were at church and I was showing some friends our ultrasound pics from our anatomy scan. She walked by saw what I was doing, rolled her eyes and loudly announced "OH MY GOD, no one cares!", I really want to kick her in the face and send her jerk face fiance to Antarctica!

The only thing I could think of when I read that was "what a b!tch." No offense because she is your sister but I can't even imagine not being excited for my sister or SILs while they were pregnant. Its not just about you. Its about the ENTIRE family. Your little boy will bring happiness to everyone. She sounds really selfish.

elisbu · January 2011

kck329:

I don't know how flame worthy mine is but its been on my mind a lot so...

My SIL had a miscarriage about two weeks before we announced our pregnancy. We didn't know about their experience, as they hadn't told anyone except my parents who are excellent secret keepers. She hasn't had a regular cycle since August and so far hasn't been able to get any solid answers from her doctor--I know these things take time. I have tried to be as supportive as possible through her whole experience, talking when she wants to and giving her space when she needs it-basically letting her take the lead.

My FFFC: I feel guilty being pregnant around her. We are having a family dinner at my house on Sunday and I feel awkward showing everyone the nursery and baby stuff because it makes her sad and I really don't want to add her to her stress/emotions. I also want to share our excitement with my family so I never know what to do.

I met my nephew for the first time 4 days after my D&C (yes we drove from Texas to NY two days after my D&C!) and while I was scared it was going to be so hard to hold him, it wasn't.
It might be different because it my little(and only) sister's first baby, but I hope your SIL will understand that just as excited as she was for her baby, that's how you feel right now.

Good Luck

janjag · January 2011

Heather & Nayt:

I am insanely jealous of ladies with normal healthy pregnancies. I want to kick small puppies when I hear someone complain about things that are normal. I would kill to dig into a whole carton of ice cream or a bag of chips. I just want to enjoy being pregnant instead of worrying that everything I eat will hurt my daughter, or having to stick myself 17 times a day just to be sure everything is ok. I worry that every time i go to the doctors they are going to tell me something else is wrong with me and the guilt that if something is wrong with my daughter chases are it really is my fault.

I also think that sometimes 2nd pregnancies get the short end of the stick. No one is as excited as they were the first time, you are so busy chasing your other kid (s) around you can't totally focus on the new baby, and you don't get all the fun and thrill of registering or having a shower without feeling super guilty because for most people its tacky. And dang it I wish it wasn't because it IS nice to feel like you are the center of attention every once in a while. I would LOVE to have a shower since I didn't have one for DS but I know I am not getting because its my second baby. Flame free right?

I am sooo with you on the 2nd pregnancy thing. First time around I spent it all in bed, scared out of my mind about losing my babies, or having them come way too early. This time, where is the pampering? Where is the time to enjoy and reflect on a coming baby? Time to prepare for coming baby?

Lol, on sticking yourself. I only stick myself 2xday (for Lovenox shots), and even that's hard to remember.

H&N, I hope you do get a shower!! Do your current friends know you didn't get one with DS?

Aquabee21 · January 2011

pandi02a:
I get annoyed with people who only show up for certain posts. For example there is one girl who I feel like always shows up when we are talking about baby gear just to say how much money she's spending on her stuff. There are others who came out of the woodwork to be Labor Buddies or be on the May Mom's EDD list, but they only have 8 posts. Why do you just want to be on a random list if you don't participate in the board?

I'm afraid this is partly me. I was on the boards a lot in my first tri and got on the May Mom's list then but got really frustrated by a lot of the negative posts on some of the other boards (not usually May 2011). I couldn't take it anymore so I stopped coming to the Bump altogether so I wouldn't be tempted to look at more negativity. I've just started coming back, mainly just to lurk on the cloth diaper and sometimes May 2011 boards. I'll probably continue to reply to posts just sporadically so I won't get sucked in again. But I promise not to enter anything like Labor Buddies so no one misses me.

augustjam16 · January 2011

I'm wondering if maybe I shouldn't be someone's labor buddy. I'm on here but maybe not enough to justify it. Although I didn't realize I was getting a LB...I thought I was going on the EDD list. I guess I'm not entirely sure what it all even means. I should work on that.

