I really want to shower vent...

drea_raye · January 2011

I just wish people were a little more on the ball. My MIL was supposed to bring invitations for the "cabin" crowd to give out while they were all up here New Years, but she forgot. Now they will have to be hand-delivered, and lord only knows who will end up doing that and when.

My sisters were supposed to get invites ready on my family's side, but I think they may still be partied out from New Years.

I know that there is still a good bit of time, since my shower is Jan 29th, but at the same time I am freaking the f out. I hate that both groups won't do anything without being nagged, and I really shouldn't have to nag/ be nagging them to get things done.

I just feel like the shower is so late, and because we aren't going to get everything we need we are going to be left with so much to buy and it will be so close to the end and....yeah I am pretty much in full on panic mode.

Somebody talk me off the ledge? Thanks!

mrssburnison · January 2011

You're shower is not late at all!!!! I live in Another country than I'm registered in, and that my shower is going to be in, and my shower isn't until February 19th. So its not late at all!!!!! I know I'm not due till the 30th, but still... its late. Don't panic, no one will let you have LO with nothing to cloth them in or anything. You'll be ok. Take a deep breath and have a little faith that everything will come to gether and work itself out.

Yes, you probably will have to go out and buy things in the end, but ya know what... You'll get gift cards to help, and after LO is born, people will be happy to bring things for you... take them up on the offers when they ask if you need help!!!! Even if its oh yeah, you can stop by and see LO if you pick up some milk for us on the way over! Everyone will want to stop in and see LO but make them work for it! LOL.... trust me... its not worth stressing over, just accept people's help when its offered, otherwise they'll stop offering!

You'll be ok, you still have lots of time, after the shower! No worries!

diannica · January 2011

I'm sorry this is stressing you out. Being that aren't on the ball/procrastinators driving me crazy. I like to be ahead of the game and not waiting till the last minute, especially when it comes to planning events. Hopefully, they will get the invitations out this week. That should give people enough time to rsvp. Plus, most people don't buy a gift until the week of the party so don't stress out about that. As long as they know when it is and where you are registered, you will be ok. Plus, you have about a month before LO arrives to get the last items you need. A bit of advice I will give you is you don't need to buy everything right away. Just buy the items you will need/use the first couple of months. You can always buy other items as you go. So don't let that stress you out. It's out of your control so just relax and it will all work out.

mrsjanks · January 2011

No invites were even sent for my shower... just phone calls. It's a small family shower with maybe 20 people.

MicahAnn2009 · January 2011

My in-laws aren't throwing us a shower, my MIL said she doesn't have any friends to imvite to a shower. My mom has said my family will throw a shower but no date has been set yet, they live about 2 hrs away from us right now so I hope they plan it before I can't travel(although I don't see 2 hrs ever being too far). We talked about the first weekend in February but that was one time we have talked about it. I know everyone says not to worry but really, don't worry because things could be worse.

green bean · January 2011

My shower is suppose to be feb 19th and iam due the 24th that dosent seem like much time to me but iam trying not to stress about it and just be happy iam getting a shower. Oh and the date isent even definit yet because my host is using my sils house so she has to make sure the date is okay first

sweetpea2718 · January 2011

you'll be fine. Mine is when i'll hit 36 weeks. I was just talking to DH about ordering certain things, like the carseat, that we know we absolutely have to have. Since i'm due at the beginning of March, i'll prob just do a little registry stalking and set a deadline for ordering the important things if no one has purchased them. I'm not counting on my shower to bring me the must haves. I think it will be a fun time to celebrate the baby.

drea_raye · January 2011

We have a number of our must-haves... like the crib, dresser, carseat, pack-and-play, and a lot of our cloth diapers.

I would love it to be about celebrating baby, but I have a feeling it will just be a fiasco.

And I am paranoid about LO being here early, since I was born at 37 weeks... and baby has been measuring between 6 and 10 days ahead at all the u/s.

ETA: Sorry, I just realized that this is now very whiny and ungrateful sounding... I mostly just need to relax, or do something productive with these hormones.

hispenguin · January 2011

Your shower is not late at all! My shower is the weekend after yours, and it's only that early b/c the only date that the venue had available in February was the 5th, my mother wanted it later! You just have to think that you'll still have at least a month to get all the smaller clothes washed, and pick up whatever you need but didn't get.

I honestly sat and helped my mother write out 50 shower invitations this afternoon, otherwise I know that it would have probably been next week or later before they are all mailed out, and I wanted people to have a little bit of time to RSVP.

porxxxvida · January 2011

I totally understand how you feel. I feel terrible about how ungrateful I've been acting about it! I found out less than a week ago that my shower is planned for the 15th of this month. The invitations were mailed out YESTERDAY, meaning the first ones will arrive on Tuesday, leaving only 11 days of notice. The thing is, my aunt who's hosting the shower is always entertaining guests and knows more about etiquette than anyone I know. Everywhere I look they say to give about 4 weeks notice. I can't help but think it's my fault because I asked what the date would be "because my friend will be in town on the 15th." I love this girl, but she's not my best friend or anything! She may not even come. :[

Now we're trying to find a place (still) for the end of this month in the city we live in for our co-ed, laid back shower. I just hope SOMETHING is available! Our baby is due the first week of March.

Anyway, you'll be fine. It's nerve-wracking for sure, but everything will work itself out.

pregaftertubal · January 2011

try not to get over stressed about it! because no matter what you do or how you feel, your not going to change the outcome. worrying about it will only raise your BP!!! it will be all right, the invites will get sent, everything will be lovely. just because you came early, means absolutely nothing on when you will deliver!!! this sort of happened to me with my first baby. (my shower was a disguise for a party for my SIL. SIL though she was going to my shower when really it was an engagement party for her. that meant my shower was delayed 2 weeks, and it was 3 weeks to my delivery date.) i was soooooo stressed out over it and needlessly so. it all worked out, everything was fine! and yours will be too. step back and let someone else worry about the ducks lining up in a row!!!

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