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*Amy720*

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You mentioned your brother is adopted and is fine with the closed adoption. May I ask, how old was he when your parents told him? And how did they tell him?  That's my biggest fear. I don't know how I'm going to tell my child when it's time and I don't want to tell them too early or tell them too late.

I know a lot of people start telling them right away, I just don't know about either though. Would love to hear back.

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    My parents told my brother that he was adopted very early on--probably from the time he was 3-4 and could sort of understand.  He always knew and when he was a teenager, my parents told him if he wanted they would try and help him find his birth parents, but he didn't want too.  He said my mom and dad were his only parents.  His adoption was not some big dark secret in the family. We were all very open about it.

    My DS is only 16 and 1/2 months old and we already talk to him about how he came to us and how he is such a blessing.  He doesn't understand any of it, but I want him to know from the beginning about how special he is.  Of course, since he's a different ethnicity than us, he'll know very early on about his adoption.

    I hope I could be more help to you.  I just know that my brother is an all around well adjusted nice guy and being a part of a closed adoption didn't cause any heartache or pain.

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