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Follow up appt. question

tew213tew213 member
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Hi Ladies. I don't know if I am in a unique situation or if this is common, but its driving me crazy!

My m/c story: I was told on 11/15 that I was miscarrying (I had already been spotting for 1-2 weeks turning into red blood). Wasn't really given any 'options', guess it was assumed I would m/c naturally. Well on 11/18 I had horrible cramps and lots clotting. On 11/19 I passed the sac. I talked to the dr's nurse several times but was not really told anything. I had bloodwork checked 3 times (went from 9000 to 5000 to 350 last week). At this point they do not want anymore bloodwork.  Now I have a follow up appt on 12/21 - over a month after. I am concerned if I passed everything, what my body should be doing, when I can have sex again, etc. When I asked the nurse this, she said all things the dr will discuss with me on 12/21. Is it normal to wait this long to even see/talk to the doctor? Most the information I have been getting about my m/c is from you ladies! I don't know what I am really expecting/wanting - I just want piece of mind that my body is healing and doing everything it should. Just frustrating, thanks for the vent!

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  • lkfdplkfdp
    I am very new to this, but I was at my OBGYN yesterday to schedule a D&C for today which I ended up not having because I passed it last night.  But at our appointment yesterday she said to not to anything strenuous and no exercise for 7-10 days.  She said we can have sex again in two weeks.  I do not have a follow-up visit scheduled, but I am doing blood work once a week, starting next week for a month.  She said if my levels are low enough, that means that everything is gone, therefore she wouldn't need me to come in to the office.  I hope I answered a few of your questions.
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  • LisaBVHLisaBVH
    So sorry for your loss. It seems a little too long for you to wait. I didn't have to go through an actual miscarriage, I had a D&C 3 wks ago and my doctor wanted to see me the next week to make sure everything was going ok. I work in the medical field and understand that doctors are busy but it seems a little extreme that your dr wants to wait so long to check you. I know it's hard to get in touch with drs but maybe if you keep calling, your dr will finally call you back, or, just make an appt to talk to your dr.
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  • lotus88lotus88 member
    From this one experience I've had, my doctor's office has been all over me. I understand that they put off the D&C, but mine had already planned that if I passed anything (or not) over Thanksgiving vaca I was coming back on Monday for an ultrasound. That was to check to see if all was out or where it stood (it stood exactly the same - hence the d&c this monday). I'd press more. You should get all your questions answered.
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  • Snowbride02Snowbride02
    My doctor was pretty hands off too. I started spotting on a Monday night. I made an appointment Tuesday morning. They told me my baby no longer had a heartbeat and had been gone for about 2 weeks. They said my body was finally starting to catch on. He explained my options of miscarrying naturally or having a d&c. I was in shock so he said he'd call me the next day to find out what I wanted to do. The next day I started bleeding, cramping and passing tissue. I went thurs morning for an ultrasound. The sac was still inside so we scheduled a d&c for Friday. I called back late thurs to cancel the d&c because I had passed more tissue/clots and didn't think I'd need the surgery. I went the following Wednesday for an ultrasound. Everything was out by that point. They drew blood that day but I was never told my #s. I got a follow up call from the nurse saying everything was out and to take a hpt in 2 weeks and to call back if it wasn't negative. She also said to wait one cycle before TTC. I never saw my doctor for a follow up. No one told me how long to wait to have sex or limit exercise or how long the bleeding would last or when to expect my first period. I was frustrated with the lack of information and communication from my doctor. I feel like this was a routine thing that happened as it should naturally so my doctor wasn't concerned. I could have used more support though.
    Lucy 12.18.06, Will 6.21.09 & Adeline 11.2.11
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