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Somebody talk me through this please

fauxshelleyfauxshelley member
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There is a guy, my exboyfriend before my XH, we went out 2 times (once to dinner, once to lunch, haven't kissed) and I really thought I had been blowing him off, but apparently not. He still texts me and it is driving me crazy.  His text tonight says:

Are u ever going to let me kiss your sweet lips?  I try not to stare at you but your so beautiful I can't take my eyes off of you. 

I haven't responded.  I guess not responding is just not working.  I like him, but the thought of kissing him grosses me out.  I don't want to hurt his feelings, and honestly it's flattering to have a guy texting me stuff like that.  I just don't know what to say. 

 How about you tell me how to respond?  Annnnnd go!

 

Edited to clarify -  This guy and I dated for 2 years before my XH started dating.  Obviously we have kissed in the past, but just not recently.

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Re: Somebody talk me through this please

  • dimakedimake

    Last time I had an unwanted texter, I ignored until he went away.  It took awhile.  I also tried the "I'm really flattered, but my life is too busy/complicated for this right now" and that didn't seem to work...

     

    You might have to be direct - "I'm flattered, but I'm just not interested in this type of relationship right now" or something like that?

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  • ladyaylenaladyaylena
    Be honest.  Just tell him how you feel.  I like what the PP said... sounds reasonable and an easy let-down.  :)
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  • xcjen06xcjen06
    I've said the same thing to a guy - "thank you, but between LO, work, ect, I am a little busy now for a relationship." and that worked for him.
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  • keychain01keychain01
    imagedimake:

    "I'm really flattered, but my life is too busy/complicated for this right now"

     

    I like this statement! You said you liked him though right?

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  • BostonGayGalBostonGayGal member

    Be DIRECT and HONEST.  Don't blame it on a busy life, because that is not it.

    "We don't feel the same way about each other."

    "You are sweet, but I am not interested in kissing you." 

    and if he does it again after that

    "Please stop texting me."

     



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  • dimakedimake
    imageBostonGayGal:

    Be DIRECT and HONEST.  Don't blame it on a busy life, because that is not it.

    "We don't feel the same way about each other."

    "You are sweet, but I am not interested in kissing you." 

    and if he does it again after that

    "Please stop texting me."

     

     

    I will vote for this, because with my less-than-direct method the texting went on for about a month...

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  • achase123achase123
    Yah I agree about being direct.  It is hard to not have that flattery if you're used to it, but it's always better to just be honest.
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  • fauxshelleyfauxshelley member
    Thanks for the advice.  I will talk to him tonight.  He just sent me a text saying that he left me a present in my mailbox.  ::headdesk::  I swear if it wasn't for the fact that we have history I don't want to repeat, he would be a great guy. 
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