He was manipulative, possessive, one minute man , and aggressive. He slapped me once & I left him. I had been wanting to leave him but couldn't find a reason good enough & he hit me, so I was like PEACE.
Leaving DS1 sperm donor and becoming a single mother at 18. I know I would not be where I am now. With 3 wonderful boys and an awesome husband. I don't even know if I would be alive if I stayed with him.
He was manipulative, possessive, one minute man , and aggressive. He slapped me once & I left him. I had been wanting to leave him but couldn't find a reason good enough & he hit me, so I was like PEACE.
Good choice I'd say.
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Not taking my dream job right after college. I was offered an assistant editor position at the University of Florida Press, and I REALLY wanted to get into publishing. The money was nothing ad the move would have been expensive, so I turned it down. For lack of finding anything better, I eventually started working at a credit union. I don't love my job, but it has taught me so much about money management. I was so irresponsible with money in college but my parents were always around to bail me out--if I had taken the job in FL I'd probably have horrible credit right now. Plus I may not have stayed with DH and then I wouldn't have Betsy!
I quit my fairly lucrative job to care for my father for a year when he was dying of cancer. I was the only person who stayed with him 24/7 for that whole year and I do not regret one minute of it. I may never get another job in my field like that one but it doesn't matter. I was there when he died, like he was there when I was born and that, to me, is the best thing I have ever done.
Leaving school at ISU to move back home to be with my husband (then boyfriend). I knew he was the one (cliche, but true) and I didn't want to waste any time being away from him! Now I wouldn't trade my little family for the world!
I have a lot of friends who went to Illinois State! I almost went there
I'll never regret not going away to college. I was about to, but changed my mind a month before bc I didn't want to leave my boyfriend at the time. Bc I went to community college I became better friends with a few girls from hs, who also went to cc, who led me to DH! Everything happens for a reason
Becoming a more assertive person. It's taken time and it's been painful (not to mention awkward), but my self-confidence has taken quite a boost from it and I'm a happier person.
Getting married at age 21. It's not for everybody, but it's for me.
We got marred when I was 22, I don't regret that at all. I've been on my own since I was 17, so I was a little more grown than people my age at the time.
I'm trying to become a more assertive person, it's difficult. I usually just say "whatever" and let it go. But my husband's family drives me up the wall about my child. Yes, I'm still breastfeeding at 6 months. No she's cant have sweet tea or frenchfries. Ugh, they think she's a 6 y/o not a 6 month old. I've now had to threaten to take her away for awhile if I find out they did these things.
I quit my fairly lucrative job to care for my father for a year when he was dying of cancer. I was the only person who stayed with him 24/7 for that whole year and I do not regret one minute of it. I may never get another job in my field like that one but it doesn't matter. I was there when he died, like he was there when I was born and that, to me, is the best thing I have ever done.
I seem to be quite emotional today but this brought tears to my eyes.
Not taking my dream job right after college. I was offered an assistant editor position at the University of Florida Press, and I REALLY wanted to get into publishing. The money was nothing ad the move would have been expensive, so I turned it down. For lack of finding anything better, I eventually started working at a credit union. I don't love my job, but it has taught me so much about money management. I was so irresponsible with money in college but my parents were always around to bail me out--if I had taken the job in FL I'd probably have horrible credit right now. Plus I may not have stayed with DH and then I wouldn't have Betsy!
BUT BUT...do you know how close we would be if you were at UF????
Going away to school and then moving to Chicago after college. It made me realize how much I wanted to move home....this desire to move then gave me the motivation to dump my boyfriend....I met up with my girlfriends from high school, met my DH and the rest is the future!
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Leaving my first fiance'. I look at where he's at in life and laugh. He was an abusive, cheating arse and it took 3 years to realize it. I'm so glad I did though!!
And I have to agree with PPs about getting married young. I always knew I wanted to get married and start a family at a young age. (Probably the reason I was engaged at 17!)
I'll jump on the "getting married young" bandwagon. I was a month shy of 20 on our wedding day. It sounds really young, but if you knew my life, I'm not a usual 20-something.
Also, not listening to MIL when she said to wait until I was at least 27 to have the first child. I was barely 22 when DS was born, and the timing for DH and me was perfect.
I will never regret anything that has to do with DH. I ditto that I married my best friend.
I have to add, having my first at 32 hasn't been a picnic. We are told we have an easy baby! I can't imagine doing this to myself any earlier. I wouldn't trade our travels, hangouts with friends and lazy Sunday brunches for anything. We would have missed out on so much if we had a baby younger.
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Waiting 8 years after being married to have children. I love my daughter dearly, but I could not have been the mother I want to be if I had her when I was so young. I loved all the time dh and I had as a couple to travel, save, enjoy life and just be us.
Not to mention that we are now established and not having to worry about money and having more freedom with our work makes life with a child so much easier.
