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May 2011 Moms
BetchySprout
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Flame Free Friday Confessions!
BetchySprout
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Re: Flame Free Friday Confessions!
I am not into Christmas at all this year. I really don't even want to participate. Its so close to DH being home, but just not close enough. I don't feel like pretending to be all giddy and excited when I'm really just fed up.
I think bad, rude things about people in my head as I say nice, understanding things to them. I feel terrible about it, but let me just be frank. I don't give two shits that your DH forgot to do the dishes again last night and only wanted to play Call Of Duty. I'd really like to have some of my DH's dirty dishes to do and would give anything to hear him yelling at the TV.
(I do feel bad afterward and end up saying a prayer for them and asking for forgiveness. lol)
I pretend I don't notice when my mom tells me she has lost weight or that her jeans are fitting better. I even say, "well I think you look fine!" when she shows me her pants are getting baggy, or says they are too big. I lost a lot of weight pre-preg and now I'm having issues embracing the fact that I'm getting bigger.
My grandmother is on my last nerve. We use to be/are very close but I really can't even stand to be around her or listen to her talk recently. She drives me batty.
Ugh! I just need 2011 to get here and get back to my OWN life and house. Texas is on my nerves, people are on my nerves, and I'm freaking lonely!
I'm starting to get some pretty intense anxiety about working Friday nights. I mean, it's a 4-hour shift, DH leaves for work before I do and I return before he does (so it's not like it cuts into our time together), and I do love my job. But I just can't do it all anymore, and the pharmacist that works with on Friday nights just sits around and does nothing but verify prescriptions. I come home with such intense back pain that I can't move and Tylenol doesn't help. So, at my OB appointment today, I'm going to see if she'll put me on work restriction, if only so I won't have to work Fridays anymore. I would rather work on our busiest nights with our other pharmacist than 1 4-hour shift a week with the lazy one. (Sorry, that was a long one!)
I'm a little sad that we're having boys instead of girls. NOT because I wanted a specific sex but because I HATE it when my mother is right. She's one of those annoying people that won't drop it and rubs it in your face all the time. And I'm freaking sick of her phone calls, because she reminds me that "she knew it" every time we talk. Well mom, you had a 50-50 shot of being right, you just jumped on the right side of the line. Here's your cookie. I sort of wanted girls just so she'd be wrong and I wouldn't have to deal with her.
Speaking of mom + boys combo, now she's pushing me to have a bris for them. And I don't know if I want one. She won't drop the subject and wants my great-uncle (with horrible Parkinson's) to officiate and hold the boys for the moyel. Uhm, NO! IF we decide to have a bris, I'm not going let someone with that severe of tremors hold MY sons while some person I DON'T KNOW snips them downstairs. I don't have the money for penile reconstructive surgery (for twins, no less!) and will NOT subject my children to that!
Wow, guess I needed to vent a little!
I'm so nervous too! We are opening the envelope Christmas Day with my family and they all think/ want it to be a girl. To the point where they pretty much act like a boy isn't even possible. Um, yes it is people! I'm scared if I open it up and it says "BOY" I won't be upset, but they will be sad and I will feel defective or something.
I mean I'll say things like "We're so excited to find out what it is!", and their reply is, "Why? We KNOW it's a little girl!".
I am the maid of honor in my friend's wedding, scheduled for October (halloween weekend) of 2011.
All I can think about is how much I really don't want to be bogged down with all the things she will want me to do. I will be having a kid by the end of May/very early June -- will be off work for June/July/Aug -- back at work in Sept -- and with trying to juggle my new life, I don't want to worry about all the details of her wedding! I am sure it will all be dumped on me since I am the most reliable of all her friends, which is why I am probably MOH.
She doesn't have a huge budget, and the whole thing seems like a train wreck so far. Ceremony in a graveyard (great....) bagpiper for their entrance& exit (i guess she wants to go Irish?), overall masquerade theme (ah, so there IS a theme...), reception in a barn, a bonfire outside for s'mores (wtf!), buffet dinner where friends/family make all the food so it doesn't have to be catered (please cater!), self made favors, decorations, etc. AHHH!
