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Announcing the name Poll/Question

PiscesFishPiscesFish
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Our baby has two middle names - one we picked for him individually, the second is my maiden name.  His full name then is going to be First Middle MyMaiden OurLast.

We are mailing out photo birth announcments and I'm unsure how best to word them to avoid confusion. For some reason, most of my friends/relatives have the idea that I didn't take my husband's last name - most of our holiday cards were addressed to Pisces Maiden and Mr. Pisces Ourlast; our baby shower invites  referred to Baby MyMaiden-OurLast. To us, getting my last name wrong is momentary annoyance, but getting the baby's last name wrong really bothers my husband especially.

Your input on the poll is much appreciated. ;)

 

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Re: Announcing the name Poll/Question

  • alliejo725alliejo725 member

    I voted for leaving out your maiden name on the announcements, however...

    You might just try making it very clear on the announcements that you and YH have the same LN. For instance:

    "YH and Pisces LastName proudly announce the birth of..."

    Use Mr. and Mrs. LastName on the return address. People will get the idea.

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  • PiscesFishPiscesFish
    imagealliejo725:

    Use Mr. and Mrs. LastName on the return address. People will get the idea.

    This is what I did for our wedding TY notes, our holiday cards, birthday cards since we got married... changed my name on FB, LinkedIn, my email, etc - I don't see why it's not catching on.

    Though I used Pisces and Mr. Pisces HisLast, maybe that had something to do with it?

    ETA: And, I'm a bit surprised by the poll responses... I'd put the "correct people forever" option as somewhat sarcastic.  I hate to not put his full name, but may smack at the next person who refers to us as the "MyMaiden-OurLast" family.  I'm interested to hear why that choice is second most popular though?
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  • anna7602anna7602 member

    I re-read your poll question twice and am still confused. Is it your baby's last name or your last name you are trying to make clear on the birth announcements? Will the baby have a hyphenated last name or are you using your maiden name as a second middle name? Did you legally change your last name when you married and do you want everyone to know you as "Mr & Mrs. Samelastname" or are you trying to retain your last name? Or did you not legally change your name when you married and you've only decided to do so now?

    FWIW, I know a ton of people who have used the mother's maiden name as a middle name (1st or 2nd mn), regardless of whether the mom changed her name or not. It's not usually confusing that the maiden name is not part of the baby's legal last name.

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  • anna7602anna7602 member
    I couldn't use the "quote" function for some reason, but you wrote "our baby shower invites  referred to Baby MyMaiden-OurLast." This is pretty common in my circle simply because it's hard for everyone to keep track of people's new married names, especially if you're inviting extended family (ie, people you might not see very often), it helps signal who exactly you're celebrating if your 85-year-old aunt can't happen to remember your husband's last name. This happened for our baby shower and I had been married almost 6 years by then! Even BRU's registry has a space to fill in "mother's maiden name."
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  • beewltchedbeewltched

    Couldnt you just put his first and first middle name and leave off the last names completely.Like we put:  

    Introducing Lucas John....then at the bottom we put Proud parents Dh & Me Lastname 

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  • narabugnarabug member
    I voted for something else. Although the second option is closest to what I'm thinking. I would put First name, just initials for both middle names, and the baby's last name. Then, when people ask what the initials are for you can explain everything else. That way people will get his last name right.
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  • PiscesFishPiscesFish
    imageanna7602:

    I re-read your poll question twice and am still confused. Is it your baby's last name or your last name you are trying to make clear on the birth announcements?

    We're trying to make it clear that my husband's last name (which I have taken) is our son's last name also.  I am concerned that the apparent confusion over my last name will make people get the baby's last name wrong. 

     

    Will the baby have a hyphenated last name or are you using your maiden name as a second middle name?

    We're using my maiden name as the baby's second middle name.  We all three have/will have my husband's last name. 

     

    Did you legally change your last name when you married and do you want everyone to know you as "Mr & Mrs. Samelastname" or are you trying to retain your last name?

     I legally changed my last name, and my maiden name is now my middle.  Eventually, I would appreciate if people would begin referring to me by my new legal name, though this is not a battle I feel like taking on now. I keep signing stuff MyFirst HisLast and hoping people get it.

    Or did you not legally change your name when you married and you've only decided to do so now?

    I legally changed it about a week after I married. 

    It's not usually confusing that the maiden name is not part of the baby's legal last name.

    It shouldn't be, but since I can't seem to get people clear on what MY last name is, I am concerned it will be a problem.  Especially since it bothers my husband so much. 

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  • cozylittlecavecozylittlecave
    imagePiscesFish:

    our baby shower invites referred to Baby MyMaiden-OurLast

    Just so you know- this is what caused the confusion. Your wording (or whoever did them) on those invites implies that the baby has 2 last names. If your maiden is going to be a 2nd middle, then it should just be Baby OurLast.

    I think you need to just be consistent from now on & correct people when possible. Use all 4 names on the announcements- otherwise, I think there will be MORE confusion. Or use initials for the 2 middle names maybe- but leaving some names out would be incorrect. Could you hyphenate the 2 middles on the announcement? Maybe find a way to label a picture "Miss/Mister Baby LastName?" Definitely go with PP suggestions and make sure to put Mr. & Mrs. LastName on all return addresses and any other possible opportunities. 

    I'd also tell your friends & family about it & ask them to spread the news. Then, you can have others correcting the problem if they hear about it too.

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  • starlight8323starlight8323 member

    The only solution I like would be to include his name story on the birth announcement- something I'm planning to do regardless. Include something like "We decided to honor my family by adding my maiden name as Joseph's second middle name". That way you kill two birds with one stone: 1) you emphasize your last name change 2) you convey the message that it is a second middle name, rather than a first last name.

     

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