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Sigh. My mother thinks DH is "shaking" DD.

lovemymaddylovemymaddy
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This is almost even too ridiculous to write. When we were over at my mom and dad's house for Thanksgiving, it was nearing DD's bedtime and I was eating dessert so DH was holding her in the rocking chair that is in their living room so that I could eat. There were about 10 other people in the room and he was bouncing her on his knee "horsey" style. Nothing hard, just jiggling her and she was loving it! She was laughing/smiling up a storm and just giggling away, as was anyone else paying attention.

Sooooo....today I get an email from my mom saying that DH was playing too rough with her and that she's worried that it could be harming DD kind of like shaken baby syndrome.

WHAT???!!!!?????  How in the world do I respond to that? It's absolutely RIDICULOUS!!!!!

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Re: Sigh. My mother thinks DH is "shaking" DD.

  • tiffanylaw06tiffanylaw06

    We got this same talk. DH was tossing Dylan in the air (barely out of his hands), Dylan was laughing hysterically and everyone was having fun. We were told we were shaking our baby. So we just said, "oh, we'll make sure to not do it too hard." or something.

    We do the horsey thing all the time and no one said anything about that.

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  • MrsDCruzMrsDCruz member

    Oh wow, parents can be a real PITA.

    I posted a picture of Danny gnawing on a frozen block of cranberry sauce on Thanksgiving and my family went apeshit about it... seriously, it was all out WAR.

    *sigh*  

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  • LemonLime10LemonLime10
    Haha....that's great. If it were my mom I would just call her and be like "what are you talking about?!?!" 
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  • mchell9mchell9 member
    Honestly- I would say "Mom- I am not even entertaining that comment with a response.  Need I remind you that you are speaking about her FATHER."
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  • vera1127vera1127 member
    That's RIDICULOUS. People have no idea how hard you have to shake a baby in order for it to hurt them. I think you need to tell your mom that obviously she was okay and that you know what's best for your baby. I know this would p!ss my mom off to no end, but I wouldn't hesitate to say it if it was something so insane.
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  • vlewis515vlewis515 member
    For real?! My whole family does that with Jax now and he's younger than Maddy! Sounds like your mom is fishing for something to correct!
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  • JacquiemarkJacquiemark
    That's ridiculous! Amelia loves to be bounced around. Obviously you know what may be too rough for your child. 
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  • Vandy05Vandy05
    Just tell her she is being ridiculous... I mean did she never bounce you as a child. Laughing and giggling= fine baby.
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  • darkskyydarkskyy member

    Ack! Send her some details about shaken baby syndrome so she can see how extreme it is, and that it can't happen from just playing!

    My dad freaks out everything he sees DS in his swing - he thinks the rocking is bad for his brain.  I think the late night screaming is bad for MY brain, and that LO is VERY content in his swing.

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