When do you tell your friends?

catherine_ann82 · December 2010

We are so excited to be pregnant and have decided to tell our families on Christmas Eve when we host a family dinner. But my question is when do you tell your friends? We are so excited and want to tell the whole, but I am so nervous and know its an old wise tale to wait intil after the first trimester is over....Is this when you will be breaking the news too?

Soonergrlnks · December 2010

This is our first so we told our parents as soon as we found out and then dropped hints here and there to friends

12bailey18 · December 2010

Both times we told everyone right away- so at 4 weeks. It was too big of news for us to wait! There is NO way I could have waited, that's just me though. My thought process is, that if something were to happen these are the exact people that would give me support...no matter what and that I would want by me. Everyone is excited for us and I'm glad that I told right away. It's fun to be able to share everything with my friends. I totally understand why people DO wait, it's just not for me, though.

Karen1998 · December 2010

With our first, we told only one of my closest friends (she guessed) until we knew we were going to miscarry. Then, we only told immediate family a few friends. We had planned to tell around the end of the first trimester, but never made it that far. I'm so glad I didn't jump the gun and tell the world about the pregnancy. I've heard too many women lament telling early and then having to untell them. And, someone always doesn't get the message, which just ends up in major pain later.

With this pregnancy, we plan to tell at Christmas, only after we see a heartbeat. I'd prefer to wait until later, but it's the only time everyone will be together for several months. We're hoping that all will go well at that first ultrasound (at 8 weeks) so we can share some happy news since Christmas will be hard this year since I was due right around that time.

Telly21182 · December 2010

We told our parents at 8 weeks because my doctor scheduled an U/S at 7W 4D to confirm how far along I was so I wanted to have a picture to show them. A few of our friends know due to figuring it out, but other than that we're waiting to tell the rest of our friends after we tell family on Christmas and Christmas Eve. I kinda want to see if they notice I'm not drinking on NYE and let them figure it out like that.

heylee · December 2010

We waited until our first ultrasound to tell everyone else. I was 11 weeks along at the time.

Brimommy · December 2010

I am about 7 weeks pregnant and told my parents and sister but I am holding off telling people at work and my friends until I am three months to make sure everything is fine. I am sure everything will be fine but I see had my coworker tell everyone she was pg when she first found out and then miscarried. It is really up to the individual.

damabo80 · December 2010

I told family and our close friends who have been privvy to our IF/loss journey. They are the ones I know I can look to support for if something goes wrong again.

I'm not into making huge FB announcement or anything like that. If people ask, I'll tell them. If they don't ask, I'm not going to volunteer it. There's no "safe" time for me to wait after.

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