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May 2011 Moms
Flame Free Friday Confessions!
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Re: Flame Free Friday Confessions!
I LOVE alliejoe's idea! Some kids are very ungrateful (ok a lot) and if they do react badly, then do it without them and give them a card saying what you did. My DF & I are going giftless this year, except I'm making something for 2 close family members of mine
If it makes you feel any better, I am terrified to potty train DS come the new year!
My FFFC:
I really don't feel like doing anything. I have a long list of shiit to do but I would much rather sit around all day and do nothing.
I am letting stupid internet drama effect me, and it ruins my whole day. I hate being so emotionally involved in things.
We are going up to my mom's for a late Christmas and I am secretly thrilled that my cousin who just got married wont be there since she likes to steal the lime light, and I will be 20 weeks pregnant and for once I just want to be the center of attention. Plus they make 3x as much as we do and she said she won't get us anything because they are spending money on a mini vacation, but she fully expected a gift from us. BS.
I am getting really excited for our anatomy scan in a week and a half, and the more I am so pissed off that people think that if we have another boy it isn't as good as a girl, since this is our last kid. What is wrong with having 2 boys? If we really want a girl, we can adopt one since I can't physically have another baby. Just be thankful we can have this one FFS!
And Finally I am so pissed that the bump had to add another stupid board and now the whole system is bogged down and I keep getting error messages when I got to other boards i lurk on. What is the point in making a redundant board.
ok I am done now!
Im so sick of going to work extra because im the only RN in the building yeah its great overtime but come on ive been doing this for 4 weeks now just hire someone else or ask me to do it that way im not working 115+ hours every 2 weeks.
To my co-worker I dont care if your freakin bf breaks up with u again. All of us have told u we dont like him and im tired of him u that all of us (your friends) are only using u thats total bs i have my own damn money. Hes tried cheating on u once with me dump his sorry butt and get over him dont keep going back to him.
big hugs. Attachment doesn't come at the same time or in the same way for everyone, and that's ok. You will be a great mom.
Thanks for the support ladies! VaulterMom, we are thinking of going giftless too or doing homemade gifts! :-)
First of all, screw cousin. If she's not getting you a gift, don't get her one. Giving is in the holiday spirit and all, I totally get that, but if she's not willing to spend a few bucks to give a gift to a family member in the name of the holiday, she shouldn't expect one. I would send her a nice card saying Merry Christmas and be done with it.
And what's wrong with 2 boys? At least they'll play better together than a boy and a girl would! I guess I just don't understand the whole "You have to have a boy and a girl" thing. You get what you get, you don't get a choice (unless you adopt)! Still can't wait to find out what you're having though, either way
And yeah, I think it's lame that there is a TTGP 6+ board now. All these split boards are so unnecessary. Splitting the baby boards, the month boards, now splitting TTGP. They make each board slower and more boring, and make it so you don't get to know many posters that aren't at the exact same stage of things as you.
I love my MIL, I actually really do but if I hear one more thing about how great organic food is (without implying I should be eating it, just you know... talking about how great it is in general wink wink) I am going to scream. I would love to eat all organic food too, but are you going to pay my grocery bill when it doubles? Also, his family (okay, his mother) spends WAAAAY too much money on Christmas gifts from what I am used to. Like 500-1000 dollar per kid (no they aren't incredibly wealthy just GENEROUS, or whatever) and when she talks about gifts I feel like the cheap grinch who stole Christmas, although in my family, I never got expensive gifts so maybe in some way I am jealous? I dont know... but the whole thing just pisses me off (note: fiance is totally cool with what I want to spend on Christmas too, although he wont outright say his mom is a little batty about this stuff - so at least I have that)
Also - SIL has been trying for years to get pregnant and has had major issues. Even if she gets pregnant, its going to be a very trying pregnancy for her. Shes been taking hormone shots and finally got pregnant, just to find out it was etopic (or however you spell that) and had to terminate. Now she has to try IVF. I feel AWFUL, because I got pregnant with absolutely no problem. I wish she would just get pregnant so I wouldnt feel so GUILTY all the time and she could be happy too. I don't know how to interact with her, shes a very nice person, but I can't help but feel like she resents me right now..... which I hate. Also - I am not even supposed to KNOW about the etopic pregnancy, but MIL told me for some reason. Awkward.
