FFC: Vent your Christmas frustrations here....

princess101 · December 2010

Since we all have some, i'm sure. It can be anything. GO!

princess101 · December 2010

I'll go...

I'm frustrated that no grocery stores are open and that people in my family have a habit of saying "oh we got you gifts" and then we show up with gifts for them that are thoughtful and we end up with a cup holder or something. Why say you got anything and make a big deal of it? It's not all about gifts anyway so rather than spend on silly stuff people will never use, save it . I think we should arrange next year so that we're all in agreement on what we're doing...just makes it less awkward.

Oh, also I hate when people say "X:-mas...there is no point to Christmas without Christ.

SBma · December 2010

BIL's brother brought his dog over for Christmas. Auggie has been an only dog for a long time. I don't know why it bothers me, but I don't like her around other dogs. I guess I'm strangely protective of her. The visiting dog was well behaved and sweet. They played well together, but I was afraid someone would get bitten.

ohashlet · December 2010

I'm always a little bit bored on Christmas.

Moose2000 · December 2010

I'm frustrated I have to share my step daughter with her mother. I know, thats really selfish of me. But it really sucks to only have a "part-time" kid. We love her lots, and would love her to always be with us. She is essentially my first daughter, and always will be.

iteachk · December 2010

Gladly.

We were invited to 7 family events in 2 days. We skipped 3, but had to go to the others. DD screamed the entire 30 minute drive yesterday, except when she started choking on her snack. DH pulled over while I turned around and pulled her out of her seat. The food came flying out when I got her out. She was crabby the entire rest of the day, and so were we. Today she took a 3 hour nap (instead of her usual 1 hour nap) and were were 2 hours late to MIL's brunch. She was pissed. And Kate was crabby and out of sorts today too. Christmas can be so hard on kiddos.

We decided that next year we're getting a babysitter on Christmas. LOL

mrsadamc 05 · December 2010

princess101:
I think we should arrange next year so that we're all in agreement on what we're doing...just makes it less awkward.
Oh, also I hate when people say "X:-mas...there is no point to Christmas without Christ.

1. We do an extended family gift exchange with DH's family and after a few years of buying gifts for people I don't know at all I suggested we adopt a family and do that instead.

It's wonderful because we (I) don't have to buy gifts for people I don't really know and we help out a large family who really needs it.

2. Do people around you really say X-mas? I thought people only wrote that as an abbreviation.

Moose2000 · December 2010

mrsadamc 05:
princess101:
I think we should arrange next year so that we're all in agreement on what we're doing...just makes it less awkward.
Oh, also I hate when people say "X:-mas...there is no point to Christmas without Christ.
1. We do an extended family gift exchange with DH's family and after a few years of buying gifts for people I don't know at all I suggested we adopt a family and do that instead.
It's wonderful because we (I) don't have to buy gifts for people I don't really know and we help out a large family who really needs it.
2. Do people around you really say X-mas? I thought people only wrote that as an abbreviation.

We've started buying presents only for the kids, and only for immediate family or close family. It works out good that way, and so much easier!! It also saves a lot of money on junk.

Ashleyyyyy · December 2010

My Dad accidentally dropped my iPhone into a water and soap filled bowl that was in the sink and now it's cracking out on me. It's currently sitting by the heater and I'm hoping it comes back to life. We leave for Paris in the morning and I already purchased a package for talk, text & web on my phone and I downloaded a lot of apps for getting around, a metro guide and schedule, a French translator, and a menu guide. I'm upset and I know it's just a phone but all I want to do is go to bed, cry and hope it works tomorrow.

Ashleyyyyy · December 2010

princess101:
Oh, also I hate when people say "X:-mas...there is no point to Christmas without Christ.

I've only ever used Xmas as a abbreviation in a text. But I'm not religious either.

mrsadamc 05 · December 2010

Ashleyyyyy:
My Dad accidentally dropped my iPhone into a water and soap filled bowl that was in the sink and now it's cracking out on me. It's currently sitting by the heater and I'm hoping it comes back to life. We leave for Paris in the morning and I already purchased a package for talk, text & web on my phone and I downloaded a lot of apps for getting around, a metro guide and schedule, a French translator, and a menu guide. I'm upset and I know it's just a phone but all I want to do is go to bed, cry and hope it works tomorrow.

RICE! Put your phone it a bowl of uncooked rice, I hear it works miracles!

N&G 5_26_07 · December 2010

My family had a "no gifts" rule this year. I did not expect any gifts for DH or me. but I did think that my family would still get Brooke something. (She doesn't need or want for anything, so it really is ok) But they really did no gifts. Even for my little cousins who are 7, 9, 10.