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Waiting 8 years after being married to have children. I love my daughter dearly, but I could not have been the mother I want to be if I had her when I was so young. I loved all the time dh and I had as a couple to travel, save, enjoy life and just be us.
Not to mention that we are now established and not having to worry about money and having more freedom with our work makes life with a child so much easier.
Props to the "waiters"!
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Leaving my last job. My manager had left 3 months before I did (after being out on ML for 3 months) and our department head had no intention of promoting me to her job even though I had been doing it for 6 months without compensation (which is another story altogether).
Not too long after I left, they lost a grant which had payed for half of my salary and the department head ended up cutting all the programs I had worked for. Now I am actually appreciated in my job and my salary is higher. I will never forget the look on her face when I said I was quitting. Priceless!
(...and I know they lost the grant b/c both my manager and I had left and the grant person didn't trust anyone else to take care of it)
I left my ex boyfriend in 2008 after almost 4 years of being together and 3 years living together. He always put me down and told me things like "if you ever get over 115lbs or if you ever get pregnant I'm leaving you." (among other things) I only weighed 90lbs at 21 years old. Not healthy at all. I didn't think I would be able to make it by myself financially but I left anyway and moved into a house and I met my now H right next door.
And you know what I weigh 116lbs, I am happily married and I have a wonderful baby girl.
Moving to Ft. Collins, CO. I grew up in Cincinnati, graduated in '06 and DH (boyfriend at the time) and I hightailed it out here. I didn't even have a job, but getting out of Cincinasti was priority #1 upon graduation.
I can't imagine living anywhere else. It's an outdoor playground here.
I'll never regret fvcking off at work one day in May, 2001 and checking out the Yahoo! Personals page for sh!ts and giggles.
If I hadn't done that, I would never have seen DH's personal ad and contacted him. I wouldn't have had a first date with him a week later. I would have married him 4 years later. I would have had babies with him almost 10 years later.
Unable to even.
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You don't understand the appeal of Benedict Cumberbatch / think he's fug / don't know who he is? WATCH SHERLOCK. Until you do, your negative opinion of him will not be taken seriously.
Living together before getting married. You really have no clue who you are marrying until you live with them.
This. H and I moved in together after 6 months due to some college living arrangements falling through. I did not want to move in that soon. I come from a really religious family and they all but cut me off . They eventually came around and I owe our strong marriage to living together for most of our relationship.
Francesca Pearl is here! Josephine Hope is almost 3!
I never pictured myself raising a baby with my husband on the other side of the world, but I have grown so much in this short amount of time. I am so much more independent, and feel like if I can do this, I am capable of anything. Also, I don't think I could be any prouder of my husband!
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Living together before getting married. You really have no clue who you are marrying until you live with them.
So true!
PPD/PPA Mom...it has been super hard, but I'm making it! Slow steps... Mom to Carter (6), and Calianne (1). Proud VBAC, natural birth, breastfeeding, cloth diapering momma!
Going to India for work for 2 weeks. the only thing I regret is I didn't go the full 3 weeks they wanted me to, and I didn't get to go to the Taj Mahal. (it was a 4 hour flight and 2 hour drive away from where we were)
Telling DH I wouldn't move with him when he left to go work on his PhD 4 years ago, we were just dating and not engaged and I had a great job opportunity here. After 2 years he decided I was more important, moved back, we got married and had our precious little girl . I still work at the great job I took back then and have been promoted 3 times and make enough for him to just stay home with DD. PhD be damned!
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I'll never regret waiting until I was 30 to have my daughter. I loved the five married years DH and I spent together before having Ella. I also will never regret putting off having a child for the last year while I finished my masters. Now I have an awesome job as a neurosurgery nurse practitioner, and don't have to work any nights, weekends, or holidays!
I also will never regret the three years DH and I lived with my grandfather. He was on hospice for a majority of the time, and we were his primary caregivers. It was during that time, I realized how good and how much I wanted DH to be a dad, because of the way he treated and cared for my grandfather.
Re: What's one thing you'll NEVER regret?
This for me too!
I would second getting married young. I married by best friend (cliche I know, but really....he is) at 22.
I will never regret moving for my promotion. I miss my family but DH and I needed this time to grow away from our family.
Leaving my ex boyfriend.
He was manipulative, possessive, one minute man
, and aggressive. He slapped me once & I left him. I had been wanting to leave him but couldn't find a reason good enough & he hit me, so I was like PEACE.
Good choice I'd say.
Not taking my dream job right after college. I was offered an assistant editor position at the University of Florida Press, and I REALLY wanted to get into publishing. The money was nothing ad the move would have been expensive, so I turned it down. For lack of finding anything better, I eventually started working at a credit union. I don't love my job, but it has taught me so much about money management. I was so irresponsible with money in college but my parents were always around to bail me out--if I had taken the job in FL I'd probably have horrible credit right now. Plus I may not have stayed with DH and then I wouldn't have Betsy!
