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Father/Son "bonding"

superMillersuperMiller
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I am home with DS all day and I nurse.  So I feel a little guilty about being so much closer to our son than my husband is able to be.  As soon as he comes home I hand him off so they can have their father-son time.  It honestly takes about 35 minutes or more for DS to calm down and adjust to daddy.  Most of that time he's screaming his head off.  The mama in me is dying.  I usually try to do chores or take a bath to try to drown him out.  I don't want to hover over DH and tell him what to do or what to try, but listening to my bub scream his head off is killing me.  Like I said, he does EVENTUALLY calm down, but it's the process of getting there that's so hard.  Anyone else going through this?  Any ideas?
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Re: Father/Son "bonding"

  • LadyDelilahLadyDelilah member
    Spend time together the three of you and slowly trasition out... DD is always happy to see DH but the pout comes when I hand her off or she wakes up and Daddy gets her I SAH right now too and the transition is better if we all sit down on the couch for a minute and then I move to the kitchen and then off to do whatever I am doing. GL HTH
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  • Arielle27Arielle27 member

    I have no idea if this is true, but I can imagine that your son is reading into your nervousness (and your husband's?) and reacting to that negatively... Also, 6-10pm is the most common time for baby fussiness unfortunately, so it might have nothing to do with your husband, and it might just be coincidental.

    The only suggestion I have is to be really relaxed about it and maybe spend time together with them instead of handing him over and running away to do other things.

    Good luck!

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  • superMillersuperMiller
    I don't FEEl nervous.  And like I said, I usually get up and leave the room. But dh is SO much more rough with him than I am.  I know it's how men are, and I keep telling myself, "This is how dad's are with their boys." And he's careful and isn't doing anything to hurt him - it's just not "mom's touch."  (bouncing him around, rubbing his scruff on his cheek, etc.)  So I don't intervene.  I just think ds and I have been home, quiet and peaceful all day and dad comes in loud and bouncy and scares the hell out of him.  I did have him hold him skin-to-skin while he gave him a pacifier, and that helped a lot.  I think he's realizing on his own that the loud dad act isn't working out at 5 weeks.  
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