I think that stinks for the kids - and I know it spoiled of my to say that. But my aunt (Mother of those girls) has been buying gifts for all of the other kids since they were little and now her girls get nothing from the other families.

Also, they had weird fancy beer (I drink cheap beer) and only white wine (I drink red) so I was outta luck with the "holiday cheer!"

Finally, the past few years the adults in my family have been playing games after dinner for the past few years. Its lots of fun and has really made our holidays alot more fun. This year the kids hijacked the games and we didn't get to play. Boo.

mrsadamc 05 · December 2010

I'm annoyed that for Katie's first Christmas we didn't even celebrate because MIL is totally manic and in the hospital.

I am not annoyed with MIL but rather with DH because after we found out she was going into the hospital my parents offered to but us plane tickets to visit them but DH didn't want to because it was his parents year to do Christmas with us.

We aren't even doing Christmas until next weekend now!!!

So I didn't get to see my parents, or my sister and I also didn't get to open my presents! And MIL and FIL always give really good gifts!

Aah, I'm a whiny brat right now.

princess101 · December 2010

Ashleyyyyy:
My Dad accidentally dropped my iPhone into a water and soap filled bowl that was in the sink and now it's cracking out on me. It's currently sitting by the heater and I'm hoping it comes back to life. We leave for Paris in the morning and I already purchased a package for talk, text & web on my phone and I downloaded a lot of apps for getting around, a metro guide and schedule, a French translator, and a menu guide. I'm upset and I know it's just a phone but all I want to do is go to bed, cry and hope it works tomorrow.

Put it in a ziplog bag full of rice. It will suck out the moisture. GL

princess101 · December 2010

I think the kids only idea sucks. Sure, it's good for saving money, but I still think my parents/grandparents should get DH and I stuff as well as our kid. We literally had 25 presents for Ryan under the tree and besides what Dh and i got each other we had one present each. It just sucks to feel like you aren't important enough to get a gift anymore. I understand why people do it but it still sucks. Honestly, Ryan does not need 2 toys let alone 25...I actually kind of wish they'd donate to his college fund or something like that, but that's not as fun as giving him toys. :P

mommaJen10 · December 2010

Probably a first time mom thing, but I am pretty annoyed that DD got passed around to everyone but me today. Also, my poor grandmother is still under the impression that babies need "real food" (read, oatmeal, mashed potatoes, etc) and keeps bugging me about "giving that baby REAL FOOD".

mommaJen10 · December 2010

Probably a first time mom thing, but I am pretty annoyed that DD got passed around to everyone but me today. Also, my poor grandmother is still under the impression that babies need "real food" (read:oatmeal, mashed potatoes, etc) and keeps bugging me about "giving that baby REAL FOOD".

leslie13510 · December 2010

DH got online this morning to watch them open presents. I talked to him for maybe 5 minutes and then his internet died 10 minutes before the kids even woke up. I got some of the gift opening on video but I'm still sad for him. I was hoping he'd at least be able to get on tonight to see them, but so far no. I hate that he has to miss Christmas, not just physically, but completely.

My Nook is pissing me off. The only reason I wanted one over a Kindle is for the ability to read library books on it. I registered it, authorized it for my Adobe Digital Editions that I use to read my library books, got some transferred over, and when I go to read them on the Nook it says "user not activated." I don't know what the fvck else I could possibly need to activate at this point, because I've gone through and re-done everything several times now. Still no dice.

And the icing on the cake... my debit card is missing. I got gas last night on the way to dinner, put it in my jacket pocket, and I guess it fell out somewhere (probably the parking lot when I was getting my keys out of my pocket) because it is nowhere to be found. And the earliest I can get a new one cut is Monday, which means it won't be mailed until Tuesday, so at least Wednesday/Thursday before it gets here. I'm so mad at myself.

pinkflipflops44 · December 2010

Every year I make a family calendar for my grandpa. The first year it was just for him but everyone liked it and now my aunts and uncles all order a copy. My one aunt complains EVERY YEAR. Nothing is good enough. Last year she only sent me 4 pictures total so that was all of her family. This year she sent me like 20 and was OFFENDED I didn't put all 20 in. Um there are 5 kids and spouses, 12 grandkids 7 with spouses/signficant others, and 10 great grand kids. I cannot put 20 pictures of your family in there. And NO the picture of your son and hubby in full snowboarding gear where you couldnt see their faces was NOT cute and no I was not putting it because Grandpa with his dementia can barely tell people apart when their faces are shown. Quit acting like a spoiled brat and instead like the almost 50 year old woman you are. I am so pissed that I spent hours collecting photos, organizing the whole thing, putting it together and ordering and she gives me crap every year. Everybody else loves it and compliments me but her attitude makes me so mad every year because it's not like she leaves it at one day of complaining I will hear about it all dang year.

