Changing LO's name .. Too late? Please No Flames :-(

SaraMaeHeinick · December 2010

Please don't flame me, but I think I made a horrible mistake. I love my LO but his name just doesn't seem to fit him. I've tried for the past almost five months to adapt to it, but it just isn't working. His middle name is fine because that's his dad's name so that would stay but I really am rethinking his name.

My DH is really mad at me. I tell him LO won't even remember since we would be doing it so soon. He still gets mad and I tell him that maybe I should drop his name from mine in protest. Gah, he is such an a**.

I don't know what it is, but there's so many other cuter names and Jaxon spelled Jackson was on the top of the lists in popularity this year and I didn't know or I would have chosen something else. Ugh, I don't want him to have a name like everyone else. I do and I hate it! I just don't think the name fits him.

I think I will just go find out how to go about it. And then tell my DH. He doesn't have to be so rude. He could at least try to understand. Grrr!

toyah81 · December 2010

Wow! Not flaming, but I can understand where your DH is coming from. If you all have been calling your baby that for 5 months, you have to admit that it is strange to want to change it now. He is your baby but he is also your DH's. Did he have any say-so in the name picking to begin with. Maybe that's why he's angrier than you thought he'd be. If it were me, even if I didn't like the name anymore, at this point in time, I wouldn't change it.

I'm sorry you and your DH don't see eye to eye on it though.

BlueRidge8 · December 2010

DH's name was legally changed when he was a kid - he was born a "Jr." and they changed it to his nickname to avoid confusion. If you do it while he's young enough it shouldn't be an issue.

If you aren't happy with a popular name then I can understand your frustration with Jackson (and the Jaxon spelling is NMS) - go with your gut, but make sure it's a family decision.

kenna_4 · December 2010

I think it's wayyyyyyy too late. Your LO is probably starting to know his name already, I don't blame your DH, but he shouldn't be an ass about it. This is really strange to want to change it so late in the game. I LOVE the name if that helps at all.

Brookie-Cookie · December 2010

lol, if you didn't have 2000+ posts I would have put my money on MUD

msm261 · December 2010

My friend was named Leah, but her mom changed it to Danielle at 6 months--she has no lasting scars. .

I also battled this b/c my son's name is my maiden name (Maack) and people had strong opinions about it when I was pregnant. Obviously everyone from my side of the family loved it and I am the only girl so it was fitting to use the name--but other people thought it was a weird name with a weird spelling. I love DS's name, but I think am biased since it was my last name for 24 years. . .but I do hate the reactions from people ("Matt?" . . ."NO, MaaCK". . ."Oh, Mack. Is it spelled M-A-C-K?". . ."NO, it's M-A-A-C-K". . . side eye. . haha). I sometimes get worried that DS will hate me when he has to deal with that the rest of his life ;o(.

But do whatever you think is best. You're his mama and if sometimes feels off, change it now before it really is too late!! But I am sure he will love whatever name you decide on!

MNgirl326 · December 2010

i don't think it is too late, but if you are going to do it, I would do it ASAP.

Carilyn · December 2010

Obviously this is a decision you need to make with your DH. However, I read an article in Parents magazine (or something like that) about this very thing several months ago. The parents changed their DS' name around 4 or 5 months because what they had chosen just didn't work for him. I believe the psych research that they cited talked about babies starting to recognize their name around 6months, so before that is the optimal time to change their name if you feel that is what is right. Like I said, it is something that your DH needs to be on board with, but if you're going to change it, I agree with PP that you need to do it ASAP.

FolanMama · December 2010

What are you wanting to change it too?

Ashleygoo · December 2010

Jaxon's Mommy:
Please don't flame me, but I think I made a horrible mistake. I love my LO but his name just doesn't seem to fit him. I've tried for the past almost five months to adapt to it, but it just isn't working. His middle name is fine because that's his dad's name so that would stay but I really am rethinking his name.

My DH is really mad at me. I tell him LO won't even remember since we would be doing it so soon. He still gets mad and I tell him that maybe I should drop his name from mine in protest. Gah, he is such an a**.

I don't know what it is, but there's so many other cuter names and Jaxon spelled Jackson was on the top of the lists in popularity this year and I didn't know or I would have chosen something else. Ugh, I don't want him to have a name like everyone else. I do and I hate it! I just don't think the name fits him.

I think I will just go find out how to go about it. And then tell my DH. He doesn't have to be so rude. He could at least try to understand. Grrr!