Confession -- It all sounds horrible! FOCUS a little bit! Stop smoking whatever you're smoking! Demote me!!
~*~*May 2013 Moms Website*~*~
I grew up calling a man who isn't my father "dad" and realized 3 years ago that he's an emotionally/physically abuse jerk (I'd actually use a harsher word, but!) Now that I've been talking to me real dad for 2 years, I like & love him more. My step-dad's family (mainly his mom) tell me I'm wrong for cutting him out of my life because he's always been there. It makes me want to cut them from my 2012 wedding invitation list and life!
We live on the other side of the country from DF's family and most of mine and they all tell us we have to move back because we're having a baby. I've lived here for 9.5 years and he has for 2. None of them have come to even visit either of us. It makes me want to move to the furthest tip of Canada to stick it in their faces and then make them visit for once. We won't move back unless it's years from now and far from all of them.
I think this is horrible when family puts so much pressure on you for one sex. It's not like you can choose what you are having. I hope they are just as thrilled if the card reads Boy! This is part why we are not finding out. You can't help but love a baby when it's born no matter the sex. Giving yourself 20 weeks to be disappointed is no fun!
I think this is horrible when family puts so much pressure on you for one sex. It's not like you can choose what you are having. I hope they are just as thrilled if the card reads Boy! This is part why we are not finding out. You can't help but love a baby when it's born no matter the sex. Giving yourself 20 weeks to be disappointed is no fun!
I ate chocolate chip cookie dough with RAW eggs in it on Wednesday night and i ate A LOT of it....i know i shouldn't have and I did it anyway.
I am annoyed with just about everyone at the moment. I think other people in my grad school classes are pretty much idiots and I screamed at my husband to shut up yesterday because he kept singing Jingle Bell Rock OVER AND OVER...now he is calling me "mean Lady"
I think the crap that is/has been going on over on TTGP this week is ridiculous.
Even more ridiculous it that within 24 hours of the request for a new board, the Bump created the TTGG 6 months + board. Give me a freaking break people! Just because it's taking you longer than 6 months doesn't make you any more important or special than the rest of the women TTC.
Thank you!!! I think it's ridiculous. If you have been TTC 6 months without a diagnosis, guess what-- you are NORMAL! I love some of those girls with all my heart, but I am really giving all of this mess the side-eye. Especially after all the 3T girls were so nice and welcoming to them. Apparently it still wasn't enough. They need their own special board.
As long as we are flame-free- I want to agree with this. I don't understand why they set it at 6 months. It can take a normal healthy couple up to a year to conceive. Honestly I think that by giving a special board for those who haven't gotten pregnant in 6 months just makes women freak out and worry that they have major IF issues when in reality it is normal. And if they don't get pregnant after a year and want a special board, why not just move to Trouble TTC or one of the IF boards?
Maybe we should request a second May 2011 board. One board that uses the word "sex" and a board that uses the word "gender." Or one for May mommas having a boy and one for May mommas having a girl.
Hey now, don't forget Team Green, they need their own May 2011 board too
Agreed. I didn't even bat an eyelash at the 6 month mark. I never understood why the bump considered that TTTC.
I need to stop lurking on 1st tri.
I have a very flammable post to make but I will keep it to myself. Let's just say it involves NT scans and the many, many, many, many, many misconceptions about them and the people who have them. Of which there are many.
I think this is what pisses me off the most. 3T was my home board before my BFP. I lurked, but rarely posted on TTGP. The excuses about 3T being mean, unwelcoming, etc are complete bullsh!t. Everyone was gracious to them and welcomed them with open arms.
BTW - have you seen kdodge's post on the new board? She cracks me up.
Plus, some of the ladies that wanted this new board are posting on TTGP this morning. If you're so special, why not have your own FFFC post on your new, special board?
UGH....I haven't been sleeping well and the bittch in me is coming out.
I agree with everything you said. 3T was wonderful to me the few times I posted there and I was WELL under the year mark (though I did have a dx).
I don't know why they are still posting on TTGP either, since they "don't fit in" there. It makes no sense. A check-in post? Sure, why not. But a whole new board? Lame. I think it's especially stupid that it excludes ladies without a dx too.