Danica 10.22.10 | Milo 12.23.12
We got marred when I was 22, I don't regret that at all. I've been on my own since I was 17, so I was a little more grown than people my age at the time.
I'm trying to become a more assertive person, it's difficult. I usually just say "whatever" and let it go. But my husband's family drives me up the wall about my child. Yes, I'm still breastfeeding at 6 months. No she's cant have sweet tea or frenchfries. Ugh, they think she's a 6 y/o not a 6 month old. I've now had to threaten to take her away for awhile if I find out they did these things.
I seem to be quite emotional today but this brought tears to my eyes.
BUT BUT...do you know how close we would be if you were at UF????
Leaving my first fiance'. I look at where he's at in life and laugh. He was an abusive, cheating arse and it took 3 years to realize it. I'm so glad I did though!!
And I have to agree with PPs about getting married young. I always knew I wanted to get married and start a family at a young age. (Probably the reason I was engaged at 17!)
*TTC #2 since 5/2011*
*me(23) DH(28)*
*DX w/ PCOS 3/22/12*
I'll jump on the "getting married young" bandwagon. I was a month shy of 20 on our wedding day. It sounds really young, but if you knew my life, I'm not a usual 20-something.
Also, not listening to MIL when she said to wait until I was at least 27 to have the first child. I was barely 22 when DS was born, and the timing for DH and me was perfect.
I will never regret anything that has to do with DH. I ditto that I married my best friend.
True that.
Waiting 8 years after being married to have children. I love my daughter dearly, but I could not have been the mother I want to be if I had her when I was so young. I loved all the time dh and I had as a couple to travel, save, enjoy life and just be us.
Not to mention that we are now established and not having to worry about money and having more freedom with our work makes life with a child so much easier.
Props to the "waiters"!
Leaving my last job. My manager had left 3 months before I did (after being out on ML for 3 months) and our department head had no intention of promoting me to her job even though I had been doing it for 6 months without compensation (which is another story altogether).
Not too long after I left, they lost a grant which had payed for half of my salary and the department head ended up cutting all the programs I had worked for. Now I am actually appreciated in my job and my salary is higher. I will never forget the look on her face when I said I was quitting. Priceless!
(...and I know they lost the grant b/c both my manager and I had left and the grant person didn't trust anyone else to take care of it)
I left my ex boyfriend in 2008 after almost 4 years of being together and 3 years living together. He always put me down and told me things like "if you ever get over 115lbs or if you ever get pregnant I'm leaving you." (among other things) I only weighed 90lbs at 21 years old. Not healthy at all. I didn't think I would be able to make it by myself financially but I left anyway and moved into a house and I met my now H right next door.
And you know what I weigh 116lbs, I am happily married and I have a wonderful baby girl.
Moving to Ft. Collins, CO. I grew up in Cincinnati, graduated in '06 and DH (boyfriend at the time) and I hightailed it out here. I didn't even have a job, but getting out of Cincinasti was priority #1 upon graduation.
I can't imagine living anywhere else. It's an outdoor playground here.
I'll never regret fvcking off at work one day in May, 2001 and checking out the Yahoo! Personals page for sh!ts and giggles.
If I hadn't done that, I would never have seen DH's personal ad and contacted him. I wouldn't have had a first date with him a week later. I would have married him 4 years later. I would have had babies with him almost 10 years later.
Unable to even.
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You don't understand the appeal of Benedict Cumberbatch / think he's fug / don't know who he is? WATCH SHERLOCK. Until you do, your negative opinion of him will not be taken seriously.
This. H and I moved in together after 6 months due to some college living arrangements falling through. I did not want to move in that soon. I come from a really religious family and they all but cut me off . They eventually came around and I owe our strong marriage to living together for most of our relationship.
Francesca Pearl is here! Josephine Hope is almost 3!
Yes,I'm smiling...I'm a marathoner!
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I never pictured myself raising a baby with my husband on the other side of the world, but I have grown so much in this short amount of time. I am so much more independent, and feel like if I can do this, I am capable of anything. Also, I don't think I could be any prouder of my husband!
So true!
Mom to Carter (6), and Calianne (1).
Proud VBAC, natural birth, breastfeeding, cloth diapering momma!
I'll never regret waiting until I was 30 to have my daughter. I loved the five married years DH and I spent together before having Ella. I also will never regret putting off having a child for the last year while I finished my masters. Now I have an awesome job as a neurosurgery nurse practitioner, and don't have to work any nights, weekends, or holidays!
I also will never regret the three years DH and I lived with my grandfather. He was on hospice for a majority of the time, and we were his primary caregivers. It was during that time, I realized how good and how much I wanted DH to be a dad, because of the way he treated and cared for my grandfather.