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2nd Trimester
Push Present?
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Re: Push Present?
This definitely reminds me of the 578739 debates about push presents when I was in 3rd tri with the twins.
They're NMS. I don't need a present for doing something I have to do regardless. Besides, this baby brought me a new house and a new car...I think that's more than enough.
The last thing on my mind is going to be a push present when I have my little man in my arms. I think they are kind of ridiculous anyways. One way or another this kid needs to come out and I don't need a present for how it happens.
The idea is NMS too but what I find very annoying is that my MIL buys herself a push present for everyone of her grandkids. I already do not like her but this makes me dislike her more. She doesn't do anything except sit in the waiting room and then she comes in to see the baby and then pulls her push present out of her purse. I laugh at her everytime, it is insane.
So I grew up with a bunch of spoiled girls and most of them get cars from their husbands. Like Escalades or BMW X3s. Or one of those crazy expensive Louis Vuitton purses.
I wouldn't mind a nice piece of jewelry but don't expect to get anything. DH and I did not do this "tradition" with DS and probably won't with #2 either.
Baby #4; 7/7/2018
HA! My push present was hemorrhoids a huge tear and lots of stitches!!
But I didn't care.... I had my baby in my arms and she was healthy. If you need something more than that you need to reevaluate your priorities in life!
I loved getting that present too!
This. I would never ever ask DH for one. If he gets me something fine, but never assume or ask for it. He got me a beautiful bunch of flowers that simply said "I love you" on the card, but DS still out shined them by far!
I wanted one with my son, but all I got was a stupid Diet Dr. Pepper. Hahahahaha
Not that it wasn't delicious, it was.
I'm a big no on the push present. I didn't get him anything for getting me pregnant and I don't plan on him giving me anything for pushing his kid out. The baby is enough for me.
I am due right before mother's day though and he plans on getting me something because of that but I will get him something the following month.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
EDD 1/31/13, MC May 17. EDD 3/31/13, MC July 26. I miss you so much already my angel loves
That's true. It was also kind of awkward though because I had just had a m/c. It was one of our first forays back in the swing of things. We are extremely lucky we were able to get pregnant again so quickly.
The first time we got pregnant was a lot more fun. It was his birthday and we broke the bed.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
I've never even heard of one...did it start in the south
Seems like all things that spoil women start there. But wine and sushi would be soooooo nice or to sleep on my tummy again 
DH gets me a peice of jewelry with LO's birthstone in it, both of my babies were born in september so I have a ring and earings now that one day will go to my LOs for them to have
In return DH gets something from our LO our son "gave" him a pocket watch with his birthdate in Roman numerals and our daughter "gave" him an hour glass with her birthdate in roman numerals as well...
IMO, it is a cute idea, but only if DH does it out of the kindness of his heart. I would NEVER ask him or anybody else to buy me a gift for pushing my little guy out. If DH or somebody else feels it necessary to give me a gift, I will gladly accept.
NOTE: I actually plan to surprise H with a small gift when LO is born. Something that says "Thanks for putting up with me being fat/emotional for the last nine months. I love you!"
I was planning on buying a Flip and did when it was on sale at Costco. My DH gave me the money for it and was like I was going to buy it for you and give it to you after the babies were born. Then he bought me the twins precious moments figurine. He was also going to give that to me after they were born but he was being a jerk and felt guilty so he gave it to me.
I think the idea of push presents and expecting them are ridiculous. However, I do think a nice gesture of flowers or a card is nice. I mean, we are doing a lot of work for them and they should show appreciation.
When my nephew was born we got my SIL a charm bracelet from things remembered. Her baby daddy didn't get her anything and I judge him for it because he wasn't there for her at all but thats a different story for a different board.
I agree. Chill with the "my baby is the best present". Of course they are, no mother would disagree. I dont expect a gift, nor did I recieve one with my first LO, but if my husband, on his own, were to think of a nice gift (nice doesnt mean expensive, but moreso meaningful) for the occasion, I would think it really sweet of him.
This.
We get pissy when women complain about not getting the shower gifts from their registry they wanted, or any other such gift grabby post. How is this any different?
If your husband, partner or significant other surprises you with a present, how nice of them. If you are expecting a present beyond the healthy baby in your arms, I find that a little gross. I don't think you are entitled to a piece of jewlery or something because you gave birth.
I have to agree with this. A co worker asked me what I was going to ask for as my "push present" and I was thinking that is one of the most ridiculous things I have ever heard. She goes on to tell me how her sister asked for a diamond bracelet. Are you kidding me. Sorry definitely not my style. A healthy baby is all I would ask for.
I agree with this. I love the idea of something symbolic and meaningful being given if teh DH so chooses. I would never demand one or even ask for one, but if DH wanted to give me something, like baby's birthstone or something, I would think it was very thoughtful and sweet. I wouldn't really consider it a a "push present" either, though. Those, in my mind, have negative connotations. I think something silly like a LV bag or something like that isn't meaningful or thoughtful at all. Like others have said, I don't "need" a present to validate this birth, but at the same time, a thoughtful gesture from DH would mean a lot at the end of it all. But, is definitely not required. When DS was born, the look in his eyes and the HUGE amount of love we felt for each other in just the looks we shared while looking at our new son were more than enough to let me know how he felt, even if he hadn't said it. (Cheesey, I know. Sorry
A lot of my friends say this is a new trend, but I have always thought it was a sweet gesture. My dad gave my mom a piece of jewelry for each of us when we were born. I have always know that the diamond pendant necklace was for me, the Cheveron diamond necklace for my Sis, and the tennis braclet for my other sis. I guess I hold more sentimental attachments to it since my dad passed away. I will get the necklace when my mom passes (hopefully not for LONG time), and I hope to pass ot to my daughter (if I have one).
All that said, this is why I would like one from MH, not because I excpect it, but becuase it is a tradition my dad started that I would like to carry on.
This. I know a woman who DEMANDED a diamond ring for baby #1 and a trip away with her girlfriends (only a month after baby was born??!!) for #2. I think that's pretty obnoxious.