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I need help..a vent and plea for advise

susan1017susan1017 member
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DD is going through a HORRIBLE phase and I am not handling it well.  She is all of a sudden bratty, smart mouthed and stubborn. Everything is a fight or done with major attitude. She is also unfocused and hyper when she used to be very calm and able to finish tasks. I spoke to her teacher and she doesn't suspect any ADHD issues and feels it is a normal developmental stage. All good but I am finding myself short tempered with her and she is pushing everyone of my buttons.  She is getting the better of me more than I am comfortable with and I just dont know what to do. I ask her calmly and nicely to do something and she refuses to listen and I feel like I have to scream just to get her attention.

I SO do not want to be that mom that screams at her kid to get them to listen/follow directions. I am out of patience and each time she throws a tantrum over the smallest of things its like throwing gas on a fire. I am not over my anger from the instance before (which was prob. only 5 minutes ago). I am not enjoying this time with her. :-( I am finding it harder and harder to brush off the tantrums and I am carrying my anger forward which leads to less patience and more yelling. I feel like it is a vicious circle and I dont know how to get out of it.

Can anyone relate or have any advise?? I am finding myself getting a bit depressed over it and don't know what to do.

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Re: I need help..a vent and plea for advise

  • WBs_BrideWBs_Bride member
    I can totally, completely relate. DD just turned 5 and I'm so, so done with this "phase." I'm the worst at keeping my cool, and I know totally what you are talking about when the tantrum just leads to more ugliness, on both of our parts. I know the answer is to calmly correct, set the example, etc. All I can say is that I'm working on it. I'm not Mary Poppins. It's a constant work in progress! Good luck to you, and all of us. :-)
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  • susan1017susan1017 member

    imageWBs_Bride:
    I can totally, completely relate. DD just turned 5 and I'm so, so done with this "phase." I'm the worst at keeping my cool, and I know totally what you are talking about when the tantrum just leads to more ugliness, on both of our parts. I know the answer is to calmly correct, set the example, etc. All I can say is that I'm working on it. I'm not Mary Poppins. It's a constant work in progress! Good luck to you, and all of us. :-)

    Thank you so much for your reply! I think half the battle knowing that others are going through the same thing and that this too shall pass. 

    I am trying to take each day as it comes and focus on her positive behavior and fuss over the good things she does and not focus so much on the bad. Santa has been a huge incentive in my house for better behavior and can stop a tantrum in its tracks so I am totally screwed once Christmas passes! haha...

    I hope it gets better for you soon, too.

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