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Tomorrow I am having my D&C - Emotions all over the place

yeliza hyeliza h member
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I am so nervous and not sure what to expect. I choose to have an D&C and not deliver my baby girl because I just can't deal with the heartache. Now I don't know what to expect...this is the first D&C I have had so late in pregnancy.         

I really don't know to handle to this. I haven't stopped crying since finding out. I am going through so much emotions.

1) I am pissed at my coworker who the day before finding our yelled out "OH MY GOSH YOU STOMACH SEEMS TO FLAT..ARE YOU SURE YOU BABY IS GROWING PROPERLY?" Needless to say I didn't have anything nice to say to her. But now her words just keep playing through my head. And I am wondering how can a coworker notice my baby wasn't growing properly and I couldn't.

2) What if I took the genetic test early and found out that my daughter had Turner Syndrom? Would finding out earlier make this a lot easier.

3) How am I am going to make it through the holidays? I don't want to go home and visit my parents and extended family any now. At thanksgiving we were all talking baby and pregnancy and I had a huge belly,

4) How am I going to deal with going back to work.

5) My stomach - It;s getting smaller and smaller.

5/9/2013 = Our rainbow was born!!

08/18/2012 - BFP (Hoping this is our rainbow!)
06/24/2012 - Loss confirmed at 12 weeks
12/14/2010 - Loss baby girl at 20 weeks due to Turner Syndrome
01/2009 - Chemical Pregnancy

Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

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Re: Tomorrow I am having my D&C - Emotions all over the place

  • Jenn478Jenn478 member
    So sorry for your loss.
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  • Runnergirl2242Runnergirl2242 member
    I had a D&C but it was in the first tri so I am not sure if there is a difference. There are ladies here who have been through it and can give you some idea about what to expect. I am so sorry that you are going throught this. Yes, I think that the holidays are going to be hard. Say no to what you can not emotionally handle. You do what feels right to you and remember that its okay to say no. It is okay to put your feelings first right now. Take care of yourself. Keep us posted how you are feeling. 
    DS Born 10/05/99 DSS Born 7/11/95 BFP 05/11/10 - Missed M/C, D&C 06/23/10 BFP 8/3/2010 - Ectopic, Methotrexate 8/17/10 BFP 1/27/11- Please God let this heart beat strong. Beta1 17dpo-314 Beta2 20dpo-883 Beta3 22dpo-1861 Beta4 25dpo-5918 DS2 Born 10/07/99 "I prayed for this child, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of him. So now I give him to the LORD. For his whole life he shall be given over to the LORD." 1Sam1v24to28.
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  • Fallon621Fallon621
    First, I am so very sorry for your loss!!  I am currently going through a natural MC and I have a wonderful 5 year old son and I do not feel like participating in anything that has to do with the holidays or celebrating anything at all.  I just do not want to rob my son of "the holiday spirit"  So I completly understand not wanting to do visits or anything I mean we just lost out babys, we have to grieve in our own way.   I'm sure many other if not all woman on here are going through this with you.  As a PP posted do Not do anything you dont want to or feel up to.  You and your family are in my thoughts tonight.  This is such a sad thing to go through and my heart breaks every time I come on here to read and see how many of us are going through this.
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    Missed M/C discoverd at 10w5d measuring 6w6d on 12/3/10 said goodbye 12/12/10 EDD 6/26/11 "this too shall pass"

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  • alexa08alexa08

    I'm so sorry for you loss!  I understand how you feel and having your emotions everywhere is totally normal.

    We lost out LO at 18 weeks - the lungs and heart had not formed properly; I had a D&E just over three weeks ago now. I've never felt so terrible. I don't think finding out any earlier would have made our loss any less painful.

    Just like you I had just enjoyed a visit with my inlaws - they were so excited. We will be spending the holidays with them. Staying home does not feel right, DH would hate being away from his family so much. My SIL is pregnant and due 3 weeks after our EDD. I'm not looking forward to how excited everyone will - I fully expect I'll be a basket case.

    I took a full week off following my Friday D&E. It was really the best choice for me as my emotions were all over the board for about 10 days. The first day back was really rough - my boss had not told my coworkers so I had to tell them all.  I was really depressed. If there is any way you can take a week of sick time I would encurage you too.

    My heart goes out to you right now.

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  • yeliza hyeliza h member

    I scheduled one week off - Thank goodness for tons of sick time (which I can't help but think I should have been using for my maternity leave). My good friend is due 3 weeks before me. We should have been having our baby shower together. I don't know how I am going to deal with seeing her again...it is going to be so tough.....

    My friends have decided to give me space which just hurts me even more. I know that some people don't know what to say...but to not say anything hurts even more.

    I am trying to take it one day at a time.....and terrified of what tomorrow holds. I have had a couple first trimester D&C, but have never had one so late in pregnancy .Crying

    5/9/2013 = Our rainbow was born!!

    08/18/2012 - BFP (Hoping this is our rainbow!)
    06/24/2012 - Loss confirmed at 12 weeks
    12/14/2010 - Loss baby girl at 20 weeks due to Turner Syndrome
    01/2009 - Chemical Pregnancy

    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

    My Blog

                      

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