FU: Kim and her Miscarriage (LONG)

kimmiekp · December 2010

For those of you that were following, I had found out on 12/13 that the baby's heart had stopped beating. I should have been 11 weeks pregnant but I was measuring 9weeks 5 days (and there was a strong heartbeat at around 6 weeks). The doc sent me home and said, call me in two weeks and tell me if you want to do this naturally or you want a D&C, he said he didn't have an opinion either way (I'm thinking he did otherwise he wouldn't have told me to wait two weeks and make up my mind - knowing that I'd probably miscarry in that time). A week later, Monday the 20th I started to spot. I had mild cramping the entire week and was convinced I'd miscarry on Christmas. I finally got to the point where I didn't CARE if I miscarried on Christmas, I just wanted it done. I had increased cramping and bleeding Christmas Eve and Christmas day but tolerable (one really bad cramp woke me up Christmas Eve night) and we decided to spend the night at our own house Christmas Evening (we had spent the night at DH's parents Christmas EVE). This was a good thing considering, the day after Christmas we woke up to snow everywhere (which rarely happens in NC, and even more rarely happens on Christmas. I was soooo happy (being a Cleveland native) to have it FEEL like Christmas. I was outside snapping pictures, and feeling okay but for the cramping. I went inside as the cramping increased and laid down on the bed. Now comes the TMI so those of you faint of heart can stop reading if you wish.

I was laying on the bed and I felt this kind of "pop" feeling inside my uterus. The best I can describe it as would be, if you blow a bubble with gum and then bring the bubble into your mouth, close your mouth and pop it inside your mouth. I thought... "hmmm, that was strange" then I suddenly felt this warm feeling in my panties and I rushed to the bathroom thinking it was blood. Apparently my water had broken--enough to completely saturate a large pad and leak down my leg. I was surprised because this had never happened to where I noticed it with my other miscarriages. So I cleaned myself up and then laid back down on the bed and thought "okay here we go"... About a half hour later I was in the bathroom with severe contraction-like cramping. I just stayed on the toilet and was there for about an hour and a half. (Per my doc, I took 800mg of ibuprofen around the time my water broke. Personally, anyone wanting to go natural, I would demand something stronger in the pain killing department. This didn't seem to even touch the stronger contractions). I hate pain and will take any drugs prescribed to avoid it. But I think I have a fairly strong tolerance for it. Having gone through a miscarriage before and having such bad cramping I knew what to expect in that department. This was a bit worse than the worst I had experienced before (mostly because out of all my previous miscarriages ibuprofen took care of the pain, not this time) I essentially sat on the toilet, pressed my head on the counter, gripped the counter hard and any time I had a contraction I would push against it - hoping that I would force everything out. Most of the time nothing came out but blood and small clots. After about an hour and a half I finally felt something larger pass. Once that happened the contractions seemed to stop for a bit. I laid down on the bed with a heating pad for another half hour with more bad cramping.

The good news is, once I was pretty sure everything had passed and I wasn't cramping near what I was before, and I wasn't bleeding as bad, I got showered, got dressed and DH and I went for a drive in the snow. It was BEAUTIFUL. We went to the mall and I used a gift card to buy a brand new pair of gorgeous black boots. The mall closed early so we left there and went to visit his mom. They wanted to go for a walk in the snow... we went for a short walk down to the lake... SO PRETTY it was UNREAL... (my point is, within an hour or two of going through this I was up and around just fine).

We went home and I was cramping again, but this time the cramping was tolerable with heating pad and ibuprofen. I stayed home from work yesterday just in case. We went to the mall again, went shopping all over, had some minor cramping... the cramping increased last night to what I would say was some of my worst period type cramping (but nothing compared to the contraction-like cramping). I passed a large clot then, and cramping continued through the evening. I woke up this morning feeling GREAT... other than tired and feeling the post-Christmas blahs... The bleeding was almost non-existent this morning. About an hour ago I started getting the bad period type cramps again and bleeding increased, so I'm guessing I'm still getting everything cleaned out. I plan on just taking ibuprofen every 4 hours and taking it easy when necessary and continuing with the heating pad. I'm heading home from work now and decided, instead of going to the store, I'm going home and we'll have pizza for dinner I'm entitled to pamper myself.