Just so I get this straight, are you saying that you're threatening your DH that you will drop his last name from your name if he doesnt let you change your childs name?

Really? Indifferent

MNgirl326 · December 2010

Ashleygoo:
Jaxon's Mommy:
Please don't flame me, but I think I made a horrible mistake. I love my LO but his name just doesn't seem to fit him. I've tried for the past almost five months to adapt to it, but it just isn't working. His middle name is fine because that's his dad's name so that would stay but I really am rethinking his name.

My DH is really mad at me. I tell him LO won't even remember since we would be doing it so soon. He still gets mad and I tell him that maybe I should drop his name from mine in protest. Gah, he is such an a**.

I don't know what it is, but there's so many other cuter names and Jaxon spelled Jackson was on the top of the lists in popularity this year and I didn't know or I would have chosen something else. Ugh, I don't want him to have a name like everyone else. I do and I hate it! I just don't think the name fits him.

I think I will just go find out how to go about it. And then tell my DH. He doesn't have to be so rude. He could at least try to understand. Grrr!
Just so I get this straight, are you saying that you're threatening your DH that you will drop his last name from your name if he doesnt let you change your childs name?
Really?

I think she is being sarcastic.

derdiggity · December 2010

Well as a mother of a Jackson, I think it's a great name

We spell it the traditional way but his nickname is "Jax." Anyway, if you are going to do it, do it soon. My LO is 7 months old, and DEFINITELY recognizes his name.

wife1014 · December 2010

So is it just the spelling (which I would definitely change) or the entire name you want to change? While it is kind of odd to be changing his name at 5 months, if you really hate it-do it. As far as DH, he'll get over it.

caitemarie16 · December 2010

derdiggity:
Well as a mother of a Jackson, I think it's a great name We spell it the traditional way but his nickname is "Jax." Anyway, if you are going to do it, do it soon. My LO is 7 months old, and DEFINITELY recognizes his name.

All of this, my sons name is Jaxon (we call him Jax too) and I love it and he definitely knows his name and he just turned 6mo.. but I can't imagine calling him anything else because that is who he is..

Ashleygoo · December 2010

abartow:
Ashleygoo:
Jaxon's Mommy:
Please don't flame me, but I think I made a horrible mistake. I love my LO but his name just doesn't seem to fit him. I've tried for the past almost five months to adapt to it, but it just isn't working. His middle name is fine because that's his dad's name so that would stay but I really am rethinking his name.

My DH is really mad at me. I tell him LO won't even remember since we would be doing it so soon. He still gets mad and I tell him that maybe I should drop his name from mine in protest. Gah, he is such an a**.

I don't know what it is, but there's so many other cuter names and Jaxon spelled Jackson was on the top of the lists in popularity this year and I didn't know or I would have chosen something else. Ugh, I don't want him to have a name like everyone else. I do and I hate it! I just don't think the name fits him.

I think I will just go find out how to go about it. And then tell my DH. He doesn't have to be so rude. He could at least try to understand. Grrr!
Just so I get this straight, are you saying that you're threatening your DH that you will drop his last name from your name if he doesnt let you change your childs name?
Really?
I think she is being sarcastic.

Seems really silly to be sarcastic over that. Why not threaten him with something she may actually do if she doesnt get her way, like say, a tantrum.

And for the record, I dont think her DH is out of line, at all.

bobbyme · December 2010

MUD

bobbyme · December 2010

Kirbus:
bobbyme:
MUD
MUD
MUD
I don't think so, boobs. I think she's being serious on this one. It's not too far fetched to think it's real. You're always calling mud. I think you're just scared of getting tricked.

No. I just am always right. I can read minds.

Hey, don't call me boobs unless you are going to kiss my @ss.

cmhicklin · December 2010

DH's Aunt changed his cousins name. EVERYBODY was sooo confused! Some family members refused to call her by the new name. To this day, I would say about half the people call her Kelly and the other half call her Faith. I agree with pp, next time do your research...

Cilley · December 2010

No flaming here! Isn't there that skiier, Picabo Street, who picked her name way after she was not a baby? She was a couple of years old. Before that, she was called 'Little Girl'. So it has happened before. GL

bobbyme · December 2010

Kirbus:
bobbyme:
Kirbus:
bobbyme:
MUD
MUD
MUD
I don't think so, boobs. I think she's being serious on this one. It's not too far fetched to think it's real. You're always calling mud. I think you're just scared of getting tricked.
No. I just am always right. I can read minds.
Hey, don't call me boobs unless you are going to kiss my @ss.
Ah, Yes. I forgot you have the ESPN.
That's the closest I think I can get to a kissy smiley.

