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pitching a fit

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so the wee one has started to show a bit of her temper lately. she doesn't watch TV but we've been watching Wiggles videos since she was like 3 months old- usually always the same ones (about 3-5) and always ending with one in particular (my favorite). well, the past two weeks when it came time for that one she would clap along with it (OMGCUTE) but now she FREAKS.OUT. as soon as it comes on. it dawned on me the other day it's because she knows that's the last video. time to change things up, i guess eh?

well then this morning she wanted me to read our favorite book and when i got to the 2nd to last pg... she FREAKS.OUT. like she did to the Wiggles. i calmly told her i would read it again- no biggie. and i did. and she was fine until the 2nd to last page again and then FREAKOUT.

am i handling this correctly? is there something more i should do? i don't want to always give in to her (like with the videos- JMO), but with the reading, i don't see a problem to read more... i'm just afraid that this is going to carry over in other things and i guess i'd like to know what to do/how to handle... especially when/if this happens in public.

i've read and heard to redirect, redirect- but is there something more or something maybe to do to avoid the tantrums (haha i know the million dollar question, i'm sure)?

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  • YaraCYaraC
    I guess the toddler tantrums are approaching. Caroline now pitches a fit when we take something away from her. Fun times.
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  • vanverthvanverth
    I really don't think that you can avoid tantrums.  And her receptive vocabulary is probably not to the level where you can try to help her voice her frustration at coming to the end of a pleasurable activity.  "I know that you are upset because (the video/book) is over but once you calm down we can (have a snack, read another book, watch another video, take a walk, etc).  Many children have problems with transitions.  We as parents just need to not get upset and stay calm so that we can help them transition through.  (Easier said than done.)
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  • lynnsheylynnshey
    Excellent question and I'm curious to see what others say!  First off - wow how smart that she realizes that the video/book are about to end.  She is really paying attention and enjoying them.  It sounds like you are doing everything right.  S isn't at this stage - she is just now starting to get upset if we take something away.  And I can't remember what I did for T. 
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  • PeskyPesky member
    Not sure you can do much to avoid it.  I would just treat it as a non-issue.  "Oh, you want to be done now?  Oh, okay.  I'll let you have your fit."  Make sure she's in a safe place (i.e. not going to roll of the couch or changing table or something) and leave her be.  When she's done, praise her for being nice or calm or whatever and proceed as if nothing has happened.  When she realizes that it doesn't get her anything, it usually passes.  Then it'll be triggered by other stuff!  The fun never ends...


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  • steverstever member
    IDK, but I think you're on the right track. The tantrums suck but, and I can't believe I'm saying this, I think they're kind of inevitable.

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  • ateytelbateytelb
    She is still a little young for tantrums. If you always try to avoid/redirect then she won't learn how to calm herself down. I would first do what you are doing since she is still very young but if that doesn't help, I would say smth like: "It's fine that you are decided to cry instead of doing XYZ. When you are done crying and ready to do XYZ please let me know."  WIth my son. I usually leave the room but Sabrina is too young so just stay there with her but don't talk.
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