Aaron'sWife · December 2010

DH made fun of me for being scared to drive in the snow. Sorry, I'm from Miami and have zero experience, so I'm sure him being a seasoned NY driver didn't color his perception that I am just "being a weenie".

Also, I felt like I was on display this evening. I opened a can of soda and only got one sip in before I asked if I really wanted to drink something with so much sugar, so I felt chastised and put my cup down.

mommaJen10 · December 2010

Aaron'sWife:
DH made fun of me for being scared to drive in the snow. Sorry, I'm from Miami and have zero experience, so I'm sure him being a seasoned NY driver didn't color his perception that I am just "being a weenie".

Also, I felt like I was on display this evening. I opened a can of soda and only got one sip in before I asked if I really wanted to drink something with so much sugar, so I felt chastised and put my cup down.

That sucks, and just seeing your ticker makes me think that you are amazing and strong and if you want a soda on Christmas, you totally deserve it!

Mrs_Liberto · December 2010

Ashleyyyyy:
My Dad accidentally dropped my iPhone into a water and soap filled bowl that was in the sink and now it's cracking out on me. It's currently sitting by the heater and I'm hoping it comes back to life. We leave for Paris in the morning and I already purchased a package for talk, text & web on my phone and I downloaded a lot of apps for getting around, a metro guide and schedule, a French translator, and a menu guide. I'm upset and I know it's just a phone but all I want to do is go to bed, cry and hope it works tomorrow.

Stick it in a big bowl of rice and leave it there overnight. It should help considerably. Make sure you take the battery out too and put that in the rice but not while its connected to the phone.

Shozzies · December 2010

I'm really ticked that FIL completely blew off our plans for Christmas with him to spend time with his girlfriend. He literally called us this afternoon about an hour before we were going to leave to cancel on us. We don't care if she was included, but he didn't want us there. We live a couple hours away, so it's not like he sees us or DD often. He also told us two weeks ago that it was too far away to make Christmas plans. DH is hurt and upset by it.

Not to sound ungrateful, but I wish people would buy my DD (almost 2) something other than dolls. She likes dolls, but she likes other toys too. Somehow she ended up with a dozen different Fisher Price dolls, but no duplicates and I'd feel guilty for exchanging them for something else.

wils0482 · December 2010

No major frustrations from me, thank goodness. Our Christmas eve/day gets a little hectic going all over town and seeing everybody - we go two places on Christmas eve and three places on Christmas day. Even though it's a little tiring, I realize we are lucky to have both of our families in town and are able to see everyone.

Doing all this with little Dane went fairly well. He got a little cranky last night; crying really loud at my aunt's house, due to hunger/overstimulation. We got home super late last night (almost midnight), and it was SO hard to get him to sleep. We were so damn tired, but he kept waking up. We ended up swaddling him, and he STTN, but we had to wake up so early for our morning obligations. So I'd say my biggest Christmas frustration is the exhaustion. Oh, and I'm also exhausted seeing my living room so messy, filled with bags, boxes, toys, etc. Tomorrow we have to clean. Boo.

Edited for spelling. See, when I'm tired, I can't spell. I also apologize for the run-on sentences.

magdalina.h · December 2010

I'm hurt that from the few Christmas cards that we got this year (normally we get a ton) only 1 included Aidan. I didn't expect anyone to add him to the address line, but it kind of stung to see Chris and Maggie lastname instead of the lastname family. I know, I know, people don't know the "right" thing to do, but it still hurt.

On the x-mas thing, we drove past a church that said x-mas eve service...

wils0482 · December 2010

Oh, I have another one!

Why the FVCK didn't I take all of next week off work?!? I usually take off the week between Christmas and New Years, so I can have a little "Christmas break." This year I only took off the Thursday before each holiday, so I have two 3-day weeks. Stupid me!

shotzie · December 2010

princess101:
I'll go...
I'm frustrated that no grocery stores are open and that people in my family have a habit of saying "oh we got you gifts" and then we show up with gifts for them that are thoughtful and we end up with a cup holder or something. Why say you got anything and make a big deal of it? It's not all about gifts anyway so rather than spend on silly stuff people will never use, save it . I think we should arrange next year so that we're all in agreement on what we're doing...just makes it less awkward.
Oh, also I hate when people say "X:-mas...there is no point to Christmas without Christ.

