debbie downers!

eyelovemascara · December 2010

I need some encouragement that its possible to have a healthy (and somewhat complication-free) twin pregnancy! Everyone I talk to keeps discouraging me with things like "Oh, you'll be on bedrest for sure!" and "Hope you know you'll be HUGE!". This is my first pregnancy and I really haven't had any problems other than occasional nausea. I'm type 1 diabetic so I have the additional worry of watching my blood sugars (I'm on an insulin pump). I've always been a positive person, but all these friends and family seem to think that its going to be impossible for me to have a good pregnancy! Stop telling me I'm going to be on bed rest when I'm only 11 weeks and perfectly healthy!

Temp159135562506975 · December 2010

twins certainly carry more risks, as does having diabetes- but the fact is, many twin pgs are just fine.

have you read Dr. Luke's book? it will go over all possible issues, and how to try and avoid, etc.

i was on bed rest at 30w with kidney stones, high BP, then PTL at 32w, with my singleton... had to be induced at 36w b/c of all the issues..... so i thought for sure i'd be on bedrest with the twins - NOPE!

I went to 38w1d with no signs of labor- no issues AT ALL. I actually felt pretty damn great all the way through considering how big i was and carrying twins. I took it really easy the whole pg, ate a lot to gain and make them big - took precautions by leaving work early (27w), etc... and in the end did awesome with 2 healthy boys.

knowing the risks and what to look out for is very important- but thinking positive is a great thing!

babya2010 · December 2010

My pregnancy was pretty smooth-sailing! I only gained 46lbs and IMO did not look "huge", I was never put on bedrest at all. Made it to 37weeks when I was induced (turned c-section) due to mild pre-e. Check out my blog for more!

monkski · December 2010

I developed gestational diabetes, but besides that, had no complications. I went to 37 weeks 2 days and had a scheduled c-section. Had it a little early because of the GD, but babies were perfect and healthy and no NICU time. I also worked up until I had them. I only gained 20 lbs. (which isn't ideal for twins, but I think the GD diet kept me from the pregnancy craving foods) Still the babies were healthy weights (6lbs. and 5 lbs 10 oz.). Just take care of yourself and stay well tuned to your body and any signs it gives you.

JosiePosy · December 2010

I just had my girls 2 weeks ago and ran into trouble the last few months, but from the beginning of my pregnancy in June to the first part of October was perfectly smooth sailing! I felt great for the majority of the pregnancy (except for the m/s, but that wasn't as terrible as it could have been). What made it easier for me was taking each day one at a time and not worrying about the future months ahead. Yes things changed quickly toward the end, but there was nothing I could do about it except take things as they came along.

Of all the MoMs I've talked to over the past several months, one thing remains constant: no pregnancy is alike. If you feel awesome, I would recommend enjoying it and not stressing about what other people are telling you. I hope it goes well for you. Big Smile

sunnybrook. · December 2010

I had several uterine surgeries, so in addition to comments from friends, family, and strangers, the doctors expected PTL, IC, uterine rupture, bedrest, etc. My girls stayed put until their scheduled c-section. I never went on bedrest even with a toddler in the home. I was out shopping and doing my normal things until the day of delivery. I did have GD and had to take insulin but that was my only complication. Because of my medical history, the doctors mentioned fetal death, hysterectomy, blood transfusions, and all kinds of scary stuff and none of it happened. I wish I hadn't spent so much time worrying!

AmberB711 · December 2010

Mine was the easiest. I only gained 24 1/2 lbs made it to scheduled csection 37week 4days with boys weighing 6lbs 11oz and 5lbs. No bedrest, no GD ( i did fail 1hr glucose but passed 3hr), I only stopped working cause my bosses are 2 guys and they told me to stop coming to office as they didnt want my water breaking there ( I work part time and from home 2 days a week), I was at the mall and grocery shopping the day before my delivery.

Only thing I developed Pre-e after I delivered the twins.

Good Luck hope all goes well with your pregnancy.

kaitley44 · December 2010

I was told the same things, but nothing happened. I had a great pregnancy other than the m/s and delivered with a c/s complication free at 38w5d. I did gain 50 pounds and was huge, but lost the weight within a month.

Don't worry about what might happen and enjoy your pregnancy!

eyelovemascara · December 2010

Thanks ladies! You certainly made me feel better! Its definitely not worth it for me to stress out about all the things that can go wrong. One day at a time!

