Sex- who's having it?

ReeseM · December 2010

It's been probably 3 weeks.... maybe 4 since we have... I feel bad, but I am so NOT in the mood 90% of the time, and when I am, DH is often not here. Thus ruining any chances later

Anywhoooo, he's here now...

If you are still having it this late, do you usually get contrax after, or anything else weird? I was so not into it at this point with DD, so I have no frame of reference!

And dumb question of the day----- I know sperm can act as a cervical ripener, but that is only if baby is already thinking of heading out, right?

Cbethanis · December 2010

My fiancee and I are still having sex, but haven't had it in probably a week an a half since I have been really sick and can't move around without coughing up a lung. The only time in the pregnancy we really stopped having sex was mid 2nd tri, when I had no desire in having sex at all.

The only weird thing that happens is that sometimes the baby moves and puts a body part at my pelvic bone and then it makes sex feel reallllly weird. lol. And about a week ago we had sex (more & longer than we usually do) and the next day I lost a piece of my MP. It should regenerate, but thats how I found out sex can loosen your MP.

*BlackSheep* · December 2010

Well, I'm not as far along as you. but we haven't had much sex. I really haven't been in the mood, I feel bad for dh. I wouldn't mind to have sex but then I have to do something! ha.

I haven't had any side effects from sex that I have noticed the last time.

Good luck.

lizard76 · December 2010

Just did last night. We're still going on 2-3x/week. We've had problems in the past losing intimacy, especially after the birth of our first DS and I'm making a conscious effort not to lose it this time around. Luckily, my DH understands that sometimes I need to change positions, etc., so it's still been enjoyable.

violetvirgo · December 2010

::raises hand::

although...my bump is now so big it's getting a bit awkward.

columbiamommy · December 2010

We've been averaging about once a week. The thought of it is always more appealing than the actual sex. No contrax afterward, and it usually doesn't last very long since it's so infrequent. I'm sure we'll go for it at least 2 more times before my c/s one week from today.

I'm not completely sure about the whole semen softening the cervix thing, but it's not doing anything for me. I've been 1 cm dilated and 50% effaced for 3 weeks now.

Good luck!

lilbit923 · December 2010

DH and I were very active when I was pregnant with Emma. We had sex the day before I went into labor with Emma at 36 weeks. My cervix effaced completely in less than 24 hours of me being admitted into L&D. Emma didn't have any issues, she was tiny but just perfect. Not a thing wrong with her. So yep, if the baby is ready then sperm does help move things along with the cervix.

pomrom · December 2010

We are still doing it but for the most part, it is completly spontaneous.... he has been off work for a week and a half now and the kids have been off school. I will walk by and he will smack my butt or say something and if I go into the bedroom, he will usually follow. The kids are 7 and 4... usually watching cartoons and won't notice we are gone for 10 minutes. It is mainly quickies... nothing planned or out done. He is happy... I am happy that he is happy.

Shpinz2011 · December 2010

We haven't in about 2 weeks. DH is afraid of sending me into labor before we are full term, because of the whole cervix softening thing. I'm not sure about whether or not it only happens if the baby is already ready. I know that I am currently not dilated or anything at all, which is good since we are breech right now

tigerlily71 · December 2010

I'm a week from my due date and yea, we are still having sex. I don't have any contractions right after, but I have read that a lot of people do. I don't think you need to worry about premature ripening of the cervix. I think that only works when your baby is ready to be born, but that's just my assumption.

Sex in the third trimester has been a little awkward. I don't feel like my sexy self, although I continue to think about sex. I heard someone say once that the most important thing about sex during pregnancy is to have a sense of humor about it. I/ We have found this to be true :-)

One more thing. Don't worry about having too little sex drive right now. It's totally common. Just make sure to talk to him about it.

TG508 · December 2010

im not. i wish i was but its SO uncomfortable that we cant and not only that but now it causes me to contract even more so we def cant.

my dr hasnt put me on pelvic rest or anything but the last two times we had sex it caused some major issues with contractions the next 2 days so im being smart!

but like DH says.. atleast we know what will bring baby when we are ready!!

ele617 · December 2010

DH and I are...occasionally. I've been trying to be up for it at least once a week, but that's not always the case. The last two times we've done it, though, I've been hurting afterward. Not internally, but more like someone is squeezing the life out of my vagina's outer lips (maybe tmi?). I used to get the same kind of feeling when my period started, but this is much more intense and lasts quite a while. I can't imagine it's a contraction...but I really have no idea. Anyone else experienced this?

everydayeve · December 2010

We're still doing it, but only about once a week at this point. Last week, I thought my hips were going to fall out of place or I was going to have a prolapse after we did it. We tried a different position last night and I didn't have any problems. It seems to be trial and error at this point.

Sperm can act as a cervical ripener. It's one of the only places that prostaglandin, the hormone that synthetic misoprostol mimics is found. Misoprostol/Cytotec is one of the drugs used to efface cervix during an induction. The dosage of the hormone in sperm is much less than what you would receive during an induction though and you're right, if baby isn't ready, then nothing will happen anyway (unless you're already experiencing preterm labor). I've already warned DH that he's a vital part of my induce-myself-before-they-induce-me plan though.

mommabu · December 2010

I am 29 weeks today and I can't get enough, I want it all the time but it only happens maybe twice a week due to having so much indigestion and being exhausted 80% of the time. I even have intense dreams about sex and lots of fantasies. Is there something wrong with me???

kgabardy · December 2010

Holy crap I was just having this concersation with a co-worker this morning.....my FI and I are about 4-5 times a week usually, with the exception being this past week, just because we've been so tired from the holiday celebrations.

