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first timer question...

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sorry haven't been on this page before so i'm sure this question has been asked already...here goes

our baby is due in April and we're team green...should we have a shower before baby comes or after? i was thinking it'd be nice to have it before to get all the stuff we'll see to get set up and what we don't get i can buy myself. then we could always have a "meet the baby" tea or something after.

my mom said it'd be nice ot just have the shower after baby is born so everyone can meet him/her - she doesn't think it'd be as fun to have people stare at my preg. belly!

*i wouldn't be planning my shower, my mom was just asking me what i thought cause she wants to put it on...

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  • stephanie_shoestephanie_shoe member

    I'm Team Green, it's my first, and I'm definitely having the shower before my due date...baby showers typically are before the baby is born so it's a little weird that your mom thinks it wouldn't be as fun while you're still pregnant.

    People don't have bridal showers AFTER they are married...just sayin'.

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  • OctGirl80OctGirl80 member
    This is our first and we know it's a girl. That said, our shower is before the baby (hopefully) by about a month. I had never heard of "meet the baby" parties until the bump so it might be depending on your social circle/region. All the showers I've been to were about a month or so before baby.
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  • Anniee1963Anniee1963
    I've been to 2 showers after the babies were born, because they were also team green. Both couples ended up running out to the stores right after the baby was born to buy their own pack and play, bathtub,stroller, crib sets, etc. instead of having anything like that gifted to them. The showers were about a month after they were born, so anything they needed within that first month they ended up having to purchase themselves. At the showers, they got almost all clothes and blankets. I mean TONS and tons of clothing!
    We are team green and my shower was last weekend. We registered for mostly neutral items (we would have even if we knew the gender!) and received the things we need the most, and hardly any clothes and blankets at all.
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  • meltoinemeltoine member

    We are team green too and I'm having two showers - one at 35 weeks and one at 36. I don't really think being "team green" should have an effect on when you have your shower - you still need things for the babe and people still want to celebrate with you. Why does your mom think people won't want to see you pregnant? In my experience, people love seeing you with your big belly. 

    I would much rather have it before then be concerned with a party only a few weeks after LO is born. I'd be afraid that I'd look horrible and be in a bad mood from sleep deprivation and all the rest that goes along with having a newborn. That's not how I want to be at a baby shower. 

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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member

    In the "olden" days the showers were almost always before the baby.  I was team green and had my showers before (3 of them).  I have a couple of friends that were team green and did not want all gender neutral stuff (which is what you get obviously with the shower before) so I hosted their "showers" after the baby was born.  I just made sure the invites were ready to go out (names, addresses, time, etc) everything except the date.  As soon as their babies were born I put in the date and stamped with either "It's a Boy" or "It's a Girl" and out to the mail they went.  The showers were when the babies were 3 weeks old.

    Truthfully you don't need a lot for a newborn.  The hospital supplies you with a lot and it will hold you over for 3 weeks.  The mom's I hosted for used bassinets and they had a few sleepers that either they or the grandmas picked up...plus some burp cloths and a few receiving blankets.  The only major thing they had to buy was the carseat.  At their shower they received stroller, PNP, diapers (lots of diapers), crib and dressers (from grandparents) and a LOT of other things that were not clothes.  They did get a lot of clothes (I will admit) but they wanted them (and needed them).  It worked out well for both women.

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  • cmr4828cmr4828 member

    I think that traditionally showers are given BEFORE the baby is born, or before the wedding. Unless something complicates this (e.g. you give birth earlier than planned).

    In my opinion, I would rather have the stuff we needed before the baby came so that we could buy anything extra we needed and be prepared when the baby came. But then again, people have survived not having every little thing at home when their babies have come. 

    If you want to wait to have the shower because you want gender specific stuff then I say definitely wait. If you are just doing it because you think it would be fun for everyone to meet the baby, definitely do it beforehand and then still invite people to come meet the baby afterward. 

    Since we will not be doing a baptism/christening I am toying around with the idea of doing a meet/greet after the baby has been born to introduce the baby to all of the people who would love to meet her. But first I am going to see how many people drop in after delivery, and also see what DH thinks. But...we are definitely having a shower beforehand.

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    I think that traditionally showers are given BEFORE the baby is born, or before the wedding. Unless something complicates this (e.g. you give birth earlier than planned).

    In my opinion, I would rather have the stuff we needed before the baby came so that we could buy anything extra we needed and be prepared when the baby came. But then again, people have survived not having every little thing at home when their babies have come. 

    If you want to wait to have the shower because you want gender specific stuff then I say definitely wait. If you are just doing it because you think it would be fun for everyone to meet the baby, definitely do it beforehand and then still invite people to come meet the baby afterward. 

    Since we will not be doing a baptism/christening I am toying around with the idea of doing a meet/greet after the baby has been born to introduce the baby to all of the people who would love to meet her. But first I am going to see how many people drop in after delivery, and also see what DH thinks. But...we are definitely having a shower beforehand.

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