Rangergal9 · December 2010

I made it to my scheduled c/s at 38 weeks 1 day with no complications and my girls were 7lbs and 6lbs 10 oz. The only issue I had was really bad swelling in my legs. I am a teacher and was able to work until I was 36 weeks along. I stopped on my own accord because my legs were so swollen and it became painful to do anything but sit with my legs up. I had a great pregnancy (besides the terrible morning sickness). I was just miserable and very uncomfortable at the end. Good luck and as you'll see you can have a great twin pregnancy!

jamie217 · December 2010

I had a great pregnancy, I went to 38wk2days, had two healthy babies, minimal swelling - despite major heatwaves, no bed rest and was only really uncomfortable the last 3-4 weeks and I worked up until 34 weeks. I have two friends who have had twins in the past year and they both had great pregnancies as well. Everyone feels the need to share stories and tell you what to do, etc. Yes, there are more risks, but every pregnancy is different and the most important things are to stay positive and take care of yourself.

LoveEeyore · December 2010

Mine was a breeze except from 37-39 weeks I had a severely strained ligament that we thought had torn because my2 huge snuggle bugs were both to the right of my belly button. I did nothing different from my singleton pregnancy (besides chase a toddler) and gained about 30 lbs. I was taking DD to gymboree and music classes, going shopping, doing everything right up to delivery!

nikinikinine · December 2010

I'm two days away from full term twins. I was put on modified bed rest but not until 32 weeks and really it wasn't a big deal. I wasn't having issues or anything, but I had been working out the whole pregnancy and the weight of the bambinos was putting too much pressure on my cervix. I got off my feet and never had another cervical issue after that.

My only trip to L&D was my own fault, I let myself get dehydrated and started contracting at 30 weeks.

As far as getting huge, I can only speak to my own experience. I'm definitely a lot bigger than I ever thought I could be. Am I huge? I guess maybe some would say that, but I have faith that once I give birth I will be less "huge"

Everyone's pregnancy is different. There's no way to tell how yours will be, but not every multiples pregnancy has issues or whatever.

ProwdMommy · December 2010

I will be delivering my babies in 12 days and have had no complications other than GD, which I have had under control with oral meds. I have not had any restrictions and was actually pretty small until about 2 weeks ago. I am only 5'0 so I thought that I would def. be huge. Just make sure that you listen to your body and remember every pregnancy is different.

Natalie_may · December 2010

I'm one of the people with a less then perfect pregnancy but I wanted to pop in and say your attitude is great! Keep that optimism and you will be able to make the best of every situation. I am a strong believer in mother's intuition so keep tuned into your body and treat yourself well. A very healthy and happy pregnancy to you!

MrsLnt · December 2010

I made it to my schedule c-section at 37w1d with zero complications. I quit working at 32 weeks only because I was exhausted and wanted to give myself the best chance possible to avoid PTL. It was also nice to have some time to just be.

I'm only 5'3 and gained about 50-60 lbs, but it was a lot of fluid and most people were shocked when I told them I was carrying twins.

My boss and my friend's mom both carried their twins full term (my boss to 40 weeks!) and had healthy, complication free pregnancies, and healthy take-home babies. A multiple pregnancy is not a guarantee of complications.

jalaiaa · December 2010

I had a relatively easy pregnancy. Sure I had aches and pains and some heartburn, but really, I can't complain overall. I obviously can't tell you that your pregnancy will be without complication, but it is possible to have a nice, easy pregnancy. Also, a lot of life is what you make of it. If you have a positive outlook in general, chances are you'll deal well with your pregnancy complications or not.

blondek8 · January 2011

My pregnancy was fairly easy. I was only huge and uncomfortable the last 4 weeks or so. I carried until 37w6d and both boys were healthy weights. 6lbs12oz and 6lbs1oz. Good luck with your pregnancy!

megs_glo · January 2011

I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your stories. It is really helpful to hear that it may not be as bad as everyone tells you. This was exactly what I needed to read!

omgtwinsfeb11 · January 2011

Ugh those comments that you're getting are NOT helpful. Though it hasn't been my experience, you can totally have a healthy twin pregnancy. That said, take it easy and be on the lookout for problems. I was having a perfectly healthy pregnancy... until the day that I wasn't. There was no gradual decline. I'm only telling you this because my perfectly healthy pregnancy gave me a false confidence and I nearly ignored some serious problems because I was just in denial that anything so serious could be going wrong. I realize that my experience is atypical. I hope you have a happy, healthy nine months!

missfire · January 2011

I've had a hard time emotionally with my twin pregnancy because my doctors are always telling me about risks, testing me for everything under the sun, and being fairly negative. My OB told me last week "We just didn't think you'd get this far." (Gee, thanks!) I feel that the stress of all those comments is a big factor in why my blood pressure has gone up enough that I'm on meds for it now!

In my first pregnancy, I was at a midwife practice, went to natural birth focused childbirth classes, and was taught hypnobirthing from my doula. It was a really amazing difference, to have all that positive energy around me and be told so often that what i was experiencing was normal, that my baby was healthy and happy, etc.

So I recommend finding some supportive people you can rely on to help you stay positive and trust your body and babies to grow the way they need to. My DH, mom, doula, and the chiropractors I see each week all help me with that.

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