Don't you forgot my ESPN skills.

bobbyme · December 2010

Kirbus:
bobbyme:
Kirbus:
bobbyme:
MUD
MUD
MUD
I don't think so, boobs. I think she's being serious on this one. It's not too far fetched to think it's real. You're always calling mud. I think you're just scared of getting tricked.
No. I just am always right. I can read minds.
Hey, don't call me boobs unless you are going to kiss my @ss.
Ah, Yes. I forgot you have the ESPN.
That's the closest I think I can get to a kissy smiley.

Don't you forgot my ESPN skills.

panicked228 · December 2010

Why not just call you child whatever you want, but leave his name the way it is? My father's name is Samuel, but everyone calls him Ralph. It saves a lot of paperwork, and if he grows up with it, he'll be fine.

tracy41 · December 2010

I usually just lurk on the 3-6 board and post to my month board, but...

Don't take this the wrong way OP, but have you suffered any PPD? You might want to talk to a close friend or relative about why you feel LO's name "just doesn't seem to fit him," especially if your DH feels that it does fit him. See if other people agree that it doesn't "fit" him. Maybe it doesn't, but it can also be a symptom of problems bonding with your LO, especially if you're fixated on finding the perfect name.

Best of luck to you...

Ninjamom730 · December 2010

What about calling him by his middle name? Do you at least like his middle name? I know a few people who use that instead.

naturelle25 · December 2010

panicked228:
Why not just call you child whatever you want, but leave his name the way it is? My father's name is Samuel, but everyone calls him Ralph. It saves a lot of paperwork, and if he grows up with it, he'll be fine.

I actually like this idea a lot.

Rosebud1313 · December 2010

I want to change DS's name...DH wanted him to be a IV and I didn't so as a compromise DS has DH first name and his own middle name but we call him by his middle name, anyway I just wish we would have used DH's name for his mn instead. I guess if DH isn't on board there isn't much you can do, maybe come up with a nickname you like.

MrsMommyQ · December 2010

panicked228:
Why not just call you child whatever you want, but leave his name the way it is? My father's name is Samuel, but everyone calls him Ralph. It saves a lot of paperwork, and if he grows up with it, he'll be fine.

I think this is a great idea. We have friends who named their daughter Jamie, but call her Charlie. I have no idea why, but that's what they do and it works for them.

Also, my name was changed when I was 6 weeks old. My mom didn't legally change it till I was 4 though. I was named Kristin at birth and my mom changed it to Krista. Not a big change and it certainly didn't scar me or anything.

RobinSparkles214 · December 2010

panicked228:
Why not just call you child whatever you want, but leave his name the way it is? My father's name is Samuel, but everyone calls him Ralph. It saves a lot of paperwork, and if he grows up with it, he'll be fine.

I agree with this. Lots of people are called by names that are not their given name. I do think it needs to be a mutual decision between you and your DH.

What name do you think fits him?? I am curious?

kerribear1717 · December 2010

Yeah I would just come up with a nickname or other name to call him. If you start calling him something else DH can't really complain cause it's just a nickname you're giving him. For the record I like the name. Even if it's popular who cares. I found out after we chose DS's name that it was getting popular as well. My best friend's name is Jennifer and there are millions of Jennifers out there and she's just a normal person.

TulipsAndChampagne · December 2010

If you and DH can agree to change it...go for it...my poor kid only answers to "Bugs". She has no clue her name is really Lauren. I am sure she will eventually figure out that her name is Lauren...just like your son will learn his new name.

VABride2008 · December 2010

wife1014:
So is it just the spelling (which I would definitely change) or the entire name you want to change? While it is kind of odd to be changing his name at 5 months, if you really hate it-do it. As far as DH, he'll get over it.

I have to disagree with this. This isn't like picking out which outfit you are going to wear, this is a LEGAL name change and your husband might not just "get over it!" No wonder 2 out of every 3 marriages FAIL! You don't make executive decisions like that on your own.

pnwmama11 · December 2010

If you are changing it just because it's a popular name, I think that's ridiculous.

Our sons name is Jackson, and we call him Jack, Jack Jack, Action Jackson. I love his name! I honestly don't care if it's a popular name, and neither should you.

I have a huge circle of friends, and there are more aiden,brayden double names and no other Jacks. If you honestly don't think it's a fitting name for your child then change it! You will always look back and have regret if you don't act on something you feel strongly about.

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