* I think I'll be TOTALLY suprised if they say I am having a girl when I go on December 20th. I really think I'm having a boy, and so does everyone else. For some reason I've been looking at boys clothes, boys nurseries etc. It's so weird.
* I can't stand the girl at work anymore. She's 27 pregnant and thinks she's the first person that has ever had a baby. She's gained a ton a weight and she's huge, and it's really taking a toll on her. I feel bad saying all this but she has 3 full months to go and she is a disaster. She keeps saying to me "Oh wait until you feel this way" and I felt like saying "Well two days ago you had Whopper BK Large meals TWICE in one day and yesterday for lunch you had a HUGE cheesetake with fries while I had a salad and vegetable chicken soup" I'm not trying to be mean cuz I know people put on weight and I'm only 17 weeks so I'm sure I will to (I already gained 10-14 so I'm not naive) but she's not even trying to stay healthy and/or walk move around..all she does is complain, but I really think she thinks eating that way is good for the baby. People tell her on her FB she is "ALL baby" ummm no!
* On another note (laughing about the above statement) I hate 3 breakfasts today! LOL
I'm hoping that DH's sister that is in a long term relationship gets KU so that my LO will have a cousin their age on DH's side of the family. Either that or my SIL that has 2 kids and plans to have no more, gets an opps baby.
We tried for this baby for 2+ years.
We had 2 losses along the way. I'm so terrified that I'll lose this one too, I have almost no emotional attachment to this pregnancy/baby so far. I'm scared that it won't change.
* I hate my dog. It was DH's dog with his ex and she is awful!! She digs the yard, craps in the house, and howls at night if we put her in the kitchen so she won't pee everywhere. Forgive me, but I can't wait for this dog to kick the bucket. Unfortunately, she is only 8.
I understand how you feel. I had one loss before this one. I didn't tell anyone until after 14 weeks. For those 14 weeks I wouldn't even talk about it much to my family or my husband. Didn't even start looking at books and magazines until after I heard the heartbeat. I feel guilty I lost all those weeks but I was afraid to be attached. I bought the "Belly Book" and literally JUST opened it a few weeks ago and finally started filling it out. I feel bad I didnt' fill it out right from the beginning but I was scared. Now I have to think back ..Most of my apptns have been marked down so it hasn't been that much of a stretch.
I'm praying for u!
((hugs)) I can't tell you enough how sad I am about this for you. I can't say I know exactly how you feel but I am very sorry. I was so paranoid during my last pregnancy I didn't feel a single bonding moment until he was born and even then I held my distance. It is a shame anyone has to feel that way, but you have a real reason.
I know it is trite, but have you ever seen the movie Waitress? I really equated my experience with hers (except the not wanting the baby thing). The first moment I held him the room was empty and it was just us, even though there were plenty of people there. It will happen for you, and hopefully soon.
I haven't experienced what you are going through, but I'm sure it's tough to bond with the baby growing inside you. Maybe once you make it past the point you lost your other ones, you will be able to start the emotional bond.
I might just have to watch this Waitress movie this weekend.
(P.S. Hello there, due date pal
)
I forgot we share a due date! It really might feel more real after the anatomy scan but I know that you probably won't breathe until that baby is in your arms, and there is nothing wrong with that.
Waitress is so beautiful and touching you will love it. I got it from Netflix so many times I finally bought it. (I have to add part of the sadness of it for Adrienne Shelly, the director...I will let you decide if you want to find out what happened to her though, she plays a waitress in the movie as well)
I am so tired of the "you can't do this, you can do that" bull. I work in retail so the other day I had a co-worker tell me I shouldn't be standing for more than an hour and that I can't lift the 5 lb. box off of the floor. I drink soda still, its the ONLY thing that helps my headaches. And I enjoy a nice tunafish sandwich with popcorn. If I can keep the food down, more power to eat it!! I know what is best for my body and I know what I can and cannot have.