*Warning: Long*
I am at the end of my rope with StepMIL, DH as well. We are honestly at the point where we are trying to come up with any excuse possible not to have to go to their house for Christmas.
I love her, I do, and I know she means well but I can't take it anymore. She is obsessed with this baby and goes on and on and on and ON about how excited she is for her first grandchild and telling us what we should name her. She is constantly telling us to use a name that I have already told her we wont be using, and she wont give it up. She goes on about how much fun she and her kids had picking a name when she was pregnant 4 years ago. I'm not trying to be rude here, but I don't want their help picking a name. DH and I are waiting until we know for sure what the sex is until we pick something. And, I guess here's where the flame free part comes in, it's not even technically her grand child, especially since she keeps telling me she is probably going to leave FIL and wont even be married anymore when LO arrives!
We went down for Thanksgiving and StepMIL told me I should bake there, okay fine, easier for me. I get down there and she and FIL basically try and take over all the baking. The result is that the carrot cake, pumpkin pie, and apple pie, are sitting on the counter half made. Low and behold, they have no flour, which I need for everything. I say I am going to go to the store, literally a mile down the road to get some. StepMIL insists she will go and not to worry about it. Well I ended up waiting about 2 hours for her and FIL to get their act together and go to the store. The whole time they keep asking if I am sure all I need is flour and what do I want for breakfast. I tell them I am happy with anything, I just need the flour so I can finish baking please. She then asks if I want frosted flakes for breakfast. I tell her no, I can't eat them as my body doesn't process sugar well. When they finally come back from the store what have they bought for breakfast? Frosted flakes. UGH, why ask if you don't care what the answer is?
So after the 2 hour wait for the flour StepMIL tells me I look tired and should go to bed and finish in the morning. I try to politely tell her that everything is currently half made and will go bad, that I had to finish that night. I'm almost done and the pumpkin pie had about 15 min left when she decided it is time for me to go to bed. It's 9-9:30pm. I thought she was kidding and ignored her until she started yelling at me to go to bed and literally kicked me out of the kitchen. I pointed out to her that her 4 year old daughter was still awake and she said that didn't matter. So I went upstairs since DH wasn't sticking up for me and I apparently had no choice, and I gave DH instructions on how to make sure the pie was done. I'm 26 years old, she is not my mother, I am not a child, I was seriously angry.
Then the next day (Thanksgiving with her whole family there) she brings me into her room and proceeds to apologize to me for a good 30min for her stint in rehab over the summer and say how bad she feels about it, how everything is so hard for her, etc. etc. I'm not trying to be cold hearted but this is not the first time she has said this. She is constantly trying to make herself a martyr and it doesn't seem to matter what I or anyone else says to her, she wont accept that it's okay, we don't hold it against her, she can't let it go. She is constantly bringing it up. I don't know what she wants to hear. I am starting to hold it against her though since that appears to be what she wants.
That's not even all of it but this is really long already. I guess I'll save the rest for next friday haha.
If we can be honest here-
I feel fat and gross, I feel a little ashamed to tell people im preg. IM not sure why. IM trying very hard to get over it. I also dont feel a connection with the bean thats making me fat.
I tried touching my stomach, and it just felt awkward. I hope i can shake this, or feel a conection soon.
I think its weird how some people want a B or G..... i dont care either way, seriously..... i could care less... and i feel bad about that.
granted-- im very excited to be a mother and have my baby in my arms but like normal--im paralyzed by fears.
I think im just overwhelmed with paranoia that its going to die or be still birth and how disgusting im going to look after i have my child.... its really ruining it for me.
DS Desmond Alexander 6.9.11
DD Vivienne Elena 12.16.13
? EDD 3/29/2018
OMG, I screamed at my husband to "SHUT THE F*CK UP!" over something stupid last night and now I am "Monster"
poor guy...who the hell am I?
I started crying in CVS on Wed because they took too long with my presciption.