The X in Xmas actually refers to Christ. It has to do with a Greek abbreviation from waaaay back when. Granted, these days, some people do mean it to "x" out Christ's name, but the origin of the abbreviation is not meant to be a slight.

rebus82 · December 2010

I hate when people say Jesus is the reason for the season. No, Jesus has nothing whatsoever to do with Dec. 25, and Yule had nothing to do with a woman giving birth in a stable. Christmas is merely a stolen celebration with an altered name. I don't care why people celebrate, but don't piss on my heathen traditions because your religion couldn't come up with its own parties without cribbing from someone else.

Melaneigh1 · December 2010

We were able to spend less than 24 hours with my family before heading home. It makes me sad. I miss spending the whole holiday season with them, but I would really love to have at least a few days.

Tonight when we got home, we were exhausted, so DH took a little nap and I watched A Christmas Story, which resulted in crying (at the bunny pj part, no less). Then there is nowhere open, but we needed kerosene, and something to eat, so I wore my cuddl dud pants (I know, it's embarassing) into the 24 hour pancake house. I was actually dressed appropriately considering the place, though, LOL.

JLW10 · December 2010

Why does MIL even bother asking me what I want for Christmas when she clearly is going to get something that is so not me and nothing I'd ever want? I'd rather get nothing!

JenniferJaneC · December 2010

rebus82:
I hate when people say Jesus is the reason for the season. No, Jesus has nothing whatsoever to do with Dec. 25, and Yule had nothing to do with a woman giving birth in a stable. Christmas is merely a stolen celebration with an altered name. I don't care why people celebrate, but don't piss on my heathen traditions because your religion couldn't come up with its own parties without cribbing from someone else.

I'm so tired of this debate. My husband's family doesn't celebrate Christmas, so he tolerates my lights and tree and Christmas music but makes snide comments about celebrating Pagan holidays. I just want to tell him to shut up and let me enjoy being festive. How the date or a tradition originated thousands of years ago has very little to do with me wanting to put some lights on the fireplace mantle and listen to Trans-Siberian Orchestra.

bensbabe · December 2010

Here's mine: We are 6 & 8 hours from our families. My ILs came two weeks ago for DS's birthday & FIL returns next week to hunt. MIL can't stand to be far from SIL (about 1.5 hours from her). They cut our trips short now (leave early on their last day) so they can stop & visit them and my niece on their way home.

They didn't come for Christmas b/c she is never away from her side of her family & now she is spending Christmas with the SIL. DS seems to get the shaft on their visits.

. My mother had to work the weekend (she's a NICU nurse), so of course they didn't get to come! My family wanted to be here, and they didn't get to.

Then, DH & I fought a few days ago about Christmas, spending, etc. Christmas was ok, but we never really resolved the arguement. Then, today, he was trying to set-up a video/Skype & didn't fully participate in the first part of DS's gift opening. I was frustrated b/c he was more focused on that.

And I was pretty disappointed in my gifts, but my poor DH was soooo proud of himself for picking the stuff out. I didn't get any surprises from him, but I put lots of thought into his gifts & really surprised him.

Lilmel48 · December 2010

My Dad had to work yesterday, so we did presents on Christmas Eve. I was sad to not see my Dad on Christmas. Yesterday my Mom calls and tells me Dad got sent home from work. I got all excited! Then he didn't show up for dinner. My mom woke him up when it was time to leave for dinner, and he said he didn't want to go.

Yes, I am a brat, but I was so happy I was going to be able to see him after all. Then, I didn't see him.

PubStar09 · December 2010

We had my family's big Christmas last weekend, and it sucked. We (me, DH, DS, sister, BIL) drove 6 hours out there on Saturday morning, opened presents (which was just stuff for the kids), ate crappy lunch of soup and sandwiches (it's usually a huge feast, which IMO, is the best part). Then when all of the extended family left, we went to my grandma's house and did presents with just my immediate family... at like, 8pm, when DS goes to bed at 9. Then DH, DS, and I made our way to our hotel, where I realized I didn't have any drop-ins for DS's bottle, and NOTHING is open in podunk at that time of night, so I was spazzing out because DS was spazzing out. I ended up having to use a freakin ziplock bag all night.

Then we left to drive the 6 hours home around noon the next day, and DS was super crabby the whole way.

All of that added to the fact that my other BIL was stranded in the airport in Frankfurt, Germany for 5 days, and the whole thing was really disappointing. It was going to be the first Christmas where the 6 of us (sisters and BIL's) would have been together. I'm really sad that we didn't get to spend more time with my immediate family.

