Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
eesome
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Re: Friday Pregnancy Confessions!!
OMG eesome! Well hopefully you got some sympathy points for that!
I farted in the checkout line yesterday. I couldn't help it, it just popped out. I think the guy behind was pretending he didn't hear/notice. I FLEW out of there!
Aww...that's awful! (But kind of comical at the same time, haha).
Mine: Even though this LO was a complete surprise and didn't happen at the best of times, (I just started a new job) if something were to happen and I lost this baby, I think I'd want to try again right away! Even though I KNOW it's going to be lots of work having them so close together, I've really gotten used to the idea and am SO excited to have another lo. Hopefully everything works out with this pregnancy though, and I won't have to worry about that.
Oh, that's nothing! We're IN BED every night by 8.
Started TTC #1: July 2010 DX: PCOS
BFP: 12/5/10 Natural M/C: 12/17/10 (5w6d)
Cycle 10 - 50mg Clomid + TI = BFN
Cycle 11 - 50mg Clomid + IUI converted to TI = BFN
Cycle 12 - 50mg Clomid + IUI #1 = BFN
Cycle 13 - Clomid Break + Charting + Dr. Recommendations = BFN
Cycle 14 - Clomid Break + Charting + meeting with URO (all clear!) = BFP!!
Beta #1 - 105 Beta #2 - 336! 1st U/S (@5w4d)- gest. sac and yolk sac, measuring 5w2d 2nd U/S - 1/16 (will be 8w2d) Stick and grow, little bean! My Ovulation Chart
* Congrats to my girl SarahRuthG on her new baby boy!*
Dang it! I didn't even think of doing that yet. Now I have something else to keep me from getting anything done :P
I have done absolutley nothing at work all week. I can not concentrate. I have a test to take on Monday. The book is 10 chapters and I have read 3. I seriuosly need to get my butt in gear.
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I have done absolutley nothing at work all week. I can not concentrate. I have a test to take on Monday. The book is 10 chapters and I have read 3. I seriuosly need to get my butt in gear.
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toldThis! I used to worry that we were so fortunate we wouldn't get pregnant. But I thank God for the blessings we have in our life (now including the LO inside me)
hahahaha! It really sucks, because they are all on clearance
I'm sure everyone there understood. PG is hard on emotions!
I've been extremely moody with DH. This is so stupid but he added a friend on FB that is a friend of a friend type thing and it was a girl. I could see that they were friends and this girl is beautiful! I asked him who she was and found that I was jelous! I never act like that! I also told him that I feel he looks at everyother girl and thinks they are sexier than I am. I think i'm just at an awkward bloating stage and emotional and my self esteem is low. How messed up is all that? lol
Yay! Something else for me to do today.
eta: What sites are you guys looking at? Old Navy & Gap were my go to places last time.
That's the thing! I wasn't trying to get sympathy points, but it sure sounded like I was...hence...my embarrassment.
Only 7 more classes and I graduate...THANK GOD.
haha I know! Old Navy definitely, and I have been going to Ebay and searching "maternity clothes" and pulling up all the stores that list the stuff-Motherhood and Pea in a Pod...etc...LOL
DH and I are waiting to tell people until at least our next Dr apt on the 23rd. I have been avoiding people so I don't have to lie to them and I really want my BFF to figure it out so I can talk to her about it.
Yesterday I went shopping with my mom and got out of breath just by trying on a jacket.
And every chance we both got, we oooh'd and awww'd over tons of cute baby clothes at Old Navy, Gap, Carters, anywhere that had a baby section, we made our way there. I'm already tempted to start getting little unisex items but I know DH will kill me if I start this early
My Blog || BFP Chart
11/27/10-BFP, EDD 8/9/11 || 1/4-7/10- missed m/c 9wks
4/25/11- BFP , EDD 1/5/12
Are we allowed 2? Cause I have another!
I had a bag full of IC OPKs and HPTs. I was going to pass them on to a friend of mine who is going to TTC soon. When I got my BFP, I had 8 HPTs left...now I have 1
I keep taking them! She's still getting a buttload of OPK!
Awww Eesome, I'm sorry. That sounds like a horrible ordeal!
DS#1- Born August 2011
I hate to say it, but just wait til that LO is an outside baby. I can barely make it to 10 these days lol.
As far as my confession? Nothing juicy. I'm so excited for this LO, but I'm also scared. I feel like I had the benefit of naivete when I was pregnant with DS, so I was just blissfully waiting for his arrival. But now, I know how tough a newborn baby is and DS is in a really difficult and clingy stage right now and I'm just exhausted - I have no clue how I'm going to manage to LOs.
I don't really have anything good to share, except maybe:
I haven't been feeling really bad symptoms yet, but I have been playing up every little thing to DH. I guess I just want him to acknowledge that I am pregnant and pamper me. I feel like I will have to be huge before he gets it.
DS#1- Born August 2011
I can totally relate...I am now down to 5 after having about 15 left the day I found out I was pregnant. I feel reassured once I see how dark the two lines are now..
I have done this! Just making sure everything is still in place!
I wanted to take DD to the Dr today because she has a nagging cough that isn't getting better. I called the dr and there was only one in today and they didn't want to give me an appt. So I said, "but I'm pregnant what if she has something contagious!" So they gave me the last open appt of the day.
Fyi: she has inflamed airways from back to back colds and needs an inhaler. Gotta love kindergarten!
I am so emotional and irritable I am afraid I might go off on someone. I called DH on my way home from work yesterday and said "I am so emotional, someone questioned my work, not even in a bad way and I almost started crying, I wanted to punch like four people, and I am SO HUNGRY!" And started crying. Because being hungry moves me to tears.
Also, I eat pretty healthy but have an issue with sweets normally. Now it's salty foods. I asked DH to bring me home a bag of Nacho Cheese doritos on Tuesday. They were gone by Thursday.
Geez! I guess I'm a bit lazier....I'm plopped on the couch by 7:30/8 easy!!
I'm wearing my mother's bra.
I feel this way too sometimes. DD is not sttn- and nowhere close to it. When we have bad days, or she gets up a lot one night, I have a hard time imagining what it will be like with two. Not to mention a newborn that's getting up every 1.5-2 hours! The first few months will be rough, no doubt.
But hey, I'm still looking forward to it.