I miss alcohol.

sugarplum2 · January 2011

augustjam16:
I miss alcohol.

DITTO. I never was a heavy drinker... but I'm stupid & going to Vegas this weekend and it won't be the same. And earlier today a frosty blended lime margarita with LOTS of salt sounded really good with my chips & salsa. Sad

augustjam16 · January 2011

sugarplum2:
augustjam16:
I miss alcohol.
DITTO. I never was a heavy drinker... but I'm stupid & going to Vegas this weekend and it won't be the same. And earlier today a frosty blended lime margarita with LOTS of salt sounded really good with my chips & salsa.

So funny. I'm headed to a Mexican restaurant with some friends tonight and all I could think about all day was a margarita. When I posted "I miss alcohol" I had my virgin-margarita in mind...wishing I could have it with Patron.

Vegas...thats tough.

JUSTBEYOURSELF · January 2011

pinkpear:
I'm annoyed with my sister who will be graduating college in May. When we announced my pregnancy my sister right off the bat declared that she just knew that this baby was going to "ruin her graduation." I didn't say anything because I figured she is at a different stage of life and just didn't get it and that it would blow over soon. I was so wrong. Every time someone talks about the baby she gets all dramatic and says how the baby is going to ruin everything for her and I'm getting sick of it! This baby will add nothing but joy to our family and I hate that she keeps saying that the baby will ruin her day.

I'm due at the end of May and her graduation is 3 weeks earlier. I get that college graduation is a big deal but there is room in the month for both big events. Now my family doesn't even talk about the baby so that they don't upset her. Way to teach her how to be an adult!

My confession is that I hope I'm on bedrest and can't go to her graduation. I don't really feel like sitting on uncomfortable bleachers at 36 weeks pregnant for hours for a boring ceremony after she has been such a brat!

at first I thought your sister was in high school!!! are you kidding me? that is so freaking rude of her. and your family not talking of the baby just to not upset her? that is just crazy!!! What a brat is right...

DonnaMartinGraduates · January 2011

augustjam16:
I miss alcohol.

You are so right. You are really right. For real.

That's been the only thing I've had an intense craving for this pregnancy. I kind of miss the 1st tri when I felt like I had the worst hangover ever, 24 hours a day. At least then I didn't want to drink! Lately I've been craving hard liquor and I'm normally a red wine/beer kind of girl.

melgrady · January 2011

augustjam16:
I miss alcohol.

Me too. I am going to a bar tomorrow night to celebrate a friend's birthday and it sucks knowing I can't have any of my favorite cocktails. At least I don't have to worry about driving home.

Pythia1022 · January 2011

My confession: I am so angry about DH dragging his feet with our lack of car situation that I smashed every last one of his expensive, hand-painted model cars last night. He deserved it, though, because while I have been stuck at home on light bedrest with no car to be able to break the monotony of apartment life, he stayed out until 1:45 AM this morning drinking and watching his friend's "band" play. I think if he doesn't bring a car home tonight, I am going to kick his stupid motorcycle over, and pay someone to run over it. I may be hormonal, but expecting me to climb 6 months pregnant onto that bike every time I have a doctors appointment is ridiculous.

sugarplum2 · January 2011

My confession... well, I confessed it to DH last night and it opened a can of worms...

Our anniversary was in November, and we went the weekend before to celebrate it in a nice b&b up in the mountains, super romantic... and had sex pretty much the whole time we were there. We had sex probably once or twice before that since finding out I was pregnant.

We haven't had sex since. It's rough. We've never gone this long without it... this is opposite of how things were before. It's seriously frustrating me and I've realized it's DEFINTIELY affected my self-esteem. I've tried mentioning it to him before and he's said things here and there about hurting the baby, or me being tired when he's in the mood, etc... though if he were to try it, I would jump on the chance (lol) immediately.

I finally broke down yesterday and told him it was bothering me how ignored I felt- he is always concerned about my health and the baby's health, but not as concerned about how I feel. I told him I felt like he never really touches me unless I ask him to rub my feet/scratch my back/feel the baby. I feel fat, lumpy, achy, and ugly and I think he finally got the idea.