Then DH's extended families' Christmases were Friday and Saturday. We were uninvited because the 3 of us are sick and he has a relative on both sides with cancer, and they both had a round of chemo last week. This is the same reason I was uninvited to Thanksgiving. I completely understand, and wouldn't want to be the cause of someone ending up in the hospital, but dammit.

So we went to FIL and sMIL's house after everyone was gone yesterday and rushed through presents because they were out the door to drive to NY to see SIL and BIL.

The whole thing was sad, and I really had my hopes up for an amazing Christmas this year.

mlb108 · December 2010

bensbabe:
Here's mine: We are 6 & 8 hours from our families. My ILs came two weeks ago for DS's birthday & FIL returns next week to hunt. MIL can't stand to be far from SIL (about 1.5 hours from her). They cut our trips short now (leave early on their last day) so they can stop & visit them and my niece on their way home. They didn't come for Christmas b/c she is never away from her side of her family & now she is spending Christmas with the SIL. DS seems to get the shaft on their visits. . My mother had to work the weekend (she's a NICU nurse), so of course they didn't get to come! My family wanted to be here, and they didn't get to.
Then, DH & I fought a few days ago about Christmas, spending, etc. Christmas was ok, but we never really resolved the arguement. Then, today, he was trying to set-up a video/Skype & didn't fully participate in the first part of DS's gift opening. I was frustrated b/c he was more focused on that.
And I was pretty disappointed in my gifts, but my poor DH was soooo proud of himself for picking the stuff out. I didn't get any surprises from him, but I put lots of thought into his gifts & really surprised him.

I am still having to get used to the fact that DH just doesn't put the thought into my gifts that I do for his. He always wants to make sure I have my Amazon wish list updated. Granted, I know that at least I will be getting things I want, but would it kill him to try to pick up on things that I say I like or a be a little romantic every once in awhile?

Now, we don't actually exchange Christmas gifts because our birthdays are both about two weeks after Christmas, so we decide to focus more on that, rather than do both since they are so close together and we have been trying to save money for baby & more (and neither of us is really desperate for "stuff" anyway). This year I decided to stick a necklace on my Amazon wish list to see if I could at least get a piece of jewelry out of the deal, lol. Guess I'll see if it works in a couple of weeks :-)

armandos_girl · December 2010

I threw up all day yesterday. I couldn't even keep down water. Not even the Zofran I had helped. I just kept sipping ice water to try to stay hydrated even though I knew it would come back up eventually. I finally managed to keep down applesauce at dinner. I missed all the good holiday food and I feel like I ruined Christimas because my parents and DH were worried about me and all I wanted to do was curl up in a ball and sleep.

Moose2000 · December 2010

JLW10:
Why does MIL even bother asking me what I want for Christmas when she clearly is going to get something that is so not me and nothing I'd ever want? I'd rather get nothing!

Same here!! DH and I had the conversation yesterday, that despite the number of years I've know MIL, she actually knows very little about me (which was REALLLY obvious in my Christmas presents! LOL!). So I've resolved this year to try and spend more time with her and get to know each other better Smile

akalutts · December 2010

My only Christmas presents were AF and a visit from the Locksmith because I locked my keys in my car ::kicks self repeatedly::

Locksmith visits on Christmas are expensive. So much for adding to my secret cash stash.

jCamsquared · December 2010

I'm really aggravated with DH's family because once again they chose his fvckup brother over him. We told them he wasn't welcome here (LONG story) and instead of saying 'well [BIL], this is another consequence of your actions, you have to stay home alone on Christmas' they said 'okay none of our family is coming to your Christmas dinner anymore so we can keep him happy.' It really sucks for DH.

But my FFC is that as much as it bums me out that they treat DH that way, I was really happy not to see any of them on Christmas. I had a really nice stress free Christmas without them. I really needed that.

Scout05 · December 2010

magdalina.h:

I'm hurt that from the few Christmas cards that we got this year (normally we get a ton) only 1 included Aidan. I didn't expect anyone to add him to the address line, but it kind of stung to see Chris and Maggie lastname instead of the lastname family. I know, I know, people don't know the "right" thing to do, but it still hurt.

On the x-mas thing, we drove past a church that said x-mas eve service...

::HUGS::

roshybride · December 2010

Although I am grateful for all the gifts, my boys received, I wish BIL and his girlfriend had not spoiled them so much. They got them more than grandma and grandpa got them! It sounds ungrateful, but my parents already spoil them and they don't need anything else. Also now I have to figure out how to get all of this stuff home on the airplane!

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