Community› The Bump Message Boards› Babies: 3 - 6 Months
Babies: 3 - 6 Months
New Discussion

Anyone else's DH scare them?

ebmartinebmartin
in Babies: 3 - 6 Months
I love DH and he is good with DD, but sometimes he scares me.  Yesterday he wanted to put DD in her bouncer on the kitchen counter.  Umm...NO!  Putting her on an elevated surface in a bounce, bumbo, carseat or whatever is dangerous!  Then, when I was clearing the dinner table, he gave her tummy time...on the counter! Scary!  He's standing right there the whole time but I immediately pick her up and tell her that it's dangerous, he just tells me to chill out.  He is very loving, but not as observant and cautious as me.  Then he says "I'm not the one who's hurt her" (the bottle of shampoo slipped out of my hand and hit her on the head a few weeks ago), which irritates me.  Anyone else have a DH who is very loving, just very risky?
Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
Report Reply to Post

Re: Anyone else's DH scare them?

  • snansleysnansley

    Did you refer him to the post about the skull fracture?

    I would talk to him about how he would feel if something did happen.  Sure he thinks he is close enough to react in time, but what if he didn't?  He would feel awful.  There are so many ways our kids are going to get hurt (its inevitable) that I try to minimize what I can.

    Also, I would put a moratorium on mentioning the shampoo incident.  It's probably too fresh for you still to even joke about.  DH and I have had some of those conversations and he didn't realize how much he upset me by bringing things up over and over again in jest.   

    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • VABride2008VABride2008 member
    If he is standing right there, I don't see the big deal.  Now if he is putting her in the bumbo and then walking away or not paying attention to her then that's a big problem. 
    DSC_2211


    BabyFetus Ticker
    Report Reply
  • mopsiemopsie member
    If he's standing right there, I don't think there's a problem.  As long as he knows better than to leave her alone on the counter!
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • JoBieger05JoBieger05

    imagemopsie:
    If he's standing right there, I don't think there's a problem.  As long as he knows better than to leave her alone on the counter!

    This!

    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • Laura_LeeLaura_Lee
    My hubby is definitely lacking in the common sense department sometimes.  He doesn't argue with me when I point out a hazard though, he definitely gets that we need to be careful, but sometimes he just doesn't realize how strong our kiddo is getting.  (i.e. leaving him on the bed so he can quick grab a diaper, forgetting that our son is strong enough to roll right off the edge).  I think he's mostly still accustomed to our little boy being non-mobile, and forgets that we have to be more careful now that he's a roller. 
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
  • jlhebbjlhebb

    imagemopsie:
    If he's standing right there, I don't think there's a problem.  As long as he knows better than to leave her alone on the counter!

    This, but my DH has done the walk away thing too and I've had to say something to him.  He also isn't in baby mode when his older kids are around.  Prime example was DSS playing with DD using a little lego thingy under DH's watch.  When I walked into the room, I had to remind him and DH that the parts were too small to be within DD's reach for fear of a choking hazard. 

    Report Reply
  • Tippy05Tippy05 member

    imageLaura_Lee:
    My hubby is definitely lacking in the common sense department sometimes.  He doesn't argue with me when I point out a hazard though, he definitely gets that we need to be careful, but sometimes he just doesn't realize how strong our kiddo is getting.  (i.e. leaving him on the bed so he can quick grab a diaper, forgetting that our son is strong enough to roll right off the edge).  I think he's mostly still accustomed to our little boy being non-mobile, and forgets that we have to be more careful now that he's a roller. 

    This! I flipped out at DH this weekend for putting DS in his carseat on the couch then getting caught up on what was on TV.  He was only there for a short time, but when I walked in the room and saw it I just about lost it.  Then yesterday he was sitting with DS and noticed how he was trying to pull himself up (like a crunch, almost - trying to go from lying down to sitting up).  He mentioned how strong he was getting and how impressed he was.  I then reminded him that's EXACTLY why we shouldn't leave DS alone, even for a second.  He IS getting stronger!

    Report Reply
  • erincon8erincon8
    This is completely us!!  DH thinks that he can put DD on the couch and then walk 10 feet away to get a diaper.  He says he is "right there so nothing can happen" but I told him about the skull fracture story last night.  I am hoping that story sticks in his head.
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Pregnancy Ticker
    Report Reply
  • julybaby23julybaby23
    imageTippy05:

    imageLaura_Lee:
    My hubby is definitely lacking in the common sense department sometimes.  He doesn't argue with me when I point out a hazard though, he definitely gets that we need to be careful, but sometimes he just doesn't realize how strong our kiddo is getting.  (i.e. leaving him on the bed so he can quick grab a diaper, forgetting that our son is strong enough to roll right off the edge).  I think he's mostly still accustomed to our little boy being non-mobile, and forgets that we have to be more careful now that he's a roller. 

    This! I flipped out at DH this weekend for putting DS in his carseat on the couch then getting caught up on what was on TV.  He was only there for a short time, but when I walked in the room and saw it I just about lost it.  Then yesterday he was sitting with DS and noticed how he was trying to pull himself up (like a crunch, almost - trying to go from lying down to sitting up).  He mentioned how strong he was getting and how impressed he was.  I then reminded him that's EXACTLY why we shouldn't leave DS alone, even for a second.  He IS getting stronger!

    I agree with the above poster that I try to point stuff out -- that LO is getting stronger, look at what he's doing now. Use it as a teaching opportunity. Is DH trying to 'test' you to get a reaction? Yes, my H scares me sometimes but he would also not put LO up on the counter. He would leave him on the floor and 'be right back' but I keep trying to hammer home how big/strong/ he is getting and how you have to watch him every minute. Usually I do it in the sense of "I was changing LO's diaper today and he almost rolled off the table. It's a good thing I was holding him" or something like that. Also, bringing up the shampoo incident is not fair to you.

    I'm tackling choking hazzards next. DH gets the rolling/heights danger but leaves stuff like bottle caps and receipts lying around. Good luck!

    Report Reply
  • silkyhorsesilkyhorse
    I remind myself that this is why kids have a mom AND a dad!  We balance each other out.
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
  • JaimieLeeJaimieLee

    Gosh, you would be terrified by me then! I put C in her bumbo on the kitchen counter almost every night while I make dinner.  Then I move her to the dining room table while we eat.  Sometimes I even put her in her bouncy chair on the couch next to me while we watch tv. Once my LO is strong enough to hurl herself off a couch while strapped into a chair, I will obviously adjust.  But for now....she's just fine.Big Smile

    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • Tassie06Tassie06 member

    I'll start off by saying that DH is a great dad. but he is also lacking in the common sense department.  He thinks that 7:30pm is a great time to wind up DS. only to be followed by a later bed time and just before that bed time, has a meltdown.  DS never has a crying fit before bed, only on days where daddy over stimulates him.. oh, and DH doesn't think "over stimulation" is a thing.....WTF????

    [IMG]http://i40.tinypic.com/zb9g5.jpg[/IMG]

    Report Reply
  • Luigi1Luigi1
    I put LO in her Bumbo on the counter alllll the time when I'm doing dishes.  Call Child Protective Services!
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"