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TTC after 35
Starting TTC & friends comments
Well, I'm new here. Obviously.
I'm 35 and hubby is 40. I have an (almost) 8 year old son from a previous marriage.
We just decided to go ahead and TTC. This cycle is my first one off of BCP. Next cycle I think I'm going to start actually charting my temps and all.
We haven't really told anyone, no need to add any pressure. I have a group of 'horse friends' that I told; we've all moved away from each other so we keep in touch over the net now. So far all they have said are things like don't try or it won't happen, no need to chart just get drunk (I don't drink anymore), and the like. I guess this is why I shouldn't really tell anyone....but I thought that they would get it. Guess not. Just sort of shocked me how blase they seemed about it. IDK - I guess if a friend told me what I told them I'd support her... *sigh*
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Re: Starting TTC & friends comments
TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
DE IVF #3 1/14 ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d
DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!
K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days
SAIF/PAIF Welcome
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Thanks for the warm welcome and for the validation.
With DS I was ON BCP when I got pregnant. I've never tried to get pregnant before. I'm a bit of a control freak - so I think charting will give me something to do while I wait.
To top things off DH has some ED problems. So, that adds another fun obstacle to the journey. I can't tell anyone about that. They are all, act like rabbits, have lots of sex, etc....um - I'd LOVE to, but we just can't sometimes. It sucks.
Thanks girls. You have no idea how much you've helped me already.
I'm sorry your friends aren't very supportive. People don't often realize how hurtful words can be. Charting is a great way to get to know your body and your cycle, and it helps give a sense of some control over such an unpredictable journey.
MH also sometimes has ED problems. We ended up trying Instead cups and had success. It was a last resort for us--I hope you're not at that point yet. :-)
I'm with ya. I'm 35 and MH is 45. We are trying for #1 and I'm very tired of hearing "just relax and it will happen", "as soon as you stop thinking about it..." yadda yadda. And that advice comes from women who don't have kids yet. Or my friends who remind me how they got pregnant without trying and that it will be just as easy for me. Really? Why would they thing that? Because we drink from the same water supply? I just smile and go about my way. They really don't know what it's like to be in any of our shoes.
I'm sorry about the ED. That must be very frustrating. MH has performance anxiety at times and it's tricky to navigate for sure.
Lots of sympathetic ears here. Sorry about my rant above, I'm out this cycle and am enjoying my vino.
Welcome! I think we all have had to deal with comments like that. People mean well and they don't realize that what they're saying is annoying or insensitive. My favorite is my hairdresser, who told me to go to dinner at the Melting Pot because the night she did that she concieved her son. I had to try my hardest not to laugh considering she had scissors pointed at my head at the time.
Most people don't do this, but I'm very open about TTC. When you tell people that you've been trying and have diagnosed medical problems, the comments dry up really quick.
TTC #1 since 4/10, Dx: MFI IVF planned for April/May