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Parenting after a Loss
mchell9
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::Bec&Elly:: (And I really don't mean to beat a dead horse)
mchell9
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But I just don't get it...
If you are for real, which I really don't know or not- why would you continue to subject yourself to this board where the majority of people are bashing you, ignoring you, disrespecting you, calling you out on things, questioning everything you say and have posted both now and in the past...etc.???
It just doesn't make sense to me why you would want to continue participating here when so many people are trying to make you feel un-welcomed...I would have left ages ago.
B/c if you are really legit than it's pretty sad.
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Re: ::Bec&Elly:: (And I really don't mean to beat a dead horse)
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face. -Eleanor Roosevelt
After 1 year of TTC#2 BFP May 2011 m/c #3 4w2d. Off to RE.
Round 1: Femara + Ovidrel +TI = BFP! EDD 2/20/12
2IF does not always equal 3IF...Surprise!
Yep...that's me!
Oh, allow me, Mrs!
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face. -Eleanor Roosevelt
After 1 year of TTC#2 BFP May 2011 m/c #3 4w2d. Off to RE.
Round 1: Femara + Ovidrel +TI = BFP! EDD 2/20/12
2IF does not always equal 3IF...Surprise!
::butting in::
sorry I had to...
and also this
In all honesty...I really just don't get it. I am so not trying to start any crappola...just makes no sense to me.
All in good fun my dear :-)
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face. -Eleanor Roosevelt
After 1 year of TTC#2 BFP May 2011 m/c #3 4w2d. Off to RE.
Round 1: Femara + Ovidrel +TI = BFP! EDD 2/20/12
2IF does not always equal 3IF...Surprise!
Sorry.....it took a while to respond, PM to you
For OP: I had to learn early on that if I back down when things get tough, or uncomfortable I'm never going to get much done in life. I have been pushed down a few times in life, and I always do my best to get back up, no matter how many times I have to get back up. There may have been a few bumps and bruises and a fracture or two, but I think its all the better in the long run....hopefully...
I dont get why you like it here? Dont say it's b/c you are an awesome amazing dad, husband, blah, blah, blah. My DH is a SAHD and is very involved in our LO's life and there is no way in HELL he would be hanging out on a parenting board w/ all women. It just makes you look creepy, KWIM? Also some of your comments are creeperish - your comment on NatashaCooke's post about her being putty in her husband's hand pushed you over the edge for me. It just really rubbed me the wrong way and ever since then I have wanted you to leave.
If you are really a good person you will leave. Im pretty sure 99% of us dont want you here and that wont change. Im sure they have other boards on other sites that are more suited for dads. So please do us a favor and just go away. TIA!
Yeah I get the whole theory of what doesn't kill you makes you stronger but really??? on the bump??? Why learn that on an internet website full of people you don't know??
Yeah I get the whole theory of what doesn't kill you makes you stronger but really??? on the bump??? Why learn that on an internet website full of people you don't know??
Because strangers on the internet are less likely to hold all of your life mistakes in front of your face with a big flashing arrow pointing at them....and more likely to accept your attempts at redemption.....but that was more a thing when I was at TMMB....not so much for over here
There are only 2 people her with the power to ask me to leave, an respect was the key to that power
Nah, we'll settle for holding all your cyber mistakes (read: inconsistencies in your outlandish stories) in front of your face with a big, flashing PIP arrow pointing at them.... possibly in glitter graphics, if the mood strikes.
I'm not even going to venture a guess at what TMMB means...I'm assuming another military reference you're not-so-nonchalantly dropping to impress us. It's totally working, BTW.
PLEASE!!!!!! A graphic, then we can just reply with those... that should get annoying for him.
Who are they? I'd like to speak with them...
OK, I am going to ask this as nicely as possible...what in the flying fvck does this mean???
I'm pretty sure this is a Lord of the Rings reference.... (it is sarcasm, no need to respond in a quoted reply)
I now will grant you the title of "Peacekeeper."
There are only 2 people who have been respectful to me the entire time in a capacity that has earned my respect.....if one of them asked me to leave, I would!
You never cease to amaze me, you truly are a jack of all trades....
Are you drunk?
So who are they?
I have no idea what you are talking about here...so very convoluted.