So, all in all, it was not a FUN experience, it was pretty damn painful, but I'm thinking with the right meds it wouldn't have been half as bad. And I'm thinking it would also be nice to have some muscle relaxers (if that wouldn't slow the process). So now I'm waiting for the cramping and bleeding to stop and I will be off to see my specialist asap! (DH said we're not going to try again for a while because he hated seeing me going through this and didn't want me to go through it again... we'll see what the specialist says, I'm leaving it in her court).

Thanks for listening. I hope every goes through this as quickly as I did and hopefully with a lot less pain by getting the proper meds!!!! DEMAND IT!!! Merry Christmas everyone... (despite what we're going through). xoxo

adamfam · December 2010

Thanks for sharing your experience and for the recommendation to have drugs! I went through two natural m/c where i experienced nothing more than medium menstrual cramps, but I think I was fooled into thinking it was "easy" this last time, as not everything has passed. Im going to the doc tomorrow to get the medication to take- and Ill also be sure to request/demand some pain killers, just in case. Good luck when you go to see your specialist.

kimmiekp · December 2010

PS - I forgot to mention the lower back pain and current lower back spasms...

Fallon621 · December 2010

Sweetie I am so very sorry for your loss!! Sad

I am glad for you that it happened sort of quickly. I went through and am still going through the same type thing. Except that The pain for me WAS that bad and we went to the ER. I was in labor haing contractions every 4 to 5 mins really hard then would face out for a few then come right back. They gave me the best pain killer they could and it took a while to even touvh the pain. Took the cramps away but i still felt every contraction. And my baby was only measuring 6w6d when i was almost 11w PG. My leves are going back up and my MW and i are taling about a DnE Tomorrow. I hope for you that everything is comming out without a problem and a speedy recovery. When you are ready to TTC again I really do hope that you get the take home baby that you deserve. And I hope for you that if not any where else, you can fine some sort of comfort and advice on this board. I know I have, and do not know what I would have done if I didnt come across all of these wonderful ladies who are (sad to say) going through the same thing.

elimiller · December 2010

So sorry again that we are all going through this. I hope that the pain (physical at least) is over soon. To top off my lovely previous week of having a miscarriage, I got the stomach virus Christmas eve and spent the evening on the bathroom floor

I am so happy 2010 is going to be over soon. Praying that 2011 is better to us all.

angelabrown810 · December 2010

You are so right about the meds. With my first in July I had to go to the ER three times in as many days for a morphine drip because that was the only thing strong enough to kill the pain so I could actually get some sleep.

kimmiekp · December 2010

You know, I don't want to down play the pain. It hurt like hell. But I also don't want to scare those that are considering doing this naturally at home. It wasn't the end of the world. It sucked. I swore a LOT. I wish I had some drugs that were better than ibuprofen. I think what made it a little easier is that I had gone through the pain before (not half as bad but still)... The only thing that stopped me from going to the ER before was that I had been there the previous day and I was NOT looking to get a catheter again, OR an ultrasound where they filled my bladder with saline to get a "better view" of the uterus. Imagine your bladder as full as it can be then drink another 18 oz drink... Feeling like you're going to burst, then have someone do a vaginal ultrasound moving that wand all around and pressing that along with hands pressing all over your tummy...and have them do it for what seems like an eternity. I'd rather be at home going through the pain than having someone torture me lol

As I said, since I had already gone through some pretty horrible pain before, lived through it and was fine, Otherwise, I would have been really scared over the severity of the cramping and probably would have gone to the ER, but since I semi-knew what to expect, I listened to my body and despite being quite a bit more painful this time, I just "went through it" as it were. I too had contractions every 4-5 minutes, would last a few minutes, then go away, this went on for about an hour and a half and was the worst of it. Then I had less severe cramping on and off (which I'm still experiencing).

So the point being, it was painful, but not so much that it can't be done at home and I'm glad I went this route. To me, personally, it was less scary being in my own home. I'm sorry for anyone that has to go through pain and as I said before... get whatever drugs you can and try not to be scared, I think that makes a big difference in how you experience and deal with the pain. Sometimes it helps to know what to expect.

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