And for the co-worker who told me that its impossible for me to feel the baby move at 15 weeks screw off. I know what I felt. It wasn't anything I have felt before and it happens around the same time everyday. If I wanted your freaking opinion I would have asked you for it. For the customer who told me I am faking this pregnancy because I still have a flat stomach, you are so damn lucky I didn't reach across the table and hit you.
My DH has decided that tomorrow night we are having a party at the house that will have plenty of drunks and I need to clean the house because he has duty tonight. I do all this all the time by myself, so since he wants the party he can clean the house too! He lives here too! Yes dear, its not like I don't have to work tonight until 11pm and get groceries. What will he be doing tomorrow?? Playing WOW on the computer for the 8 hours that I am at work!!!!!
Wow, didn't think it was that bad
Oh well. No hard feelings...
I haven't had losses like yours, but I did try for almost 2 years with a lot of heartache and I've had a high risk pregnancy, so I understand no being able to get excited like other pregnant women. I still feel like I'm walking on eggshells all the time.
I hope you're able to have a "moment" when things feel differently for you, but if not I know it will happen once the baby is here. I can't imagine what you're going through right now. ((hugs))
Here's mine:
--I have never weighed this much in my entire life, but I'm strangely pleased with the way my body looks pregnant.
--As a kid and teen, I swore again and again that when I had kids, I would be nothing like my own parents. Now, all I can think about is whether or not I can do as great of a job as my Mom and Dad did. Parents truly are amazing people
--When people realize I'm pregnant and mention "Better get hitched quick!" or "Oh, you're not married?!" etc, I want to punch said persons square in the face. No, I'm not married. Yes, it's a complicated situation. I have no desire to get married to anyone. I have a great support system, I am going to be a great mother, and I love my baby. I don't care if you're my brother/aunt/stranger, and I don't care if you "mean well." Keep your "But where is your ring?" comments/questions to yourself. Rude, much.
All the things they say, you should punch them or tell them where they can stick it! That's very rude of them! I got engaged 2 months before we got pregnant and everyone asked if we're moving the wedding up. (It's set for Sept 2012) I want to cut those people from the list!
And as for your support system! That rocks that you've got a great one! It always makes me smile when I see people with good support systems
If even one more person asks me when my guy and I are getting married now that I'm pregnant, I'm going to scream. Also, I am good and damn tired of the "oh but WHY?!" when I say, "eh, who knows. We're happy the way we are, why worry about it now?"
Also, yes, I'm huge. I'm obese to begin with and I don't even look at little tiny bit pregnant nor do I expect to for quite a while. Stop assuming, fine folks at the baby store, that because I don't look pregnant I am shopping for others. It's actually marginally insulting. Yes I AM 18w pregnant and will now reconsider whether I want to spend money at your establishment. No, I am also not "eating for two" but thanks for the implication! I barely eat enough for one because I'm just never hungry and when I am all I want are veggies. I'm sure I'll pass your feedback on to the endocrinologist about how I need to "make sure not to eat too much now!" since I'm pregnant
I dropped my 4 month old puppy off to get neutered this morning. I secretly hold a small grudge against my DH for making me be the "mean one" - I left the surgical center in tears and felt horribly guilty for leaving him there (he's a rescue dog, so I have this horrible feeling he thinks we're abandoning him, too).
At our NT scan, it looked like we are having a boy. Obviously it was too early to be 100% sure - although are we ever 100% sure? My DH and I are thrilled, but I still have this internal sense we are having a girl. I've had it since the day we got the BFP. I will not at all be disappointed if it is a boy, but I'm afraid I will never be able to shake this feeling regardless of what is determined at the anatomy scan. I catch myself looking at girl clothing, nursery decor, etc. So weird.
I think I'm still in a bit of pregnancy denial as well. We had an early loss in July, and I'm still afraid of getting too attached to the baby out of fear something will go wrong. Our nursery furniture got delivered this week and it seems so surreal to have a crib box in my house. When will it hit me?
I would seriously do that- It's a wonderful idea. If they live near you I would even extend it into a "come with me and let's pick and angel from the tree- you pick out the gifts for the kids on the tree and we'll wrap them, etc.". I know that might not go over well, but all you can hope for is that they look past themselves for a minute or two....