And in response to my OP- I still don't get why you feel the need to learn life lessons on the bump. People really aren't being very nice at all to you- and you continue to subject yourself to it.
Different strokes I guess...oh well!
**twiddles thumbs and waits for the answer...**
I am scared sh!tless of jumping out of planes!
never made meatloaf
never surfed
never um....never done a lot of stuff....
Nice.
DB
Answer my other question...
I'm getting myself in trouble over here. I'm laughing at the thread, and my DH is repeatedly asking "what are you laughing about?" Me: "nothing." I'm laughing because my fellow ladies are calling you out, and I love the PIPs.
In all seriousness, though, Bec, when you first appeared, out of the blue, I didn't mind you too much. But I agree with pp. You've gotten (or maybe always were and it just took us a bit to see it) weird, outlandish, and absolutely unwelcome here. Some tried to be subtle by blocking you and going about their business here. Others flat out called you out early, and didn't bother with your BS. Now, I think we all see it, and we're being pretty clear; you're not wanted here.
I'm all about acceptance and giving people a chance. But when you openly condescend those women who I have known for many, many months along the TTCAL/PgAL/PAL process, I get a little defensive. We are each others support system, and you're throwing a huge figurative wrench into the normal happenings of this board. Yes, I know it's "just an internet board," but regardless, you've upset the apple cart, and it's not fair to us as a collective group to focus on you and your silly game of words.
Lastly, I'll whole-heartedly agree with sexyntexy. My DH is also SAHD, and he would never, ever even *think* of getting on here and posting a message. He realizes that "the bump" is something shared by women who have shared a loss, and that his input here wouldn't be ok. I know it doesn't say that the board is "women" who are parenting after a loss, but face it, all but one of us ARE women. And in most cases, your perspective is completely different. It would have been one thing if you added a *positive* perspective to the board, but you had to come here and start drama and simply be rude to women that I respect and care about.
Now, let's channel Sesame Street for a moment: "one of these things is not like the others, one of these things just doesn't belong."
This is too stupid to even acknowledge with a witty comeback.
DYING of laughter!
My husband is doing the same, and I just can't keep quiet!
OMG I love you! Awesomel
OMG I love you! Awesomel
SERIOUSLY! Fuucking creepy, right? And not only the comment, but the make a whole separate post for it. GTFO.
I was *so* put off by it, I just left it alone - and trust me when I say I'm not always one to back off and stay quiet about things...
I'm so over this, and "him".
Missing our sweet Angeline. BFP #1: 7.12.09 / EDD: 3.15.10 / Missed Miscarriage: 8.14.10
BFP #2: 3.16.10 / EDD: 11.28.12 / Collin Rex born 12.1.10
TTC#2: May 2012
BFP #3: 7.5.12 / CP 7.12.12
BFP #4: 1.28.12 / EDD: 10.11.13
betas: 10dpo: 91 / 14dpo: 493 / first u/s: 3.4.13
It didn't become a big dramatic thing until others here made it a big dramatic thing. I was posting and asking questions just the same as everyone else (for the most part), it was others that started picking my life apart, and blowing make-believe horns.
"community" is what this place is called, and a community is an interacting population oh various kinds of individuals in a common place.
See we dont want you in our community. We have NOTHING in common w/ you and therefore would like you to leave our "common place".
Here's the thing, Bec --- your posting was inappropriate and creeping us out. Your questions weren't questions that most of us could relate to because we don't relate to YOU. Last I checked, if you are indeed male, you wouldn't have questions about PP BC/AF, sore boobs, (as racer mentioned) crotch care, or TTC (because really, your role in TTC doesn't include being super involved in checking for EWCM, charting, ovulation kits, and all that).
When you start making others feel uncomfortable, you get ostracized. You bring all this on yourself. If you'd just vamoose, you wouldn't have to read anything about yourself. I think that was M's original point. Why stick around for it?
It's really simple. Can we please resume our normal posting and leave you as one of the memories of PAL (like the memories of TTCAL that were posted yesterday)?
Its amazing....
One of you lose a child, and at least you have the support and guidance of sympathizers....something in common....compassion. all in a community
I lose a child, I am publicly belittled, attacked, and literally told to "get over it" and "move on" with my life.... but I guess I see how we are not the same.
We are all scarred for life, but apparently far from equal