I've never had real contractions afterwards, but I have had some BH contractions. That may change, the further along I get.

beaner123 · December 2010

hmm......we haven't since mid november, my DH can't seem to get past the fact that the baby is kicking him. How can I get him to get past being 'weirded' out by the baby is kicking?

BewitchedbyJosh · December 2010

ele617:
DH and I are...occasionally. I've been trying to be up for it at least once a week, but that's not always the case. The last two times we've done it, though, I've been hurting afterward. Not internally, but more like someone is squeezing the life out of my vagina's outer lips (maybe tmi?). I used to get the same kind of feeling when my period started, but this is much more intense and lasts quite a while. I can't imagine it's a contraction...but I really have no idea. Anyone else experienced this?

Yes! This happens to me everytime. With my first, we were going til the last month. I can't even get into it, its so painful and uncomfortable! I'm still trying for 1-2x a week though!

Molluskwrangler · December 2010

The last three nights in a row. It's not terribly comfortable but I can still get off here and there and I figure it'll be a long dry spell for DH...just tossing him a bone...well let him toss me one. Wink

kgabardy · December 2010

LovingBaz:
The last three nights in a row. It's not terribly comfortable but I can still get off here and there and I figure it'll be a long dry spell for DH...just tossing him a bone...well let him toss me one.

BAHAHAHAH!!! Love this....you rock.

o2bme · December 2010

We haven't had sex since I was 18 weeks. I was put on pelvic rest at the 20week u/s due to a low lying placenta. I have an u/s Monday so I'm hoping the placenta has moved so we can have some much needed sexy time.

DH has completely awesome.

JustOne · December 2010

I can not remember the last time. But I was also put on pelvic rest again a week and a half ago again. If I could, we would not because I have an H who can not get past the fact that our daughter is in there and it creeps him out. Such is life.... lol

FutureMrsCaesar · December 2010

We are still doing it on the rare occasion. But just like with DS now that I'm in the 3rd tri I get crazy contractions afterward on and off for basically the rest of the day. If I orgasm it's even worse. This time around there's also much more swelling and pressure afterward too. My Drs have assured me that it's normal and won't do anything to bring on labor until the LO is ready. It totally freaks DH out though, he doesn't like the idea of doing anything that makes me so uncomfortable.

Nyki06Wed43530 · December 2010

We're back up to about once a week now which is a lot more than we've had throughout this pregnancy. I've been trying to set the mood so it doesn't seem like a chore which involved me trying on some of my lingerie... that was a funny sight with a basketball sized belly protruding from me.

camkuhl22 · December 2010

mommabu:
I am 29 weeks today and I can't get enough, I want it all the time but it only happens maybe twice a week due to having so much indigestion and being exhausted 80% of the time. I even have intense dreams about sex and lots of fantasies. Is there something wrong with me???

This is me completely! I am always asking him if he wants to have sex. I dream every night about sex and its always on my brain. He gets home from work today at 330 and I will let him have 15 minutes to himself before I pounce him. If I wait any longer (after dinner) I will be asleep (and dreaming about it!).

myszko · December 2010

Not me

It's been 2 months for sure. DH won't do it because he can't get past the baby being RIGHT there. He knows he can't hurt her, but I think he's also afraid of me being uncomfortable and having contractions after. I asked my midwife about perineal massage and she said as long as you have normal sexual activity, that's enough stretching. Even THAT won't get him to have sex with me. I don't usually want to anyhow, but I'd still like to sometimes!

shuaytos · December 2010

It's been a few weeks. I would love to but it's so uncomfortable and doesn't feel that great. There is only one position that really works and I have a hard time breathing that I just end up in tears.

JessiRaye · December 2010

Me! Once or twice a week. A few times have been awkward but we are starting to get the hang of maneuvering around the belly. Wink

ETA: I don't have contractions afterwards luckily. And i believe the prostaglandins will only 'ripen' the cervix if the cervix is really ready.

LucyGoosey81 · December 2010

Me, but it's getting awkward and difficult. Not sure how much longer it's going to work out.

hjohn · December 2010

I got taken off of pelvic rest last week after being on it for 6 weeks, so I had to give in on Xmas. Ugh. Would NOT recommend it. My vag was swollen already, felt fat and disgusting, and I could tell DH was either not into it or afraid to do the deed. We did it and all, but yeah, not doing that again until 6 weeks postpartum. Not comfortable!

I didn't have an contractions afterward- just felt sore.

aggiemeg · December 2010

About once a week. Yes, some positions are uncomfortable but I just laugh and say "we need to try something different, this is NOT working."

I always have major contrax after O. No O, no contrax.

For some reason, I thought the prostoglandins in semen could cause contractions, not necessarily cervical ripening. But this is solely from my brain/memory, not from any medical source that I can pinpoint. At any rate, sex is fine and safe in a normal pregnancy (unless membranes have ruptured)

HoolahZinger · December 2010

We try to make a concious effort to try 2-4 times a week. I know it will get harder as time moves closer to the due date but like a pp said, it's best to have humor with it all. I try not to think about how whale-ish I must look. I get BH but that's about it thus far.