Parenting after 35

My FFSC

Flame Free Saturday Confession, since I'm late on this.

I hate my sister.  She's my only sibling and I really, really can't stand her.  Bossy, controlling, self-centered, passive-aggressive, a one-upper.. the list goes on.

If she wasn't a relative, there's no way in Hell I'd even talk to her.

Can you tell I endured a phone conversation with her last night?  SO wanted to call her out on a bunch of crap she was saying to me, but I held my tongue. 

That's why I'm sleepless this morning (up since 4:15am) and have a massive headache.

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Re: My FFSC

  • That sucks. That is how I feel about my mom. Some similar traits but add in narcissistic and that's her. We barely have a relationship and if my parents weren't still married there is no way I would ever talk to her again.

     After every phone call I am stewing and sleepless. I so know the feeling. Hang in there.

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  • I understand though I have this horrible older sibling responsibility feeling about my brother. He's completely unaware of how self-centered he is and while he can be quite generous (gave me $1000 to buy baby furniture when I had a rough month before I had Aaron) he has also ruined all my relationships with my extended family.

    I'm going to be living with him in a month's time (because he sponges off my parents at the age of 37) and while I think we can peacefully coexist, there will be stress from that. But to get our finances in order, DH and I have no choice. We've cut back most everywhere and only living rent free for 6 months (after that we'll pay my parents to a rent fund) will allow us to get in front of our debt.

    And the sad thing is, if he ever listened to advice he'd have a lot to offer people. He is smart. Funny. Likes interesting things (though not common). He speaks 5 languages. He loves animals. But he's too self centered to get past himself.

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  • I can't be in the same room with my younger sister for more than an hour without making her cry.  I know that's hard to believe, but she's such a grabby, soggy, clueless, selfish, attention-seeking mess.  I mean, she can be generous and kind, and she's very bright.. she's not completely irredeemable... she just pushes my buttons so hard I can't help myself.

    No flames here. 

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  • People can be trained.  Keep on non-dangerous topics like the weather and when she says something crappy simply say "O I am sorry, I need to get off here now."  Either she will figure out you don't want to here it or you do not have to here it and get upset.  Win-win.
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  • Sorry you have a sister like that. My DH tries to minimize contact with one of his brothers as much as possible for a similar reason.
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