So... we'll see what happens. It took a lot for me to finally admit all of that to him so hopefully however he chooses to respond to it will improve this situation.

kuipogirl · January 2011

Pythia1022:
My confession: I am so angry about DH dragging his feet with our lack of car situation that I smashed every last one of his expensive, hand-painted model cars last night. He deserved it, though, because while I have been stuck at home on light bedrest with no car to be able to break the monotony of apartment life, he stayed out until 1:45 AM this morning drinking and watching his friend's "band" play. I think if he doesn't bring a car home tonight, I am going to kick his stupid motorcycle over, and pay someone to run over it. I may be hormonal, but expecting me to climb 6 months pregnant onto that bike every time I have a doctors appointment is ridiculous.

WOW! First, the fact that you have to climb on a motorcycle to get anywhere is infuriating to me! Those things are so dangerous! Does your husband not realize that one fall could kill the baby? Is there a friend you can get rides from? Second, the picture of a pregnant lady smashing all those cars is extremely funny to me. I hope your husband gets the picture and fixes the car situation.

Angel0423 · January 2011

kerrbear72:

I just added salt to my can of soup. As if it didn't already contain 54% of my daily sodium intake. Yikes.

I know, lame confession but that's all I've got today,

I did the same thing! Chunky soup, sirloin burger. I like salt on my steak! lol!

JasonKristen · January 2011

Raquellyo:

My Confessions:

1) This entire week I have done about 1.5 hours of real work, and when I "work from home" I basically watch tv and snack all day because I have no real deliverables due.

2) I am addicted to the DIY Network, the Locator, and whatever channels have all the baby & pregnancy stories

3) Thebump.com is taking over my life

moose-hunt · January 2011

One of my co-workers came to the office knowing she had the flu because she didn't want to use another sick day. Thanks for infecting the office.

schulou · January 2011

I just deleted 5 people on my Facebook because they had misspelled words in their status. Seriously. Is your week flying "bye"? I'm glad you went to a "cheep" school too. "You're" student loans must be expensive. Ugh.

momma4jax · January 2011

carishabob:
Heather & Nayt:

I am insanely jealous of ladies with normal healthy pregnancies. I want to kick small puppies when I hear someone complain about things that are normal. I would kill to dig into a whole carton of ice cream or a bag of chips. I just want to enjoy being pregnant instead of worrying that everything I eat will hurt my daughter, or having to stick myself 17 times a day just to be sure everything is ok. I worry that every time i go to the doctors they are going to tell me something else is wrong with me and the guilt that if something is wrong with my daughter chases are it really is my fault.
I also think that sometimes 2nd pregnancies get the short end of the stick. No one is as excited as they were the first time, you are so busy chasing your other kid (s) around you can't totally focus on the new baby, and you don't get all the fun and thrill of registering or having a shower without feeling super guilty because for most people its tacky. And dang it I wish it wasn't because it IS nice to feel like you are the center of attention every once in a while. I would LOVE to have a shower since I didn't have one for DS but I know I am not getting because its my second baby. Flame free right?
I just want to give you a hug, and I totally think you deserve a shower!

Aww this is so nice of you to say! im all hormonal so it made me want to cry, LOL. I think you deserve a shower too! im a prego mommy also and i didnt have a shower the first time around but i think all pregnant women deserve showers. they all need SOMETHING, whether it be baby items or just some time away with friends!.

momma4jax · January 2011

Raquellyo:
My Confessions:
1) This entire week I have done about 1.5 hours of real work, and when I "work from home" I basically watch tv and snack all day because I have no real deliverables due.
2) I am addicted to the DIY Network, the Locator, and whatever channels have all the baby & pregnancy stories
3) Thebump.com is taking over my life

This made me laugh really hard because im addicted to the DIY network too! and thebump.com and Facebook have taken over my life too!

dahansen85 · January 2011

mellydawn84:
I hate when people don't let me on the elevator at work! I work in a college, and have to drag around a roller bag with my equipment with me everywhere I go. When there is a group of big, strong men who could EASILY walk up 2 flights of stairs and they all cram into the elevator without even giving me a second glance, I want to scream! I am Visibly pregnant and could use some chivalry.

Out of curiosity, are you a transcriber? Your job sounds eerily similar to mine.

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